I have been living with / in a relationship with a guy for 3 years now and i love him but hes not very caring and is kind of rude to me sometimes, not to mention alot of other things. Things are declining quickly, i am really unhappy at times, im begining to question weather or not i actually love him anymore, i am unsure. I just found out a few days ago that last year when we were broken up he created a child with his ex girlfriend. This is an even bigger turn off. He doesnt want to be a father and support it at all. Anyways in the mean time i have met a guy whom i adore. He is great, and he can give me everything, respect, love, kindness, and everything my boyfriend cannot. I can really see a future with this guy. Do you think i should break up and move out of the house, and be with the guy who treats me a lot better? Or stay? It will be the hardest thing ive ever had to do, but sometimes you just have to let go right?
2007-12-06 17:08:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As Doctor Phil would say "Are you kidding me". Sound like your relationship is one side girl. Get out, get yourself right. Love yourself. I've been married 33 years and have not felt anything like what you are feeling. Girl take care of you first. He'll just keep you down.
2007-12-06 17:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to leave your boyfriend, do it because things are not working out between you two. Do not do it just because of another guy. I would advice to end the relationship you are in, if you are not happy and do not foresee a future. Be alone for a while, if the new guy is so "great" he will understand that you can't just jump into a brand new relationship so fast. Breaking up is a process and there are wounds to be healed taking time to deal with these issues will only make you stronger and wiser. Reflect on things you can better within yourself and try to identify the things that you fell sort on. All in all, I would advice you not to jump in a relationship so quickly. I know it sounds trivial and played but f it is meant to be it will be. Good Luck!
2007-12-07 01:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look it doesnt take a genius to figure out that ur current boyfriend is not really the stuff prince charmings are made of. and u have met a better guy. and yet u have put up dis question here. so what is holding u back? what stops from leaving this guy? is it the security? the force of habit? or do u really love him and thr are things in ur relationship that could work out wid time n effort? often relationships do leave us unhappy, but that is also cuz we care enuff about it. n we care only when the person has done something to make himself worthy of being cared about. look, if there are no redeeming factors abt ur bf n ur relationship, say goodbye. but think things through, both with ur heart and mind. afterall love is always a chance we take...
2007-12-07 01:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by rum_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a person who has lived in an abusive relationship I would have to say it is time to move on. But and here is a big but, I would move out on your own. Do not move into another mans house after living with a man especially after leaving such an unhealthy relationship. Because if you have confided in this new man about your problems with the current man he could be figuring out your weaknesses and when the honey moon is over so to speak things may repeat themselves. I hope that makes sense. And when you leave the guy that you are with now unless there are children involved I would break all ties with this guy cause it seems like he would just cause more problems and try to lure you back and then things will get even worse. Which it seems you have gone that route with him already. Also, take things slow with this new guy just because he can give you the moon, you need to prove to yourself you do not need to depend on a man for anything, and take care of yourself. The most important thing for your to do is to heal yourself before you committ to another person again!
I hope that this helps, and I wish you the best of luck you will be in my prayers.
2007-12-07 01:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by kstufflebean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, sometimes you do just have to let go. Your current boyfriend isn't good for you. You have listed so many reasons to leave.
It's only hard to let go because you are in a comfort zone with your current boyfriend. He is all you have known for the past 3 years...good or bad. It's scary to step out of that comfort zone into the unknown. Your relationship has become unhealthy for you. Now it's holding you back from dating other men and possibly finding true happiness.
Be strong and end the relationship with your boyfriend. Move out on your own, move back in with your parents for a short time, or find some roommates. Give yourself time to heal from your relationship before beginning another one. Take things slow with this new guy if you want to pursue a relationship with him. Make sure you really know him before committing yourself. Be sure he's not a dream you have created to escape your current unhappiness (I have done this!).
Be true to yourself, and figure out what you want and don't want in a relationship. Then go find it! Don't settle for less! You deserve it!
Best wishes!
2007-12-07 01:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the hardest thing is the best thing,sweety get out of the house because you will regret it later on...you dont deserve to be treated like that no one does...do what is best for you...i was in love with this guy he was my first and everything but one day he decided to put his hands on me and said it was enough....i knew i should be treated WAY BETTER! it was very hard i cried more then i can imagine but im over it now and im happier then ever i met someone knew who provides me with everything i need and want so leave hun...good luck =]
2007-12-07 01:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy your with now, has too many red flags to continue this relationship. You say you met someone who treats you a whole lot better. Besides the point of that, it sounds like your best move would be to move on anyway, i know its gonna be tough, but you have to look out for you.
2007-12-07 01:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by toknomskim 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first go out with the new guy for a month or so and c if he is realy the one but on the downlow before u start a relationship but in the mean time dump your man if you are unhappy run as far as you could,coz if he can't take care of his kid who says that he will take care of yours oneday.
2007-12-07 01:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by auris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is remotely similar (minus the baby part). I strongly think you should leave. Your hapiness comes first. Please remember that. It really is the hardest decision to make. I'm planning to leave myself. I've tried everything. Including requesting time apart from each other TWO YEARS AGO. He swore to me we could make it work and didn't want to take the time. I'm still in the same situation. Much happier when we're apart.
Don't be like me. Make that change.
2007-12-07 01:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by luckeesevenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the one to worry about. If he treats you like this now, how will he treat you down the road. Go for the happiness. He needs to realize that he can't treat people like that and doing so will only land his sorry butt alone. You owe yourself the right to be happy and if that means you leave, then that is what you have to do. Good luck!
2007-12-07 01:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by wif_a_tude 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋