How old should I be before attempting to have a child?

Question

I am 19 now is that a good age?

Anastasia G I am a guy.

Answer 1

Just didn't include at first you were a guy..Are you asking the question to justify convincing the girl you got pregnant to have an abortion?
IF...that's the reason..only reason why a guy would be posting a question like this on a forum...If you got her pregnant..IF..that's the reason why you're asking the question isn't the easy way out...You'll still have blood on your hands...Suck it up...you made your bed now lay in it!

However, if you think it would be cool to have a baby and you think it would make you a man...You're so wrong!
You haven't even experienced life or found out who you are. You're still young leaking milk behind the ears. Think about establishing yourself, education, and getting a good job to take care of yourself and the child. Most importantly get married...I'm not saying get married today and have him get your pregnant tomorrow.

Having a child is a lot of work and takes a lot of preparation. I believe it's better to try preparing, although....you will not cover everything, it's impossible. But it helps to have yourself together financially & to think about your future. Learn who you are and what you want beside a baby to love or the idea of needing you.

My husband and I have 4 kids, we live a pretty good life. The kids don't want for anything. Being a 2 parent household is still hard.

I would recommend some counseling and get a puppy!

Remember: If you have a baby now...it's pretty much over...Your world will revolve around the baby. BECAUSE that baby should be your first priority...No! if in's and but...It's no longer about YOU...

Answer 2

While many will tell you 19 is too young I strongly disagree.

My mother was 19 when she had me, and she is an incredible woman, my finacee's mother was 18 when she had him and she is also a great mother. Here I am (unplanned) but continuing to carry on our mother's legacies. I am 19 years old, engaged, I have my own apartment, my own car, I work at a great job for a large and well known corporation, as well as I support myself and my animals.

I think age doesn't have a whole lot to do with it. I personally feel that it is maturity. I will admit sometimes I miss going out and doing the things that the rest of my peers are doing, but I have never missed it enough to regret getting pregnant or wish that I wasn't. I am at a different chapter in life now and I am not only okay with that but I am thrilled!

My only suggestion as to when you should attempt to have a child is when you are with a man you love and trust! My fiancee and I have been engaged a year yesterday and he is my best friend! Wait until you find that special someone, even if you don't realize the time is right, God doesn't make mistakes sometimes he makes miracles out of your own stupidity (we didn't wrap it up lol).

Good luck in whatever you choose for your future!

Answer 3

Hi!
I suggest that you finish school. When you get a job and make your life, it is the best time. Around 20-25 in the USA, in Europe about 22-25.
You should be younger than 30.This is my opinion, because it is very easy to contract an illness that would block your pregnancy "alarm" and would spoil your plans for having a baby. It sounds impossible,I know, but my mother contracted such an illness and she could have lost her ability in pregnancy, but it was a miracle and she didn't.I was a lot of times in the hospital where she was cured and you cannot imagine how many young ladies were in with this type of illnesses, women around 28-30! So young! They would live, but could not have children.And my mother thinks that she was so lucky for having done kids and had her illness in 39 and not earlier, thanks God!
Out of the point, sorry.
Anyway, this is what I suggest, around 25. And you seem to want it a lot right? You are too young now! ;)

Answer 4

In my opinion there is no proper or good age to breed. if you Wait you will be waiting for eternity.
thats like asking when is it a good time to travel you just MUST jump into it to see if its right for you. dont mean to compare those but its the closest I can come to it.
I think 19 is good, and as for the fact that you are ASKING such a good question about it, you seem like you are more than ready, get it? questioning before hand shows intellegence and forsight which is great in being a parent, along with offering and supplying the child with security, love, warmth and all else needed.
just remember, YOU MUST AND WILL HAVE TO "KNOW" THE MOTHER AND HER FAMILY FOR LONGER THAN THE 18 YEARS SO STATED BY JOKES AND OTHERS.
take care and I think you will do well, many have become parents at earlier ages and later ages, IT'S ALL IN YOU!

Answer 5

Parenting ability has almost nothing to do with age.

To be the best parent you can be, though, you should try to wait until you've had enough life experience to have truly formed a value system that you are content with & comfortable enough living in that you would be able to calmly & coherently teach it to your child.

You should be at a point in your life where you feel strong and ready to give of yourself - where you are not needy - where you are ready to quite happily *not* be the center of attention or to need approval from anyone.

You should be at a place where you derive joy from doing a job well, whether anyone else notices & appreciates it or not.

That's when you should start attempting to have a child.

Answer 6

It really depends on how mature you are, and if you are in a stable relationship. I'm 19 also, my fiance and I have been living together since we were 17 and have our own place together. We've been together for almost 3 years and plan on getting married in 2009. We both have very good paying jobs with dental and medical insurance, and money saved up. We are both very responsible for our age; we don't party, drink, or pretty much do anything. All we do is spend time with eachother and hang out with my family or his in our spare time. We can't wait to have children one day in the future, but we are waiting to finish comm. college first. So, like I was saying.. just as long as you are mature, responsible and ready to care for not only yourself, but a child as well.. then you sound like you might be ready. Good luck with whatever you decide :)

Answer 7

age isn't as important as being stable and able to raise a child. 19 i would think is a little too young. before a person has a child, it would be best, in my opinion, if they have finished any college or training and have started their careers. it seems very difficult and stressful to try to pursue your career goals while raising a child. you don't want to have to depend on family or others to take care of your child. but if you think you can't wait, at least make sure the woman that you decide to have the child with is the right one.

Answer 8

I had my first one two months before my 19th birthday. Definitely would have waited until 24-25 to plan for one if I could have planned. I lost a lot of friends,and missed out on the college experience because I had to work two jobs and so did my husband in order to support our family because we were inexperienced and uneducated we had to work twice as hard because we had lower-paying jobs.

Consider the responsibility before planning a baby. Your life will never be the same. It sounds fun and neat in theory, but the reality is that parenthood can be very difficult, and without a bit of stability in your life, things will be exponentially more challenging as a young parent.

I urge you to consider this carefully, but do not let someone tell you what to do - ultimately it's your decision.

Answer 9

It is very important that you wait until you have experienced a few years of adulthood first. You should think of your 20's as your "Me Period". That's when you figure out a little about who you are. You want to have life lessons you can share with your kids.
But at 19, you need to go out and meet people and do things first.
waited until I was 34 and that might have been later then I should have. Probably 25 - 30 would have been better for me.

Answer 10

finish college first, experience the world, travel, make sure you can finicially support a child before even considering having one. Once you have a child, all your hopes and dreams tht you have wanted to accomplish before a certain age will be put on hold until they are at least 18 yrs of age.

I waited until I was 29 and that was the perfect age for me.