Let's say you meet a guy and you are both really feelin each other... the attraction is off the hook and the sexual tension is crazy. Right away he tells you he wants to take you back to his place and have sex all night. Does he really think you're an easy s l u t or is he attracted to you, and hoping you want the same thing? How long should you wait to do it so that he doesn't think you are easy?
2007-12-06 21:47:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's really hard to tell what exactly he's wanting. Whether it be a night of lust, or an actual relationship. To test this, I would wait atleast 1 month if not 2. My boyfriend and I were together for a little over 2 mos before our relationship got physically serious, and we're now married and have a child. Just test the guy's patience by waiting a little bit.
2007-12-06 21:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer is different for everyone. People are so different when it comes to sex and values. I have dated guys for a while and the attraction just wasn't there, so no sex. The one guy I had sex with on the first date I ended up with for 4 years and engaged- sadly it didn't work out but we are still friends. The man I am with now was almost the same situation (2nd date) and I would do it that way all over again because we are both open minded about sex and just went with it and communicated about it from day one. I have also never cheated and (as far as I know) never been cheated on. But if you don't have the same views and it doesn't feel right to you to do it right away, then by all means wait. You can do what feels right for you, and not what society says to do as long as your not negatively affecting anyone else I feel this is a very personal choice for you. Good luck! Oh yes and always be safe!
2016-04-07 23:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r young & attractive enough and confident of ur own self, then u may wait until u get to know ur partner well. if u feel u have met the right man & are sure that he will take care of u for the rest of ur life & if u r sure of his honesty, intergrity, sincerity & his love & lyalty to u, then go ahead ! On the other hand, if u r old & feel that time is slipping out of ur hands & that u would end up being the loser if u lose this man & wouldn't find a better partner, then also u may go ahead. But if u have the slightest doubt about the partner's intentions or have a feeling that he is just flirting around, then pull out b4 it is too late !
Above all, both of u must be pretty sure opf urselves - that u will be able to lead a family life without any hindrances by urself ! Self-supporting & mutually agreeable - compatible !
2007-12-06 21:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that actually depends on what you are looking for. He is definitely attracted to you. That's why he wants to have sex with you. That doesn't mean he wants to date you, and that's not wrong because you just met. If you are looking to date him, or even see him again, then I say don't do it because of he's a gentleman at all, he is not treating you like a lady by saying that to you. My guess is, he is saying exactly what he wants. Just sex. And possibly an ongoing "buddy." So if that's what you want, go for it, but don't expect a meaningful relationship out of this guy. Meaningful relationships are not based on sexual attraction.
2007-12-06 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what you are after... just sex or a lasting relationship. if he really like you then he will wait as long as you say... but if you dont know him very well then you shouldnt really be considering sleeping with him unless you are after a one night stand....
hold out as long as you want to and the longer he waits for you the more likely it is to be fantastic when (and if) it does happen. There is no right or wrong length of time. you are only classed as easy if you sleep with a few people after only knowing them two minutes.
Good luck!
2007-12-06 21:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Have you slept with others? Will this be a one-off or part of a relationship?
There are too many questions to consider (HIV, Baby...)
If you are >20 then you should wait a fair bit of time - as long as possible, months.
I suppose if you are over 40 you probably would not ask this question.
2007-12-06 21:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by macherin77630 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give it up on the first time he's gonna think you're a sl*t. You should wait atleast 3 dates. That way you don't look too easy and you don't have to wait that long either ;)
2007-12-06 21:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not think anything of you
If it all happens that fast
He's most likely juss lookin to get some
Truth*
A time frame would all be based on opinion
Just because you think you made "him" wait long enough
Doesnt mean all the other girls do to
The world is full of people who
- -Judge a Book By It's Cover- -
2007-12-06 21:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. You never really know till after you do it. Hindsight is 20-20 as they say. You could do it first date and the guy wouldn't judge you or some other guy might. It all depends.
2007-12-06 21:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait until you get married, you won't be looked on as a easy.
Sure, you can do it sooner if you want, but you will run the risk of being misunderstood.
2007-12-06 22:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋