My mum and dad broke up when i was only 6 sence then he has remarried anyway i don't know why but his new wife does not like me at all and she won't even talk to me. The last time i went to see dad at his place i heard his wife talking about me behind my back and she told dad i only come over for money and i don't care about him and thats is not true.
I still love dad but i don't wanna go over a listen to lies about me.
I also asked dad to come over my house sometime and he told me his wife said his not allowed to come and see me at my place.
What should i do
2007-12-06 23:02:37 · 11 answers · asked by cripplercar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to her place and tell her how you feel. Say that you are his son and ofcourse that she resents you because she hates the fact that he has a boy from a previous marriage. Tell her that no matter what she does that will never change but say that you are not after his money and tell her that your not budging an inch because its your god given right to see your father. He's your blood so why the hell wouldn't you?
It would be tough but sneaking behind her back will not help this situation at all because if she finds out your poor dad will cop alot of crap from this woman. Start of small by calling your dad alot and start coming over on a regular basis like once every few weeks. I bet she is hoping by preventing from the two of you seeing each other that you'll give up and thats exactly her goal so mate stand your ground.
So really mate you have to let her know that your not really looking for his money but you are still his own blood and that you are determined to see him now and then. It would be a crime if you let this woman deprive you of you and your father of valuable father and son time.
Believe brother, Believe!
2007-12-06 23:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Johny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm, this is a tough one. At the end of the day, only you yourself know the real reason why you are choosing to have a relationship with your dad. You yourself truly know that you want that relationship, because he is your father, and no matter what, he will always be your father. You only have one father, and you are right to want to have a relationship. It would be hurtful though, having his partner doubting you, and trying to stop him from havin a relationship with you. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to bring everything out of the darkness and into the light. Open yourself up to your dad and his partner and let him know how you truly feel. This can work wonders . Hope it works out .
2007-12-07 00:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by montana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your father out for lunch, to the gym. Sounds like the wife wears the pants in the family. Maybe you should go see her when your father isn't around and find out why she doesn't like you? Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns and hit it head on. It wouldn't hurt to take a recorder along so dear ole Dad could hear his wife in action. If your Dad will let this woman keep you away, then I can see why Mom left.
2007-12-07 00:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for everyone to adjust to a second marriage. I hated my fathers second wife and was very relieved when the relationship ended in divorce. But it was terrible seeing my father miserable.
You don't have to get on with. Love you father and show him that you love him. Don't talk about his wife negatively. You don't have to stoop that low.
2007-12-06 23:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess your dad does not really loves you as you love him.it is not your fault that your parents broke up however it seems your dad is still seeing your mother in you or how come he does not want to see you and how come his wife dominates him so much.well i would advise you keep on loving him as you have and i hope he sees the genuine love you have for him.you can also endeavour to visit him once in a while despite his wife dislike for you. i wish you all the best
2007-12-06 23:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Demmy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gather a couple of hundred dollars and go back to his house and confront his wife and give her this money and tell her can I pay you to come see my dad? that will show her your not interested in their money, your his son and you have all the rights to go there and to be with your dad, after this take him out go places who cares what she say? talk man to man with your father and tell him your offended by his wife's allegations of you wanting his money, tell him we all need our parents even after we grow she is a nasty and mean woman.. good luck.
2007-12-06 23:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your father out to dinner and have a long talk with him. This is none of his wife's business, and you need to let him know that. Express how you feel to him, and tell him he is letting her come between the two of you, and that is not fair. Please have a long talk with him now. I don't care if he has to lie to her to meet you. He is your father and she should back off.
2007-12-06 23:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That woman is pretty sick but tell your dad whats going on with her and tell him she is lying. mabie try talking to his B****. If that doesnt work you could meet him at like the mall or something
2007-12-06 23:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play on his honor and manlihood.
Be matter-of-factly, NOT DRAMATIC. Do NOT be a drama queen. Just state the facts:
Tell him you understand: His wife forbids him to see his son, so he must do her bidding.
Then hang up.
Then... give it time.
2007-12-06 23:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE WIFE HAS SOME CONROL ISSUES,
IM SORRY BUT THERE IS NOONE GOING TO TELL ME I CANNOT GO SEE MY CHILD.
BUT YOU LOVE DAD
SO YOU HAVE TO ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES
UNLESS YOU START PLANNING SPECIAL OUTINGS WITH HIM
2007-12-06 23:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋