Okay my fiance has been acting up the last 4 months. He's been staying out til 7am, sleeping all day, and hasnt took care of our son at all. Lately he's been trying to change. He's been keeping our son while I go to work, he comes home at 3-4am, he wakes up earlier than 2pm. The problem is I know he can do better than what he's been doing so I still complain, nag, and have an attitude. I still give him credit for whathe does but my problem is I know he can do better so I expect him to go to the full extent and bend over backwards. Am I being too hard on him?
2007-12-06 18:56:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why does he not have a job? what does he do when staying out until 4am?? wake up at 2pm what about your son??who takes care of your son from 4am-2pm??? You should not even think about marrying this man until he can prove to be a good provider for his son.
2007-12-06 19:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear, you are not being too hard on him at all. When he comes home at 3-4 am, do you know where he goes? I think for him to go home at that time is unusual, don't you think? I hope he is not cheating on you. Sometimes when you are just reminding a man to do this or do that, they take it as a nag or an attitude.We, females are just doing this to get them to do something, to help us out and so we don't have to do all the work. (and believe me they wish that we do all the work while they relax and play). I used to do the same thing and my husband of course thinks it's nagging; Most guys, for some reason don't have a clue as to the troubles we go through- Taking care of almost everything at home. Sometimes they blame and says you nag too much blah, blah- he'll make you think that it's you that's at fault. I would try to see that he is not sneaking behind your back as far as "another woman" is concerned. Believe me, when they start acting all "weird", there might be something going on. Take Care and Good Luck.
2007-12-06 19:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Dynf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being too hard on him. He should be up by the time you go to work to watch your son. 3-4am is ok depending on what he is doing during that time. 2 pm to wake up is late. He needs to start waking up earlier. If he had a job he would have to be at work at 9. He needs to come home earlier and wake up earlier. He can do that. Its not to hard. Let him come home a little earlier and then a little earlier slowly. Though he needs to be taking care of his son.
2007-12-06 19:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be SO pissed if a guy did this to me. But as annoying as it is, you CAN'T nag him! That is the easiest thing to do and it helps you vent your anger, but it will only make the problem worse. The worse he feels aobut himself the more likely he will be to sit around on his butt all day. Encourage him more and tell him nicely that you want you guys to be able to be happy and functional family. Tell him you would do anything to make him happy and you hope he'll do the same. You never even need to mention the laziness directly.. if you drop hints and change your attitude towards him a little he'll get it
2007-12-06 19:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh? hes cheating dear hes not at home taking care of his responsibilities hes out till 7 and 3 and 4 hes a cheater take from me i used to do this myself and i regret things i did very much. get some help and get away hes probably been seeing someone for 4 months.by the way what does your gut tell you? it seems to me that you are starting to realize that hes doing something wrong and your instincts are showing up gut check time girl hold off on marrige for you and you childs sake
2007-12-06 19:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Tell him to get his *** into bed at a reasonable hour! To wake up at a reasonable hour! And to set a good example for his son!
Just imagine the bad behaviour your child is picking up!
If anything be harder on him! He is not behaving like a responsible father!
2007-12-06 19:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah Darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , you aren't hard on him , as long as u know that he can be better then u have to tell him that again and again , but also u have to make him feel that u appreciate the changes he is doing so that he could be better and better , hope u a happy life :)
2007-12-06 19:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that he's improving but that theres still work to be done and to keep it up. Tell him that you know he can do it. You catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar. Ive learned this with my husband too lol
2007-12-06 19:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Oh Me!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u gotta relax. guys have feelings too. just cuz we pump up our chest and hide it. im in the same ****. i do so much that when i do a lil bit of something my lady is not satisfied so u tell me wat to do? lol.
2007-12-06 19:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by NeKs oNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with MISS TT.... no way..
2007-12-06 19:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋