HELP! o:
2007-12-07 00:01:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
seems like you are fully aware of the problem already. good for you to acknowledge this problem.
i first have to point out that i personally never spank or hit my kids of a form of discipline. that being said, i also know that many parents do and feel it is their right. i cannot agree or disagree with their philosophy on parenting, it is a personal choice....i can only comment on the affects of spanking or hitting. hitting makes a hitter.....spanking embarrasses a child. both hurt physically and emotionally. there are also two kinds of spanking/hitting. there is the controlled kind where you are calm and give you child a tap on the bum and a few words about the behavior, there is also the kind where the parent snaps and hits out of anger. i do not know which one your husband is using....but if he is in control while he is disciplining, i wouldn't be immediately concerned.
i think time out is great. has worked great for me personally and professionally.
you are both being consistent with what you each do to discipline you are just not consistent as parents and should discuss together what your strategy will be together.
good luck with this, i hope that you and your husband can decide on what strategy works best for you. it sounds like you are fully aware of the problem is and maybe by discussing it your husband will give time out a chance.
2007-12-07 00:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mary May 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, this is when you guys HAVE to come together as the parental team.
does one form work better than the other with your kids? if so, then use it.
if they both work, but it's still creating confusion, then simply create a scenario for each punishment. little things like, back talk or touching breakables might get a time out, but hitting a sibling gets a spanking.
bottom line, if it's creating confusion, then you two need to get on the same page. pronto. it's time you COMPROMISE!!!
p.s.
growing up in my house sounds like yours. mom punished one way and dad punished another. frankly, it wasn't a big deal at all. we knew that we didn't like ANY punishments so we behaved.
i really don't think it matters HOW you punish your kids, as long as the punishment fits the crime and the child understands what they did and not to do it again.
take care:)
2007-12-07 08:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HOnestly if both of you are consistent in what you each do, even if its slightly different, the kids will still conform. My parents had different styles, and all of us kids were still perfectly well behaved because we always knew exactly what we'd get from each.
Or, you can have a talk together and stick with the one that works best.
2007-12-07 08:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell the father not to smack a kid. You spank a kid. And I think that you should have the type of parents where the mother is not so hard but when the father steps in you know it means business.
2007-12-07 09:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all smacks do is teaches the kids to smack mum and dad...get the dad to watch super nanny, sa she teaches time out
2007-12-07 09:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by loopy_elmo69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swap your kids for some good ones
2007-12-07 11:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by toon l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That' when you pack your bags and leave home. "leaving home life was never good to me"- jebadia
2007-12-07 17:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋