Women...where is your self respect?!?!?

Question

Last night i took a job bartending.
Employees came in got smashed...climbed on the bar and simulated having sex with each other while men watched and took pictures?!?! Screaming and calling each other bit**es and ni**a's. Ewww...

They left the bar a mess and the owners watched and participated!!

I am not a prude and love a fun night out ( dancing and drinking) ...but where is the line? Why do women seek this kind of attention. I get called "stuck up" when i object to this behavior. Why?!?!

Women ...how can we move past this ?

Last night was my first and last night!!

Answer 1

I think people in general just don't have self respect. I love to hang out and have fun, but I now where to draw the line and when to stop. Women just don't get it these days doing all the mess they do and then they turn around want to know why the guys are cheating on them.

Get a clue women: it is not about sitting home collecting a check, not raising your kids, partying, laying on your back and disrespecting yourself. And truth be told, mean are not stupid; they just love them a stupid women that is going to sit home collecting a check, not raising her kids (b/c they aren't his so why should he care), partying with her freaked out friends that he can sleep with while his girl is passed out, laying on her back when he requests and disrespecting yourself so that everything he does doesn't look as bad as it is b/c he doesn't say anything to you when you do it.

I know it is sad but truth hurts.

Ladies we need to wake up and get a clue. GET A JOB, TAKE A COURSE OR TWO, GET AND DISPLAY SOME CLASS AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE KIDS YOU PUT ON THIS EARTH (THEY ARE OUR FUTURE LEADERS OF TOMORROW) THEY NEED YOU - RAISE THEM BETTER THAN WHAT YOU WERE RAISED AND HELP TURN OUR WORLD IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION.

Answer 2

Self respect, as distinct from ego, can indeed be one of the very positive features of an individual's life..... however, here is a counterview as some food for thought....... Self respect, just like love, can often be hurt to produce pain or ill feeling, although not as harmful as in the case of hurt ego. If Happiness is the ultimate goal, self respect can only produce achievements and satisfaction..... for true happiness, even self respect can become a hurdle since it would make us a bit weaker to be able to take failures in our stride.

Answer 3

I really hate that so many people on here said "there's nothing we can do". Sure there's something you can do. When you see this type of thing going on, get up and leave. Refuse to patronize places that allow this sort of thing. Quit buying magazines and books that hype celebrity "booty" and quit watching the lewd trash that's on the tube these days.

No market, no profit, that's what seems to make a difference these days.

Sweetie, you know what you are talking about and obviously have the self respect these women lack. You're not "stuck up", you're mature and intelligent and need a new job elsewhere. If I had a place, I'd hire you. Good luck. Remember this and teach your children better ideals.

Answer 4

It seems like that's the thing to do for the younger crowd these days. My husband & I are in our 40's and definitely not prudish, but whenever we go out to clubs for a couple of drinks & dancing, there are always girls in their 20's kissing each other & (for lack of a better phrase) "humping each other". It drives us crazy, too. They assume that everyone likes girl-on-girl action & they're being cute. Neither me or my husband are turned on by it. We even fast-forward through those scenes when we watch porn. I guess some people will just do anything for attention.

Answer 5

I have been a bartender before and there were some drunk people having fun, but your situation sounds extreme. The owner of the bar where I worked would not allow climbing on the bar or any rowdiness for fear someone would get hurt since they were drunk.He was afraid of lawsuits. I would definitely find a better environment to work in.

Answer 6

I know this sucks but I don't think there's anything we can do about it. Some women just feel like they need that attention which is stupid because it just makes them look like a hoe then a woman a man would actually want to introduce to his parents. I cant believe your bosses just let that happen they obviously have no respect for women and there selves. Well good look on the job hunt!

Answer 7

I personally consider such activities to be incredibly trashy, but I certainly have no complaints about the fact that they occur. Rather, I know that there are plenty of guys out there who share my sentiments, and the world is handily breaking the population up for me. If they say I'm "stuck-up", I wouldn't have liked them anyway; if instead they say I'm "classy", then we have some common ground.
The simple fact is that there will likely always be an uncouth majority in society - instead of chafing at that fact, use it to your advantage.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say, but we do have a few people out there that just don't respect themselves. They need to be reminded that they are human beings and no matter what may have happened to them in the past to bring this type of behavior out...They still deserve to be treated with respect. These type of women give the rest of us a bad name and image. They don't know what they are doing.
I understand your commitment to who you are and your choice to leave this place of employment, but it's sad that you have to do so. We always seem to be running from things in life...Find something better. It's not your fault that they have such low self-esteem and feel they have to act like fools just to get attention.
Good luck finding a new job. I hope you get what you want out of life and are happy with your choices. You sound like a women with a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 9

Dump that job. If that would ever happen where I worked I would have definitely dropped a bomb there (figure of speech, of course)

If they call you stuck up, they'd call me an arrogant little snob for certain. I can't imagine looking at this kind of behaviour and agreeing with it, and you're right to not agree with it either. They seem to have no self respect whatsoever, at least you do. So quit the job and find a more decent job...

Answer 10

Unfortunately, I believe that there will always be women like that. And because of that, we will always be pulled down to their level.

I too get called "uptight" or "stuck up" when I think it's disgusting at behavior like that. I hate it when two girls make out with eachother only for attention from men.

But the only thing that keeps me going is that I know that if those women and those men were to have to spend the rest of their lives together, they would be miserable because neither of them have any substantial attribute to offer in a relationship, or even a friendship. Not if you don't have any self-respect.

They will keep the attention on their actions and themselves because they are afraid for people to notice who they really are.