I just lost a Friend and i fell horrible but i keep acting really hyper and happy around people?

Question

Also i have these straight scars on my arm that seem to appear over night i think might be cutting myself without knowing

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Answer 1

Hi there,
Rather than waiting for answers in this column, I would sincerely suggest you to get an expert opinion from a senior psychiatrist or a psychologist.
The fact that you are developing scars over your arm makes me to say this.
and try to relaaxxx and relaaaxxx. okay ?
best wishes !

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss - losing a friend is a dreadful experience.

Please remember that everyone deals with grief differently. You are acting hyper and happy because you are not yet ready to deal with your emotions, or your not yet ready show the public your emotions. Thats fine as long as you are dealing with it privately.

Im sure your not cutting without knowledge - the scars may be from an injury you sustained but not actually acknowledged.. that can often happen when you have a lot on your mind. Dont worry about it unless it happens more then I would start taking note of when they appear so you can approach your g.p with this.

My advice would be to sit down and have a chat with a friend or family member. Talk about your friend, what you liked about him, what you will miss about him and how you feel about your loss. Have a giggle remembering the goodtimes and cry as much as you need to.

Grief becomes a problem when it is repressed and not dealt with.

my thoughts are with you - good luck

Answer 3

was that 12 year old your friend? That is terrible honey...I'm guessing you are just a kid too? It is hard for children to grieve..don't feel ashamed because you "act" happy-you are really just covering up your sorrow.But soon you WILL have to deal with it.I was your age and lost someone dear...I didn't cry either-I acted just as you are now...later I went to the pond and sat there alone and just let it all out.Sometimes it IS better to be alone than to have support.You will be ok little one just remember he wouldn't have wanted you sad-and he wouldn't have put you down for crying either.

Answer 4

i would talk to someone who you can trust and someone else who understands your grief, we all mourn in different ways some of us push our feelings aside so we appear happy and excite but that isn't the truth, i'd suggest you spend a day thinking about your friend and what they meant to you do this with your other friends too maybe you'll be able to release the sad feelings n a safer way than a blade, but if it continues i would seek proffesional help your GP can suggest someone to you in confidence and sometimes its easier to talk to a stranger who wont judge you
take care

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It sounds like you are in denial. I can't explain your scars but you should seek some sort of counselling. If you feel unable to talk face to face,call the Samaritans,they are there for you 24-7................

Answer 7

You should talk to your doctor. Don't wait for answers on here. You need help so make an appointment for th doc straight away.

Hope this helps and look after yourself.

Answer 8

thats what i use to do ... in denial

i put on an act / face making out i was ok

but i was falling a part

it took my 16 months before i would amint i had a problem

Answer 9

coping with grief is a very personal thing and no-one can tell you there is a right/wrong way to do it but the possibility of your harming youself is very real and should be addressed immediately - seek help NOW.

Answer 10

When you fell horrible, did you hurt yourself?