one of our neighbours died 2 weeks ago. we didnt like her , she was very rude to us without reason. my dilemma is, should i put my outside crimbolights up this weekend?i even though we didnt get on i still wouldnt want to be disrespectful. what would you do? ( bear in mind that if i had died i dont think they would give my family a second thought)
2007-12-06 22:22:59 · 21 answers · asked by ginger 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i dont have anger or resentment "issues", but i do have good manners and common courtesy.
2007-12-07 21:19:42 · update #1
I think you might care a little too much about what these other people think.
2007-12-07 03:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by nottwoshort 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In most relegious beliefs nowadays, the mourning period and mark of respect runs between 3 and 7 days so the fact that you have waited two weeks in my opinion shows that you have been respectful and acknowledged the families loss.
But above all, dont forget the real reason why we decorate our houses and Christmas time.
I hope the following helps to clear your consience so that you can celebrate Christmas without fear of reprisal.
The Christmas tree is often explained as a Christianisation of pagan tradition and ritual surrounding the Winter Solstice, which included the use of evergreen boughs, and an adaptation of pagan tree worship. The English language phrase "Christmas tree" is first recorded in 1835 and represents an importation from the German language. The modern Christmas tree tradition is believed to have begun in Germany in the 18th century though many argue that Martin Luther began the tradition in the 16th century. From Germany the custom was introduced to England, first via Queen Charlotte, wife of George III, and then more successfully by Prince Albert during the reign of Queen Victoria. Around the same time, German immigrants introduced the custom into the United States. Christmas trees may be decorated with lights and ornaments.
The Slovenian version of Santa, Ded Moroz or Father Frost.Since the 19th century, the poinsettia has been associated with Christmas. Other popular holiday plants include holly, mistletoe, red amaryllis, and Christmas cactus. Along with a Christmas tree, the interior of a home may be decorated with these plants, along with garlands and evergreen foliage.
In Australia, North and South America, and to a lesser extent Europe, it is traditional to decorate the outside of houses with lights and sometimes with illuminated sleighs, snowmen, and other Christmas figures. Municipalities often sponsor decorations as well. Christmas banners may be hung from street lights and Christmas trees placed in the town square.
2007-12-07 06:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by shaun147 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put up the lights. And burn a candle for this woman. Burning candles helps them to get to a good place...it burns up negative energy. Say a prayer for her...light a candle..bid her peace...and ask God to help her get to heaven..and not lost along the way...ask God to send Angels to help her. Please pray this regardless of how you feel about her or God...you don't want her spirit wandering around the neighborhood looking for someone to pick on do you? So...burn your candles and help her go to heaven..I know she was mean...all the more reason she needs your prayers.. Mean people can tend to linger...so burn the candle and they won't linger. Plus you sound like you have some anger towards her and resentment issues...this will help you get over that also.
2007-12-08 03:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Felicitas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd put up the lights it'd help to remind the rest of the neighbourhood that a happy festive season is on its way it may help some people who are a little upset by her passing by reminding them to be happy if people say something just say you're sure she wouldn't want everyone to mourn her forever and ruin xmas
2007-12-07 06:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kalina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How exactly is putting up Christmas lights being disrespectful to a dead person????
According to Religion - If she is dead, she is now part of Christ (God, NOT Jesus), isn't she?
If the TRUTH is that she was very rude to you for no good reason - being dead does not automatically make her a good person in life.
2007-12-07 06:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by John Trent 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your crimbolights up. The death of your neighbour does not mean the end of the enjoyment of your life. It's been a couple of weeks anyway so, bless her soul, it won't make any difference to her or your desire to be respectful.
Make them the brightest ever!
2007-12-07 06:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put them up. Two weeks is enough time to show respect and you will find that all your neighbours are probably thinking the same thing.
2007-12-07 06:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay to go on with what you have planned, but I think it would be better to wait till the funeral is over, presumably as she died two weeks ago it has already happened, but if it hasn't I would wait because her relatives will be coming to the house.
2007-12-07 06:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your christmas deccies up, not your fault she was an old b!tch & died. The world doesn't stop spinning on it's axis just cause she died.
Put the decorations up babe
Merry Christmas!!! :D
2007-12-07 06:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by ღ Princess Leigh ღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone object to you putting lights up? Unless she died tangled in Christmas lights, I doubt that anyone would see you having lights up as disrespectful.
2007-12-07 06:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by JC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't understand why a neighbor's death would have anything to do with putting up lights on your house. But if you feel it somehow has a connection then you'll have to figure it out.
2007-12-07 08:07:24 · answer #11 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋