Is it wrong for me to have a cover charge at my reception? So like after I pay for the reception there is no money left over. My parents are chipping in a little, but 10k just doesn't cut it, they could give me more if they would use their retirement fund. Now I can't go on my dream Honeymoon. I have always dreamed of going to Italy for my Honeymoon, now I can only go to Hawaii and I have been there so many times it is old. We used to summer there when I was a kid. So that is totally boring. I have to have the perfect Wedding, so now I don't get a very good Honeymoon. So I figure that if I charge every guest $40 at the door, I should have enough for my dream Honeymoon. But my fiance's mom is whining about the cover charge- I told her she doesn't have to pay but she is still upset and I don't know why.
2007-12-06 18:04:34 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Kids are allowed at the reception but I dont' want them spoiling everything so we are hiring a Nanny to watch them in another room. Since they are not my kids, I should nto be expected to pay for the nanny- the cost for the Nanny is $30 per child.
2007-12-06 18:26:36 · update #1
((Gumby)))
(((Prince Postal))) You too are nice and seem to understand my dilema. Everyone else is just being mean to me.
2007-12-06 18:29:12 · update #2
(((Sunshine)))
(((John MClain)))
2007-12-07 06:23:47 · update #3
Well, if your reception is in the cultural hall, $40 is perfect. If you're holding it somewhere nicer than that, you should charge more.
I think your parents are being ridiculously selfish. I mean, who needs a retirement fund? They're just going to be old farts. All they need is a recliner and infomercials.
Tell your mother in law that the more she whines, the more you'll charge her each time she wants to see her grand babies. I mean, they need stuff too right?
2007-12-06 18:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by gumby 7 · 5⤊ 6⤋
There are other ways to go about raising money for your honeymoon than charging people a cover charge.
You could sell the shoe, do the bridal dance, a money tree. There are other options.
Lets say I were a family of 5, my husband and I and our 3 children and we received your invitation and were aware there would be a cover charge for the reception.
If I liked you enough and wasnt that ticked off at you for the cover charge then we would attend ONLY the wedding ceremony. Id skip the reception because really, why do I need to be there? So I can eat a little cake and watch you prance around thinking you are so wonderful....nah, I can pass on that and save my $200 at the same time. The important part would be hearing you say I do. Because, at that point Ive already formed my opinion of the wedding, seen the wedding colors - ugly, and the decorations - oh so tacky. My husband and I would have a good laugh on the way back home about how ridiculously funny it was that your tiara was a bit crooked and your make up caked on a little too thick, what are you trying to do, convince us youre gorgeous?!?!?!
Perhaps we decide to pay the cover charge and go to the reception.....I wouldnt pay for the nanny for my 3 small children. I didnt request her to be there so Im not paying for her services. Instead, Id much rather watch them run and play and as you and your husband are enjoying your first dance I would send them out there with you, to run right between the two of you, watch you get angry and annoyed as you try not to trip and fall. Oh it would be so great, and think of the wonderful laughs for years to come about it. It would be a grand old time. Ofcourse you would probably come over to me and try to explain to me how you dont appreciate my childrens behavior and demand I take them to the other room. At which point Id say something clever to you about your silly little tacky wedding and gather my family, as we pass the door I would demand a refund for the terrible show, its not what I was promised and was not worth my money!
Oh and btw, congrats to you.......as for your husband to be, my condolences.
2007-12-07 02:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by obsolete_allurement 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I started reading your question and thought you might have actually been serious-but I decided to read your previous questions.
Your questions are a bit childish-but there really is no need to take everything on here so seriously.
Now to answer your question, I think instead of $40 you should charge everyone $65-they should pay for their drinks as well, I hope you were not planning on having an open bar for anyone besides yourself and FH, you are really the only two who need to be drunk that night. Tell your fiance's mom if she doesn't stop her whining that you will charge her and that she needs to get over it. This will be your day-do what makes you happy!
PS about the nanny-I think you should make a profit off her being there so maybe the people with kids should pay a little more for her. I mean you went out of your way to come up with such a brilliant idea, you SHOULD be paid for your awesome work!
2007-12-07 01:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You must be joking! That is one of the tackiest things I have ever heard of! Your guests are there to share in your special day, not to pay for your honeymoon. Charging a cover for your reception is ridiculous. And, all the complaining about not getting the "dream" honeymoon you want...some people can't afford a honeymoon at all. You should consider yourself lucky that you are able to take a trip anywhere. And, if you really want to go to Italy, start saving your money and maybe you can go for your anniversary. And finally, your fiance's mom has every right to "whine" about the cover charge idea. She obviously knows what she's talking about.
2007-12-06 18:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I can tell you now no guest is going to pay $40 to attend, just cut the guest list to an affordable number. I have a feeling this is not a serious question and no one in their right mind would expect their parents to fork out money from their retirement fund, and if you are serious then you need a big reality check!! Sounds like one of the most selfish things I have ever heard in my life. You'll end up with a very empty reception if you charge people.
2007-12-06 18:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
A honeymoon is just a vacation and you will go on many in your life. Alienating your friends and family and having them never speak to you again over the $40 isn't worth it. Hate to tell you but even rich people can be cheap with wedding gifts. Some people probably weren't even spending $40 on the gift.
2007-12-07 07:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say take the 10k and split. Who needs a reception? You and your fantastic future hubby could go just about anywhere with that.
Or you could have a money dance. I've only seen it once, but I guess guys can pay to dance with the bride. Or you could put on the invitations that money is the preferred gift.
;-)
Oh and if you do go with the cover charge, I'd charge your mother-in-law double just for complaining.
2007-12-07 05:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am seriously hoping you are joking. For this, you should just elope. Oh, but I am sure you are probably expecting great wedding gifts on top of your $40 cover charge. You are VERY SELFISH. Your wedding & honeymoon shouldn't be about the money. Why should your parents give you more money, they have probably caved in to all your whining all your life. Good Luck to your future husband, he's gonna need it...along with 5 jobs to keep you happy.
2007-12-07 01:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by ilene m 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes it is wrong to ask for a cover charge and even the suggestion that your parents could chip in from their retirement fund is unthinkable! are you that selfish that you would expect them to do this. You mention about Hawaii being old....a lot of people dream of Hawaii. I get the feeling from what you have written that you are not mature enough to be getting married because its about ME ME ME!!! Where does your future husband fit into the picture, he must be stressing about it more than you because you want so much. I think you need to get your priorities in order and work around these. If you can't afford all the luxuries of your wedding why don't you just wait until you are able to afford that dream Holiday in Italy and go to Hawaii in spite of it being boring.....(I've never heard of Hawaii being boring but then again I come from a pooooooooooooor family line) Wow I'd love to visit there one day....Whatever your decision I hope your Wedding Day is beautiful and all the best for your future
2007-12-06 19:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Janice G 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
"live within your means..."
1) downgrade something in the wedding...
2) downgrade something in the honeymoon...
3) reschedule the wedding and save up some more money...
1) My husband and I did our wedding for under $1000.
2) We didn't even have a honeymoon.
3) We felt that the wedding needed to happen at that time, so we dealt with what that meant.
I don't mean to be harsh, but you really need to grow up.
2007-12-07 07:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my.....how do you say....SPOILED BRAT!!!
Your husband to be is in for a rough ride....Oh poor you...only being able to go to Hawaii....I'm so sad for you....let me wipe my tears!
Get a life!!! Some people on here are doing a wedding for $300. You are spoiled and a bridezilla to boot!
Yea...go ahead and charge people....that is totally unique and something I have never heard of! Don't be surprised if they turn and run. Your wedding will be one to be remembered. The one where you and your family sat alone as everyone else left before they paid the cover charge. Cover charge is for a band at a bar.....not a wedding reception!
2007-12-07 04:26:08 · answer #11 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋