My boyfriend of 1 & 1/2 years suddenly told me that he just wants us to be "friends" for now because he wants to work on his attitude problems. He told me that he felt really awful that he treated me like crap and that's the reason why he wants us to be just friends. He told me that he wants us to go back from the beginning, you know the dating stage. But I don't know if he really wants to or just he's doing it because he doesn't want me to go. The thing is he told me that he wants to hang out with a girl as a friend without worrying that I'm going to get mad because I'm his girlfriend. He told me that he can't hang out with his girl friends if he's in a relationship. I told him I would be fine with it, but those girl he wants to hang out with I should meet them right? I said to him, "so what you want is to see other girls while I wait here for you?!" And he told me no I'm the only girl he wants to date, but he said he wants to enjoy his youth. don't know what to do please help
2007-12-07 00:20:52 · 10 answers · asked by Alessandra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 24 & he's 23. We bought a house together less than a year ago.
2007-12-07 00:21:16 · update #1
thats pretty lame. if you guys have already bought a house together, he should of thought of his youth. if he made these big moves with you he shouldnt be saying this stuff. you guys were apparently planning on spending the rest of your lives togetherr if you bought a house together. once you do that you can forget about your youth. he should be happy with what you guys have now. because it seems tyo me like he was to EXPLORE HIS OPTIONS while your home waiting on him. he needs a serious reality check
2007-12-07 00:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by DeZy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is a common thing for couples and i mean on both sides of the relationship. i am married now and happy for seven years now. my wife and i had a similar problem and although i did not understand at the time why she left when we got back together four months later i understood. commitment is a big scary step and it can run u in the ground. its sounds like you two made the wrong commitment first. buying a house doesn't say we were made for each other. i don't know if this helps or not but hope it works out.
2007-12-07 08:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by big-tdl81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds strange...
you got two options, both need a clarifying talk.
ask him why he feels so bad when meeting female friends when you are not jealous at that?
the other thing is, if he wants to be just friends, then ask him if he's at all interested in your shared future?
if he isn't, you should sell the house, share the money (or each of you take his/her part of the money spent on it), and drop him. I know that hurts, but if he's not willing to share his life with you, he'll only hurt you more and more and again and again - you don't need that, believe me.
good luck.
2007-12-07 08:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nova 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying like this:
let the bird free
if it's yours it will come back to you , if it doesn;t it was never yours.
if you try to stop him he will try to set himself free from you.
so let him do his thing.
act friendly, let him see what is missing out on, under any circumstance do not show him that you are still hot for him, try acting a little git indifferent and he will crave to have your attention back - if he does not, you guys might be in deeper trouble. Don't expect to see it right away, and don't let your feelings be too obvious. Try not to be gealouse, that certainly ruins it. And hang out and have your fun - try to keep yourself occupied and happy, you will now have the chance to do all the things that you did not have time for before; and he will have to understand it.
2007-12-07 08:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Raluca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to date other people. He should have known all this before buying a house. I hope you have your back side covered with the house, you might end up paying and he gets half. You need to tell him bye and start a new life, unless you want to raise him.
2007-12-07 08:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old fable.....
There was once a princess, who had a pet rabbit. She loved the rabbit so much she held it tightly to her, all the time.
When she wasn't with the rabbit, she shut it in a cage. One day the rabbit got out and ran away, never to return.
The king bought her a new rabbit. This one she allowed its freedom and it stayed close to her forever.....because it wanted too, not because it had too.........
I hope this helps. It did me.
2007-12-07 08:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by Zeb G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you , let him go and mix with his friends, i assure you he will be back in a month ,the relationship that you have described , wanting you to love him, both of you may be too young for a such a relationship,
2007-12-07 08:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by lenihancornelius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants some space. I think it is wise to give him what he wants. And give yourself time too to search yourself and enjoy your own life. This is refreshing if you keep your mind open to this opportunity.
2007-12-07 08:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rhythm of the Falling Rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
face it,,,hes a player and using you to live off of
2007-12-07 08:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by mikeishere19542000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no clue
me and my gf are fine
2007-12-07 08:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by dadasayyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋