My stepson is 22 years old and he is using "cat" and heroin & he is influencing my own youngest son of 17 years old. We tried to put the eldest into rehab but he won't go at all!!
2007-12-06 23:56:23 · 9 answers · asked by Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your 17 year old is still your responsibility, and you need to protect him. your stepson is a legal grown up. if he won't go to rehab and get clean, then he should be shown the door. Talk to his father about this. You can't lose your son and possibly your home to your stepsons selfishness.
2007-12-07 00:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Outta Control 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he won't go. There is no easy answer here. Drugs will destroy him and his environment. You have a moral obligation to protect your children. Your 17 year old is your first priority. Your 22 year old must want to get off drugs before it will happen. Stop pleading and counciling efforts because that keeps everyone in harms way in the process. He needs to be arrested and then follow the mandatory rehab process and not while living in your home. It's probably not what you want to hear but it's the right thing to do. My oldest brother had a drug problem and his dealer came to the house to collect money and my youngest brother ( 12 at the time) got stabbed to death in the ordeal. PROTECT your family. Their the one's you need be concerned with the most.
2007-12-07 00:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are his living arrangements? Are you and your hubby supporting him? Is he living under your roof? If, so, well, as harsh as it sounds you need to talk with youir hubby and devise a plan to get him out of the house. Without you realising it, if he is still living at home, well, you are enabling him to live this preferred lifestyle of his. He obviousy has food supplied for him, and he probably doesnt have a job, and if he does get any sort of income, well he has no responsibilities or bills to pay, because his being looked after. If he has refused to go to rehab, well the next best thing is to kick him out. Tell him firmly but lovingly that you are concerned he has rejected help, and he needs to get out and get himself a job and straighten himself up. Youve gotta be cruel to be kind sometimes. Tell him that you are doing it for his own good, and one day he will thank you for it.
2007-12-07 00:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by montana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is probably the hardest situation you could be faced against,
and it is difficult for you to ba able to do anything so i can understand your situation because i have been through it with my own brother,
and the worst thing is that he thinks he is 6yrs old again and he is now 27.
to be honest you cannot interfere in the fact that he is doing this because you dont want it to backfire on you,
when they are into this kind of drug very badly the worst thing that could happen is he will lose it and destroy everything in the home, the best thing i could reccommend is for you to go down and speak to a rehab unit or the cat team they are usually good with intervention and explain your situation to them and explain that you are worried that he could harm himself they could even put you intouch with a social worker in the rehab unit those doctors are usually good too.
but its best you tackle this situation head on, but try and be nice to him in the mean time and treat him like he is normal to you like he is apart of you, it could break the ice a little,but dont force him to go to rehab because it can backfire just go and speak to the rehab workers and they can let you know the best thing that you could do for this kind of situation the sooner the better.
i hope this helps if there are any other questions you would like to know about this feel free to email me and i will be happy to help you out.
kindest regards.
2007-12-07 00:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by frankie z 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are giving him a choice? You can go to the courts and prove what is going on and have him court ordered. He has to go into treatment, and if he leaves, he gets picked up and put in jail. Come on folks, he is on drugs and of course he isn't going to go in. He has a good life, and you help him live it. If he is living there, put him out, DO NOT be a codependent, and allowing him to have a roof over his head, food when he wants to eat and not having to account for anything he does. You need to find out exactly what to do to help him. This effects the whole family and will for the rest of your lives. Contact Narcotics Anonymous for help.
2007-12-07 00:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you allow drugs to be used in your home, you are as guilty as he is. This is a grown man, you are going to have to put him out. He goes to rehab or he moves out.
2007-12-07 00:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you kicking him out of the house?
He either goes to rehab or you kick him out.
2007-12-07 00:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant make him go but you can stop him from your son. tell him to not come around til he gets help.
2007-12-07 00:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to give him love and careness, and try to company him and become firendly.
2007-12-07 00:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋