my church pastor admits his affair with another church member?

Question

last sunday...my pastor admits to everyone infront of the congregation that he cheated on his wife..and that he cant describe how sorry he is....worst part is, the girl he cheated with is a church member..
Hes got 4 kids with his wife....and now i dont know wat will happen to my church...things are gonna be F-cked up
i cant help but feel really sad bout this thing...i pray every night bout it
is there something i can do?

theres nothing wrong with that?
the world is in the shape its in cause of people like u .....immoral thoughts

Answer 1

See if you can hook up with his mistress.

Obviously your pastor shares the same thoughts. I suspect the only reason he confessed is that he was caught.

Answer 2

How shattering and how very disappointing, and sad.
You are right to pray about it. You also need to be sympathetic and helpful to your friends in the congregation - some may be so disgusted that they give up on God. It will be a great test of your community.
Some years ago our vicar and his wife split up - I don't think there was adultery, at least neither admitted to it. The bishop insisted he resigned and the community was devastated. It took several years for the church to recover. But in the end it was stronger than ever
How we make Jesus weep!
I will pray for you all.

With regard to the question about what is wrong the answer is that people have been hurt. I don't know but the wife and children are probably hurting very badly and so will be the members of the congregation who no doubt listened to him weekly extolling the virtues of marriage, Whether you think the Jewish Law was god-inspired or not, it was what allowed society of the time to function. I can't think that our society can function if adultery is widespread - no one will trust anyone else.

Answer 3

No, there's nothing you can do about it.

I do admire your pastor, though, for having the courage to admit it.

Is he going to remain pastor? I would think not. Most churches I know of fire pastors over that kind of thing, whether the pastor admits it or not. Forgiveness is one thing, but I see that as an abuse of power.

Don't worry about a thing, though. Remember who's in control. God will send you guys a new pastor soon enough. In the meantime, there are interim pastors.

Answer 4

Pray that God will work in this situation. You can forgive the pastor; but can his wife? She is not required to forgive an unfaithful husband---that is biblical cause for divorce. It's a tough situation. I would not do anything at first but pray and wait to see how things develop. If the pastor gives up his relationship with the other church member, he should be forgiven by the congregation, as God certainly forgives him.

Answer 5

Just because he is a preacher doesn't mean he's immune to marital problems. The affair he had is a symptom of a problem in his marriage. Only he and his wife can decide if they want to put the work in to fix their marriage. She's also has to decide whether she wants to continue with the marriage after an infidelity. He's also not immune to taking advantage of his own power. I hope the woman he had the affair with doesn't become the 'fall guy'. That wouldn't be fair at all. He shouldn't have told the congregation as it just placed the burden on everyone else as well. He should have kept it quiet and dealt with it. However, if it was already suspected he should have said that he was having personal problems and that he needed time to sort things out. He is a human being. Human beings make big mistakes sometimes. You can only recognize that the problem is probably bigger than you realize and that it is not your problem to contend with. Best to you.

Answer 6

Just because A Pastor has an affair, doesn't mean there's trouble in his marriage, he has a whorish spirit that he needs deliverance from.

Answer 7

This happened at a church i went to a while back. A lot of people left, and lot of peple stayed. He stepped down from his position (Biblically that is what he should have done) and went to counceling and tried to work it out with his wife. After a period of time, he came back, restored. His wife decided it would be best to separate, but now many years later, he is married and the church is thriving again.

Answer 8

"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
NO ONE gets through life w/o some sort of grave sin that affects others; it is how we handle the after effects that separate the bad from the good, the unrepentant from the truly repentant.
What you CAN do is offer the pastor your support and trust and any help he might need and prove yourself a loyal friend and parishioner.
Pastors are only human and as such are susceptible to sin once in a while.

Answer 9

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God! Forgive him restore him keep your eyes on Jesus only one that wont disappoint! I think we have to remember Pastors are targets Satan loves to get em pray for all pastors difficult calling!

Answer 10

Look into yourself and let God judge what is in there. Your pastor can make his own decisions, and you can make yours. Just hold in there, and trust that God will see your soul as separate from your pastor's. Your prayers will not be the final word, and in the end it will be the pastors decision: who do I follow?

Answer 11

i think that your pastor is asking for forgiveness, and God tells us that we need to forgive. but i think that it is going to be hard to have a close relation ship with him anymore considering. so that just might hamper him from doing his job. and if a pastor can't do his job then he should lose it.