I will be the first to admit that I am no good at relationships. I ben with so many men all I can do is wonder where I went wrong. I think what it is, is my older brother is sooo nice, that when I meat other men I have expectations that they will be good to me. So I have had so many problems with my boyfriend "BONES" that I am thinking to bake up this time. We ben together for about 4 months. I LOVE HIM. But he is NOT good for me and my doughter. We need a real man to take care of us. Not to drag me down with him. I need a good way to get him to move out of my place, and to do a final brake up. My friends say that he will not go on without me and that he loves me. so this is hard. He ben stressin me out all kinds to that I cant even imagine to share. We Wont Go There. so:Whats worked for you in the past???? How to get over this??????
2007-12-06 18:17:49 · 11 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1. If he is potentially dangerous you need to demand that he leaves - if he refuses then call the police and have the police escort him out.
2. The police might tell you that you need to take this guy to court to get him evicted.
For the FUTURE:
1. You can't be in love with someone after only 4 months of dating because you don't know them yet
2. You have a daughter - so you should ABSOLUTELY NOT allow any guy to live with you and your daughter until at least 1 year of dating has passed by. This gives you plenty of time to get to know him. Now you have learned why you shouldn't let a guy just move in with you! Many child molestors will target single mothers so they can move in and start molesting the daughters. You are putting your daughter in danger by allowing strange men to move into your home right away.
3. Don't date anyone with a nickname like "Bones" or other "biker type" names. Date men who have normal first names.
2007-12-06 21:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be really tricky, having been in a similar situation myself I know how hard it is. But you have to remember that you're an adult. And more importantly, you're a mother. Make sure your daughter is somewhere safe and if you're really afraid, just call him. Tell him that you aren't ready for a relationship, if you're afraid of telling him the truth. Also, do NOT ever meet up with him alone afterwards. You have to be smart and do whatever you can to take care of your child and yourself. And just for the record, you're right to have certain expectations. Your brother sounds like a good guy. And you do deserve someone who will be good to you and your child. Make sure you talk to your brother and let him know that you're afraid how your boyfriend will react. If he's as good as he sounds, he'll stay by you. Good luck and be very careful.
2016-05-21 23:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I put in no less then three years I want to be sure there is no hope. And this is where I lose. Need to follow own advice but it's back to that heart thing. Trouble is the commitment has been made and all stuff is blended. It's a family thing. Common law in texas some say yea some say nay. Police say yea. I know this as fairly recent fact. Just can't remember the stickey part is 3,4,or 6 mos. living together. there's the catch 22.. BAM!! That hurts !! You say yours police and common law in state of texas says its both of yours equally !! Damn it !! Is rental in your name must talk to lanlord if he not on lease get lanlord to intervene. More then likely they stay far away from that or next possibity is landload lets you out of lease makes both move !! That happens he's going to be closer to you then your own shadow ! Which will actually be worse. Depends if you really want out. This is where I ALWAYS fail !! I do but dont sick of starting over do dont do dont next thing it's 3-4 ta 5 yrs later vested in nonstop total violent relations i said i never do again. catch x took kids do to violence so have had no little people to protect had help me take the right road and put them first. and no family to run to or help me. So your escape is pre meditated behind his back handle some **** before your split.You are going to have to be the one to go.. You lose he wins face it and get ove it and it's hurts and is a killer that rips your heart out. You luckly have what i didnt you have a little face that looks at you and luvs you unconditionally righy now !! Don't blow it you can't get the timemachine started cause there aint one time keeps moving on and you do not want risk losing little one ! Get you off lease him on or have to break yours and secretly pack and slowly move out have friends or parents come get and hold your hand keep you away til he and you move on sepertly
2007-12-06 20:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by aguysbestfriend_boytoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love" or not, sounds like you need to get out NOW!! You don't mention whether or not he has gotten physical with you but even if he hasn't (yet) you should know that the most dangerous time for a battered woman is when she tries to end the relationship. If not for yourself, you must get out for your daughters sake. Go to your local county attorney's office and ask for a restraining order - if there is a women's shelter in your town get in touch with them and they can walk you through the process. Most towns also have a victims advocate office that can help you. If he is not on your lease, you can have the police remove him from your home. An officer will stay there while he removes his belongings. Once you get him out, take the time to learn how to be comfortable on your own before getting involved with another man. Ask about getting counseling for yourself and your daughter (the people at the shelter or victim's advocates office can help you find someone you can afford) to help you realize that you deserve to be treated with respect. Not only for yourself but so that your daughter won't grow up thinking it is normal to be treated like **** by any man.
Good luck!
2007-12-06 19:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by 99twinsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him to move. You move, take your daughter and move to another city. This time make a life with just you and her. Take the time to be with your daughter and learn to stand on your own feet. You do not need a man to take care of you, you take care of you, then you will find a man that is good and more like your brother.
2007-12-06 19:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you feel that even though you care for each other you are not compatible and no good for each other. after all, from what you say here, it's the truth.
after the break up, take some time out for YOU.. readjust to life, get a grip on reality, decide what it is you want out of life and go for it.
someday, if you are interested in dating again, maybe go out with guys who seem nicer, aren't trouble, and even ones you'd never have thought about going out with... the bad boys are more exciting, but we always end up getting hurt in the end.
take care.
2007-12-06 18:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Letterstoheather is absolutely right. besides that, if the house is yours, the you gotta put yourfoot down at some point and say enough is enough. looks like you dont want to end the relationship because you love him, but want to end it coz you think he's toxic.
then do just that. talk to him and tell him how you feel. (if you havent allready done that). tell him that if he doesnt do things differently, its the end of y'all, regardless how you feel about each other. an dif he dont change, tell him to hit the raod. now that needs some real courage to do, but at some point, you gotta say it and do it.
best regards
2007-12-06 19:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dar' Lene Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact all the males in your family. Especially the ones that are protective of you and will not hesitate to break another man's bones.
2007-12-06 20:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teel him honestly that the relationship is over.
2007-12-06 19:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. I suspect you don't really want to end this, based on what you have divulged here.
2007-12-06 18:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋