i like this girl alot she has 2 kids, and we have been spending time together, she told me she didn't have a boyfriend, tonight she sent me a message saying she was being evicted from her apartment, and has to be out by the 19th, she never said anything to me before, even though she was given a 60 day notice.
She asked me if I would give her money for christmas presents for her boys, which I would do, but then she asked me if I would find a place for her to move too, I told her I would and she asked me if I would pay the security deposit and first month's rent, I told her I would then she told me it would be her, and her boys and some other guy that will be living with her, should I go ahead and do it, or should I tell her I changed my mind?
I really like her a lot and adore her kids, but this guy she says is living with her won't get a job and won't help her pay the bills and I know she will come running to me for money every month.
what should I do?
2007-12-06 17:29:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is the one working, and paying all the bills now, he is just a loser that is just using hr for a place to live and sex, and me, well I have wanted her for a long time, not needed but wanted, guess that's a bad thing
2007-12-06 17:41:45 · update #1
You sound like You are being really nice, but she sounds like she is using you because she knows that you are a nice guy. As difficult as it is you have to stop doing things for her. She has some guy living with her, then he should be the one taking care of her. You have got to stop or you are going to have to end up taking her to Judge Judy and then Your friendship will definitely be over. Just say no.
2007-12-06 17:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lloyd S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously knows you like her and that you're a nice guy so shes using that to her advantage. Why don't you ask her why she doesn't get a job, or why this guy she wants to move in with doesn't get a job because its more his responsibility than yours if he's living there. But yes I would tell her you've changed your mind about the money.
2007-12-06 17:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by SupernaturalSweetHeart<3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, have you got a serious problem in hand. if you ask me, i wouldn't do anything. are you even sure that she has feelings for you? besides, you said she was going to live with another guy, together with her kids, right? In the sight of God and even of man, this is wrong. they say you couldn't love without giving...but that is within reason. you don't have to pay the rent or anything just to please her or to prove to her that you love. if she's sticking with you because you're tolerating her or even giving her a bed of roses, then it isn't love at all. if that's what she's after, then honestly speaking, she's not worth the trouble. love is give and take. believe me, what you have right at the moment isn't true love at all. Pray to God. He will surely be the One to take care of everything. Also ask other people, your family perhaps, who are much more able to help you with your predicament. God bless!
2007-12-06 17:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by nene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you've changed your mind. She's treating you like an atm machine! You have no reason to do that for her since she's staying with other GUY?! OMG, i can't believe you did all that for her. She doesn't sounds like she's in love with you and you deserve someone better. A lot better than her.
2007-12-06 17:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by V L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on before you lose all your money. This is not the picture of a good relationship.
2007-12-06 17:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eventhough u like ehr so much, its not ok to be pushed around so much. if she truly liked u she would not use u like that. THis is the worst advice ever but u should sto loving her, a gut as kind as u can find another girl that loves u as much as u love her
2007-12-06 17:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a one-punch knockout the the face of the other guy...
2007-12-06 17:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt pay unless she ditched the loser.
2007-12-06 17:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pa.........LEASE!!!!!!!!! common sense dude....if I have to tell you then you deserve what you get...the world is cruel especially if you are blinded and dumb
2007-12-06 17:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would help her out a little bit but not all of it.
2007-12-06 17:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by stars_086 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋