This is an arranged marriage.
2007-12-07 00:49:33 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm a lady.
2007-12-07 00:58:14 · update #1
Hey Aparna,
Don't ask these questions here ...bcoz most people that are using yahoo answers are non Indians ,so they don't know about our culture.
just speak with him later things will continue.........
2007-12-07 01:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by NV 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your marriage!
I would recommend doing something fun where you can get to know each other, like go play miniature golf or go bowling. Treat it like a date.
If that's not possible, have a light dinner and maybe drink a little wine to loosen up and have some conversation.
He will be wanting to have sex since you are now married, and if you like that idea, then go for it! Just follow along, you don't need to "know what to do", I'm sure he'll help you figure it out!
Good luck! Oh, and btw, you probably already know this, but assuming you are a virgin the first time will probably hurt and not be any fun. But it gets MUCH better after that, I promise!
2007-12-07 01:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by Shana B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem either way to be honest i think in this day and age is a personal choice or perhaps a choice made by what religion you are. I don't see anything wrong with sex before marriage as long they are two consenting adults. The only problem i do have is when you hear people having sex under age. This is how they end up pregnant as they are not emotionally mature enough and do not have any life experience.Teenage pregnancies is children having children.......But between two adults its not a problem. On the other side of the coin i have answered numerous questions where people have been ashamed as they have still been virgins. I have said to them it is something to be proud of.
2016-03-15 08:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Alice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a lady. arranged marriage. that would mean u dont know the guy.
so what you could do is try to get to know him.. talk to him... dont encourage any sexual advances unless you are willing, and make him understand that in a nice way without hurting his feelings either..
you both could maybe play something to break the ice or else u could start talking bout ur chldhood and some funny things abt that.. but talking is not going to be too easy i guess on the first night of marriage to a guy u dont know..
if all else fails, the only thing left to do is cry. thats a girl' best option! then try to make him understand that u wanna gt to know him more before taking the relationship to a physical level...
have a happy married life dear...
2007-12-08 01:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Luckily Bewitched 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This marriage is common between two friend or family which they have ready plan to give their daughter or son to each other so that their family name will not perish. If you do not have feelings and love for this person. You do not have to committee yourself to this person because your family want the two of you to marriage, just follow what your heart tell you to do. Just try to discuss what both of you want first before doing something wrong. Good luck.
2007-12-07 01:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dgold 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Darling, there are many things you should ask the elders of your family - two of the most important are the physical aspect of your new spouse - and how to learn to love your new spouse (I take it you are relative strangers).
One thing - Never be afraid to ask your elders for advice. They were once in your shoes - and have learned lessons you have yet to even imagine - So do ask your elders.
If you are a woman, I would suggest you ask your grandmother and women of her generation. If you are a man - ask your grandfather and the men of his generation
Now, not every marriage is a happy one so ask those who are not happy with their marriages what they would have done differntly when they were your age - so you and your new spouse can avoid their mis-steps.
And ask those who are happily married for many years - what things they did to ensure their happiness - so you and your new spouse can follow in their footsteps.
One thing that can help a marriage remain happy and young - even into your twilight years - is great faith. You and your new spouse should also ask your spiritual leaders about what makes a happy marriage - physically and spiritually.
I'm sorry that this may not be a direct answer to your question - but I hope you find my suggestions helpful.
2007-12-07 01:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Use that night to try and get to know each other. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Take things easy and the consummation will come later!! You got the rest of your lives, right! My hubby and I actually were too tired to do anything our first night...lol we watched a little football, but I fell asleep like right after kickoff!
2007-12-07 01:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just relax
Be submissive
Just do what he wants
Be calm
Be cool
Be composed
If you are not comfortable just tell him to continue the first night thing the second night or so.
2007-12-10 05:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easy answer would be to have sex, but really more detail would be good. You say it's arranged, but do you know her. How well do you know her? Why is the marriage arranged? These details would make the question easier to answer.
2007-12-07 00:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dashy 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Do you know the person you're going to marry? I really don't know much about your customs, but I would think that you would want to get to know the person a little before you moved on to a physical relationship. However, I think this is something you should be talking with your parents about.
Good luck.
2007-12-07 00:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by K. F 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since it is an arrange marriage, make sure you don't do anything you don't want to do. I would advise...try to get your partner more and you will see yourself how it will go.....i am sure you will come up with something not too boring
2007-12-07 08:32:20 · answer #11 · answered by Alex 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋