el salvadorian. Me and her father are still together and Im happy with him. But I think that his family is kinda racist because they never want to do anything with my family. They did not want to participate with my family for my baby shower and they threw me another one for them and didnt invite no one from my family. and my boyfriend has told me that when my daughter gets older that they wont come to any of her parties that I give her that my family will be at and they will always throw their own parties for her. And I think this is very wrong because his family has never met my family to not want anything to do with them i dont want them to like be apart of my family but I think when it comes down to their grandaughter they should be able to celebrate and support her with the other side of her family. Am I right for feeling like this or am I taking this too seriously.
2007-12-06 19:29:07 · 6 answers · asked by Cheri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't change thier minds. and you are right that it is wrong. they are going to miss out on your daughter and they can bring a lot of heritage to her life that she is going to have to depend on her father to pass on to her. It is really ashame that people are like that to this day. I really don't get it. All I have to say is if you and your husband really love each other it is going to cause some problems between you two, but do not let it consume you. Live your lives and raise your beautiful daughter and screw what other people think.
Sorry if I was a little blunt there just a little ticked off about this.
I hope things work out, and I will keep you in my prayers
2007-12-06 19:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel upset, and it's NORMAL... but stressing out and focusing on your husband's family's prejudice behavior is probably going to be destructive for you if you keep worrying and wondering.
You really must accept them at face value in order to retain your sanity. Don't let what they do control your emotions. You simply can't change them or control them at all...
It's NOT your fault that your husband's family are closed-minded... i'm sure they are missing out on meeting some fine people by not attending gatherings and celebrations with your folks.
take care
2007-12-07 03:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sort of have the same problem as you exept its not a racist problem my partners family dont semm to get on with my side we have to sons one at thre and one at 17mths i used to just brush the problem under the carpet but now ts more serious as my 3yr old is becoming more aware of the world around him. heres one of my problms whn my three yr old son was born he was rally poorly and had all th attention h wanted off both sets of grandparents then my 17mth old son arrived and my partners mum and dad treat him different they always take my 3yr old out and buy hm gifts but are reluctant to participate with my younger son when both sides of the family meet up my partners side sem to be a bit cold and stuck up to my parents and it really irritates me. you will have to talk to them im afraid and get to the bottom of the problm as you dont want your baby gettin older and felin the tentionb its not far on the kids as ther stuck in the middle and if you dont desolv anythin at last you can say you were the bigger person and tried otherwise you will jus have to be polite to them and keep your mouth shut and that will drive you crazy and probly make u and your partner argue and if you talk to them u may understand them better why dont u arrangre to go out for a meal or invite them to a nuetral place neither yours or theirs where u can talk openly and leave your baby with a sitter so they dont pick up on any atmosphere hope this is of some help let me know how it goes good luck ! x
2007-12-07 03:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by lisa w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, however, my suggestion at this point is give it time. His family may be prejudiced but that may lessen when they become more familiar with you. Prejudice usually stems from ignorance. Keep inviting them to events, and show them what you are really like and they will be more likely to welcome both their granddaughter and your half of the family into their lives, hopefully. It's not always the case, but I have heard of many occasions like this turning completely around over time.
2007-12-07 03:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are most likely correct. Let it be . they are not open to you.
2007-12-07 03:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE RIGHT
2007-12-07 03:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by MISS TT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋