she doesnt really wanna tell anyone yet...its been almost a week....i dont think its healty to keep it a secret that long...especially since he treated her so bad and she still wants him....i told my best friend and she got very upset...what should i do?
2007-12-06 17:12:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't force her to tell and she'll never forgive you if you tell. She's heartbroken and doesn't want the pity and kind words, or to look like a fool if it's not really the end. Give her a little time! She doesn't have to announce it like an engagement! When she's ready to accept that it's over, she'll tell. Let her know that she has nothing to prove and you're here for her. DON'T say I told her so. Give her lots of hugs and let her know you love her. Don't tell her there are plenty more fish or whatever. She doesn't want to hear it right now. Just be there to LISTEN (which doesn't involve talking or advising) when she needs it.
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2007-12-06 17:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres pretty little you can do about the situation, about the choices she makes on who she loves and stuff.
the best, and most, you can do is be there for her. talk to her when she needs to talk to talk, hold her hand if she needs to cry, that kinda stuff. dont allow her to moan her loss for a long time. take her out places and just be there for her,as her mom and as a friend. give her time to grieve the loss, but not too long. if she doesnt want to come back to the present, make her, make her care again about things. reassure her that its not the end of life because one the low down people let her down, that she will love again, that the pain will go away....that kinda stuff. just be close to her and shower her with alot of love. she might think you are meddling in the beginning, but eventually she will appreciate you and reciprocate accordingly.
help her get over the pain, and in time she will be able to face the world again and tell whoever she wants about the breakup. when you love someone for that long and things dont turn out right, you tend to think things will just turn right, that it is a joke and he will come back. you have to help her face reality, by talking to her and being sensitive.....
best regards and all the best
2007-12-06 18:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dar' Lene Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your daughters confidences. No wonder she doesn't want to tell you anything. Trust goes both ways.
2007-12-06 18:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect your daughters wishes and privacy. When she is ready then she will talk about it. Not your place.
2007-12-06 18:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Leave the girl alone. It is her life not yours.
2007-12-06 17:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, she will tell people when she's ready or they will figure it out.
2007-12-06 17:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by R H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, let her deal with it in her own way.
2007-12-06 17:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ginie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone
2007-12-06 17:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋