Life is tooooooo short to F-Up a relationship because of that...Enjoy each other and enjoy life...
If your 35 and want children like yesterday then worry...If not then be a good girlfriend and understand him and his situation...Otherwise you will ruin this relationship and start all over...Wait 2-3 more years then realize you dont like the new guy and wish you didnt F-UP what you had before...
2007-12-06 17:31:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Hi, first off its possible for a younger sibling to get married before an older one, it happens many times. Sometimes the older siblings are mature enough to understand and they don't take it so bad. I would say if you both want to get married and see each other as someone you would want to spend the rest of your life together with. Then he should go to his parents and explain to them how he feels and they should be understanding and agree to let him marry you. If his parents don't agree then try to appeal to their emotion, don't use logic, but he should explain how happy he will be if he marries you. Parents want what is best for their child, if they see he is really happy with you then they will want him to marry you too. If you feel you like you would rather he waits till he tells his parents then you can do that. But realize that in doing so you might feel committed to him and you can be loosing a chance to meet other people, other prospective matches. After those 2-3 years you are willing to wait if he still didn't talk to his parents then that could show its not so important to him and you might decide he's not for you after all. Then every person you meet afterwards, you will be comparing them to this person and no one will match up again. So my advice is that he should go his parents now and explain the situation.
2007-12-06 17:38:36
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answered by twingal01 4
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This guy must care about you but he's obviously not ready to get married. If he was ready he would do anything he could to make it happen. I would have a serious talk and explain to him that you are ready to be married now because you love him but are only willing to wait for him for about 1 year. 2-3 years is a long time to wait for someone who might never come around, and I don't care how old you are! Give him a specific time frame, like "I expect us to be engaged before next December". He'll probably be upset that you are giving him an ultimatum, so explain to him that you aren't trying to upset him, but that you are ready to be married now and another year is long enough for you to wait for him to decide if he wants to be married to you. Be prepared to walk away from the relationship if he doesn't keep his word. If that's what happens, you deserve better anyway. Good luck!
2007-12-07 04:52:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Get out of that relationship right now---he is either a momma's boy or already married and just leading you on. Either way, you will be waiting for him for the rest of your life, then where will you be---still all alone. Tell him it's over, through, done, kaput, and walk away. Don't listen to him pleading for you to stay. If you do, you will still end up on the outside, with nothing. Good luck, honey.
2007-12-06 17:38:02
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answered by junknstuffcollector 5
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if your love is strong enough u people got to wait and see what is all going to happen at least for an year or two...then if situations are not in fever either u need forget him (or) convince your parents (or) get out of your homes....
see it all depends how efficient that guy is..if you are sure that he can look after you very well for a long time run then don't hesitate to leave every thing and every one...
even then its your life you need think 101 times b4 u take any decision....
2007-12-06 17:43:12
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answered by arvapalli s 2
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if his sisters are older than he is and they are asians or middle easterners maybe he is being considerate of his sisters and he is being truthful to you.
but you need to take the temperature yourself.
become friends with his sisters. hang out with them, sooner or later they will begin to spill the beans. be certain to be innocent, aloof and disconnected in your manner when you are with them.
do not go spilling your guts about how much you love him and you have palns to get married. if you do you will destroy any hopes of marrying him.
once they provide you with the real deal you will be equipped to make a logical decision based on the information his sisters would have disclosed to you.
where there is a will there is a way.
nothing can keep a woman from a man or a man from a women if they love each other.
2007-12-06 18:09:06
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answered by ramni222 6
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i think u if u feel that u r having a good future with this guy who cannt even talk to his parents abt u abd if not even definat that he can mary u even after 2-3 years knowing that u will lose every thing come on u know the answer just ask ur mind .......
just think abt it u will be loosing everything that u have.....
and u think he is good enough for allthose sacrifices that u will be making in those years then definately go ahaed in ur relatinship otherwise u know the answer & yes if u think u wanna know somethging more can feel free to discuss it.
my id is earlguy_2005@yahoo.co.in
2007-12-06 17:49:03
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answered by earlguy_2005 2
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how old are you guys? You sound quite young to be so dependent on the parents opinion..
I would say that if his parents' opinion is this important to him then you, as a possible future daughter-in-law, should try to respect this and wait. 2-3 years is not much when you are in love.
2007-12-06 17:30:44
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answered by Tryinghard 1
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This is the "nth" letter ,I have seen in these columns.
I just wonder how parents tire themselves out to bring up teir daughter and look upon her as the finest parrot in their garden
That blessed creature, not knowing the ways of te world, falls in love with wily guy, who is daring enough to love a girl but dare not tell his parents!!
IT remind s me of the Tamil adage: "Elavam kaaththa kili!"
( the foolish parrot which remained waiting for the silk-ctton fruit to ripen and burst to taste its sedds, but when it bursts the seeds get scattered and her waiting had been futile).
Act in keeping with your age as well as standing in the society!.Further, if you cannot make your parents go up in public estimate, nothijng is lost! But, fore heaven's sake dont let them down by your irresponsible deeds!
2007-12-07 01:48:17
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answered by The Tribune 5
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If the parents dont agree and this man istens to them then you wot get married.If he really loved you he would marry you anyhow.
But if you really loved him then you would be willing to wait.
You need to talk to him and find out exactly where you stand as a couple together you both sould be able to make a descion.
2007-12-06 17:33:53
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answered by Anonymous
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