Is this creepy?

Question

I've worked with this girl a year ago, worked with her for 2 years. Now we both go to the same college and I see her in between classes, and sometimes in the parking lot driving her car. I'm a shy guys as she is somewhat shy so its hard to approach her, I did once but conversation didn't last long since I was going to be late for class, we've only really been co-workers not really friends.

So anyway I was wondering if it would be creepy if I had a note on her car door telling her I would like to talk to her, which my car would be parked not too far away, since I wait in my car in between classes anyway, then I would proceed to tell her I'd like to get to know her better and all that jazz.

Just wondering if that would be creepy, I'm not trying to be a creep its just I'm a shy guy and getting her to talk to me is difficult since we both are shy.

Well I'd tell her where I was parked, I would wait out side perhaps but its quite cold here this time of year.

Thing is also I hesitate a lot before going out to talk to people, she is usually gone before I go try to talk to her, so the note is there to kind of stop her and possibly have her approach me.

Answer 1

I know for someone shy, even leaving a note like that is a big step...but I don't think it's the right way to approach the situation. If you wait in your car between classes, wait until you see her walking up to her car, the hop out of yours and talk to her. You don't have to act like you were waiting for her...just ask how her day is going, ask how her class was, that sort of thing, then ask her if she wants to meet you for a cup of coffee during her next break (hopefully this time will coincide with your time schedule)...and go from there.

I know that's a huge step for someone shy, but I guarantee, you'll have better results than if you leave a note on her car.

Good luck! You can do it!

Answer 2

It seems like a note on the car _should_ be okay, but it does feel a little "stalkerish," (even though really, it isn't). Of course, it ultimately depends on THIS GIRL'S opinion (as you can see, diffr. girls feel differently about the note idea), but if possibly getting something started with this girl is your intent, you don't want to risk her being one of the types that won't like it.

Park near her and "just happen" to be there when she is. Note, do not look like you were waiting for her--that IS creepy--but that you just got there too. Then you could even have a note in hand to give her. "Oh, hello, Jane! How's it going? (Then have a short convo with her, like you did before class that one time--weather, job, etc.) Well, it's nice to see you--I'd love to see you again. (hand her the note with your name and phone number) Have a great day!" and leave.

This keeps it light, reintroduces you to her, and then doesn't put her in a potentially cornering situation if she doesn't return the feelings. She can call you later or not.

I wish you luck!!

P.S. You say she usually leaves before you do, right? Is there any way that you can drop by her desk and say hello/hand her your number? Or, as you seem to know her schedule, take a "bathroom break" at the time she'd be out at her car, and go out to meet her?

If these won't work, then try leaving the note on her car, reminding her of who you are ("This is... from .... We talked way back... at...."), and explain why you are leaving a note ("Our schedules don't seem to coincide, so I am sorry for having to do it this way, but I'd really like to get to know you better and this semed to be the best way to reach you. Please call me sometime. I'd really love to hear from you.{Name and number or place she could meet up with you--perhaps since you work at the same place you could catch a lunch or after-work coffee?}")

Answer 3

Yeah, a little creepy. If you know when she'll be there, & you know her car, park as close as possible & 'just happen' to be there when she's leaving. Talk to her. I know it's hard if you're shy, but take some time first to think of something you have in common, or a question you could ask. Have a plan of something to say, it will be easier. Notes are sweet if you're dating, creepy if you're not.

Answer 4

A note seems a little in mature. If you are all ready waiting in your car, just approach her then and strike up some casual conversation. Maybe you could ask her out for some coffee to break the ice.

Answer 5

Dat would be really Creepy, gals always like those guys who are really straight and confident. Ok, Let me give u some help in this regard. How about trying some of my advises if u like u can follow them or just ignore them. Ok here I start, first of all u need to find out wat social causes does she support for example does she loves animals, wildlife, green mission, children, orphans, etc. Second which ever social cause she is interested in, U need to go and volunteer in dat organization and come back to her as a volunteer from dat society and ask for her support or donation, and I give 101% she will be interested in you and u will hit a six in first ball.

Answer 6

Mate have the balls to walk up to her and say wanna go for a drink sometime. I'm sure that she will think that your worth the time and say yes. If you leave note saying that then mate you will kill your chances because in her eyes she will see it as that you didn't have the respect or balls to ask here face to face.

Answer 7

Better to just ask her and either handle the pain of rejection or the euphoria of acceptance, in the long run the pain of rejection might be easier and more beneficial.

Answer 8

No. It's not creepy at all. Once she says yes, you can explain to her that you were too shy to approach her. I say go for it.

Answer 9

Why dont you wait by her car and ask her in person instead of leaving a note? It will take courage but i have faith in you.
Try it.

Answer 10

you.ll never know unless you try all she can do is say no and maybe yes