Fiance's Aunt just died...My Bridal shower is on the funeral day...Which should I go to??

Question

My bridal shower is on the day of my fiance's aunt's visitation and funeral. I have two days of bridal showers and it is the exact same days and the funeral stuff. My fiance was very close to his aunt..She was also mentally retarded...So should I go with my fiance to the visitation and funeral,,,Therefore cancelling My showers..or should I not go and go to my showers. By the way the funeral and all is 2 hours from my house so I cant do both..Thanks

Answer 1

Go to the funeral. You'll look like a b*tch if you don't.

:o)

Answer 2

Hmm.. I think it's important to attend the funeral. I know, it may be a drag, but send out a notice saying that due to a very important family event (or whatever wording you feel best), you must postpone the wedding shower to a new date - and then state the time, date, place, etc. If you booked a location for the shower to take place, people are usually understanding when it comes to deaths in the family, so explain what happened and I'm sure they'll allow a new date. Same with anything else you may have booked for the shower. Some people may not be able to make the new date - that is ok, they will be at the wedding. Show your fiance what a woman you are by being by his side supporting him. Some things you just don't have control over.

Answer 3

You have 2 days of bridal showers and the funeral is 2 hours away?

You have three options:
1. Ignore funeral, go ahead with bridal showers as planned.
Good because marriage is the beginning of a new life; a funeral is not.
Bad because your fiance is grieving and it might seem insensitive.

2. Cancel bridal shower, go to funeral.
Good because it's very kind of you.
Bad because marriage has a lasting impact on your life, a funeral is a solitary ceremonie with little lasting impact on the rest of your life.

3. Combine them. You have 2 days of bridal showers. The funeral is 2 hours away. So the funeral will cost you a little more than half a day.
Do both. Don't cancel the bridal shower but shorten it - that will show everybody you are sensitive to the unfortunate passing of his aunt. And show your face at the funeral - everybody will respect you for it.


All in all: If the funeral is about 3/4 of a day, I don't see why you must cancel 2 days of showers for it.

Answer 4

You need to go to the funeral. Support your fiance. After all, you're about to become part of the family so you should care about his family. You can always reschedule your bridal shower. Even if it's close to the wedding, it's the best thing to do.

Answer 5

Change your bridal shower for the following week and go to the funeral. I think it's important to stand by your man in situations like these!!

Answer 6

move the showers to another day, explaining that a family obligation came up.

If he was close to this aunt and you don't go to the funeral, I guarantee there will be people on his side of the family (I'm thinking his parents and siblings) who will run their mouths about what a "selfish little b****" you are because you went to a party instead of attending the visitation and funeral of someone who was important in your FH's life.

If you do go and they tell you "oh honey you didn't have to move your parties and come" DO NOT believe them!

Answer 7

Hey Sassy!
Im so sorry for your fiance and your loss. Here's what I would do in this case, do send out a notice that your showers have been postponed and will be rescheduled at a later date.

More than likely not many people will show up to your shower on his side because they will all be at the funeral! People will understand.

Good luck and again im sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Is there anyway you could reschedule your showers?

I'm sorry for the inconvience this has caused you and everyone, but it sounds like you need to be by his side.

But, imagine how many people coming to your showers have planned for your event and bought all the presents, if it's one or the other, I'd stay and do your bridal showers!

Also, it's going to be kind of difficult when you're trying to be all happy and show your finacee what you guys got and he's all sad about the funeral. It's hard to deal with one person having a very sad day and one person having a fun day!

Please, if you go to your showers, ENJOY yourself! People would hate to see you sad when it's your party! Congrats and good luck on sorting it all out~

Answer 10

Honestly I think that your being really selfish in even asking this. No matter how much I despise my in-laws at times, I would never even consider not going to a funeral. My man would need me.

Change the days of your Bridal Shower, it isn't that hard.

Answer 11

I would reschedule the bridal showers and go with your fiance to the furnal. It would be good that you are there for him and the family. He needs your support right now.