I am very close to my brother and I think he is about to propose to his girlfriend. I asked him if he was going to and he said "maybe." I am not going to ask him again, but I was just wondering if it's customary to tell your family before or after you propose? I was thinking it might be fun to help him pick out the ring because, well, I'm a girl and I like looking at engagement rings. I don't want to be nosy, though.
2007-12-07 01:26:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband kept it very secret. I mean he asked my dad for my hand, so my dad knew it was coming. He mentioned it to his dad. But no one else in the family knew and besides, after that it took him months to find the right ring. He searched nearly the entire east coast. On business trips, he even looked every place he traveled (like near LA).
Of course your brother might mean "maybe" and you are jumping the gun. Maybe he hasn't started ring shopping or anything. Many guys today don't do the surprise thing and take the fiancee to do ring shopping. If he doesn't usually buy her jewelry and really doesn't know her style, that's the best idea. He might be the laid back type that plans to just ask her, nothing special required. I see on here a lot of people proposed when just sitting in the living room, or outside on a walk.
I think it's nice of you to mention it, and I might tell him "If you want some support, I'd love to go ring shopping with you--to give you the female perspective". But it is up to him if he feels he even needs or wants your opinion. I know my sister's opinion wouldn't have helped my husband--she likes big and gawdy.
You know you can just wander in and look at engagement rings yourself. When one of my friends was in a serious relationship and thought it would happen soon, we all went along to browse. It's fun. You don't need a reason.
2007-12-07 01:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people will talk with close family members before, but no it is not customary or traditional to do so.
Most people now days will propose and then arrange for the jewelry store to show the engaged couple rings in their price bracket and the woman will choose her own ring from that group.
2007-12-07 03:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its up to the one doing the propose. Some want to surprise his family. Some do some dont if he wants it to be more personal he wont and he just wants to pick out the ring he think she will love not his sisters influence on it. But dont worry if he does youll be there along the way helping plan it.
2007-12-07 01:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by brenpren07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance told my family and all of our friends but didn't mention it to his family at all. He was so excited he was trying to get a local radio station involved. Everybody did a fantastic job of not telling me anything. I was completely surprised when he did propose. I guess it just depends on the person and what they feel is the right time to tell the family.
2007-12-07 07:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance told his parents and showed them the ring before he proposed. My brother told us when he bought the ring. I'm sure not all guys do this though.
2007-12-07 01:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance told his Mom and of coarse asked my Dad. Other than that nobody knew. If I was a guy I don't think I would tell anyone else other than those who really need to know in fear that someone would slip and say something beforehand.
2007-12-07 06:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am usually against this but: trick him. Tell him one of the most romantic ways to propose is to bring his girlfriend a dozen roses. In eleven roses write down one thing he likes/loves about her. In the twelve rose, have the ring. What for his reply. By face expression or by voice you will see.
But on the reverse side, are you close to his girlfriend? He might think she is setting you up to see.
2007-12-07 02:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My fiance asked my parents and told his parents before he proposed who then told his entire family. RAndom pamily members that don't usually call were calling him before he had even done it! I should have caught on by that point, but I didn't.
2007-12-07 03:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband told his parents and 3 sisters before he asked me to marry him. Maybe he thinks you might slip and tell his girlfriend (even though I'm sure you wouldn't) but he might think that way.
2007-12-07 01:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. It is part of the 'bonding'. I wouldn't tell the family until after the fact! Sorry! ;-)=
2007-12-07 01:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋