In 2004 I lost my first love to suicide. We weren't together at the time but we had been together for 8 years off and on and had the most amazing connection. When he commited suicide I was living 200 miles away. I left as soon as I could and was their through everything. His best friends, or as he called them his brothers are my best friends too and we all stuck together to help eachother through. 3 1/2 years later I still miss him like crazy...Why can't I let go and believe he's in a better place? Why do I want just one last hug, or one last kiss? Shouldn't I have faith that I will see him on the other side?
2007-12-06 17:04:33 · 14 answers · asked by tattoodangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think when you love someone and lose them it is hard to let go and it becomes worse when it is something like a suicide or a death that should not have happened - In my case it was a girl who took anti-acids instead of going to a doctor and the anti-acids destroy the potassium needed for the heart so she died in her sleep simply because of taking those. It doesn't matter if you are religious and believe you will see them on the other side or not, it is still a loss and I suspect that you do the same thing I do from time to time, think back to see what I could have done differently. Like me though, you have to realize that you did what you felt was right at the time and now have to move on. You never forget that love but you find another love, not to take the place of the other but to make life enjoyable now. I am sure he would want you to find somone else just as my friend would but it is hard to do until you are ready to do that. Good Luck to you!!
2007-12-06 17:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not lost the love of my life but in the past couple of years I have lost my mother and brother it's been a hard couple of years. I for one lived over 1000 miles away and the thing I miss the most is one last call. I was fortunate to hear my mom say she loved me, this took all her ability because she was hard of hearing and was died of breast cancer. As for my brother I had a dream that he was playing with my sister on the other side. I knew right away he and my sister were okay. Mom came to me when I was driving the car to see her at exactly 2:30 pm on Nov 1 I felt her hand on my check and woke-up my husband and told him we were to late. We got to the hospital and she had died a at 2:31 pm on Nov 1. Dream of him and you will get what you need.
2007-12-06 17:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about ur loss. something like a suicide is, i believe, harder to get over than if they had passed naturally. we r left wishing even more that we had that last connection. my cousin killed herself almost 9 years ago, and i still have moments where i grieve for her, and hope that she is in a better place than she was on earth. keep him in your heart, and have faith that u will c him again. keep in touch w all ur friends and his friends that went through this with u and remember the times u all had together. what they say about time healing all wounds is true, it just doesnt happen as fast as we would like it to sometimes. if u r open to it, u might try to find a group for the loved of of suicides where u can talk about ur feelings with others who have gone through this.
best wishes
2007-12-06 17:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by carmen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your loved one.
This may sound a bit out of the ordinary, but I read a great book that deals with this subject in some respect and it did help me bring some peace with losing a loved one. It will always hurt, but believing there can be more will help you. The book is called Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian Weiss. It deals with transgression therapy and what happens to our souls after the physical form (our body) passes on. I highly recommend reading it, as for $11, it may inspire you to believe and realize that our souls really do live on and that we truly do have soul mates.
"Amazon.com
Psychiatry and metaphysics blend together in this fascinating book based on a true case history. Dr. Weiss, who was once firmly entrenched in a clinical approach to psychiatry, finds himself reluctantly drawn into past-life therapy when a hypnotized client suddenly reveals details of her previous lives. During one hypnosis session his client introduces the spirit guides who have been her soul therapists in between lives. This is when the story really takes off for Weiss, who discovers that these guides have specific messages about his dead son as well as Weiss's mission in life. No, we cannot verify the truth of this story using the limited scientific tools we have available. However, it is hard to dispute that this well-respected graduate of Columbia University and Yale Medical School has discovered a personal truth that has led him to be an enormously popular speaker, author, and leader in the field of past-life therapy. --Gail Hudson "
Here is the amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/Many-Lives-Masters-Prominent-Psychiatrist/dp/0671657860/ref=ed_oe_p
2007-12-06 17:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost the 'love of my life' in a plane crash many years ago. I wish I could say 40 years later that it gets better, but the only thing I can say for you is, "Life goes on." You'll go on, you'll just get used to not seeing him. It never gets better, but it gets easier. I wish I had some magic words for you but I don't. Consider yourself lucky to have had a 'love of your life,' many people don't. You'll have other loves and they'll reap the benefits from the love you lost. You've learned appreciation for life and love.
2007-12-06 18:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by DUKE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so deeply sorry. I pray everyday that nothing ever happens to my first love, my boyfriend. You will see him again one day and you wont get a last hug...youll get plenty. you just need to pray alot for the forgivness of his sins by taking his own life. I am so deeply sorry and you are so strong for holding on! I will pray for you and him!
2007-12-06 17:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't loose mine to suicide, but I still grieve somewhat for my love. He's been gone for about 7 years and I still think, feel and cry for him. It would be nice to have what we had, but I don't really think I will experience it here and now, until we meet again.
2007-12-06 17:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible. no i lost the girl i loved the most to the fact that she decided to (with out any damned reason) ditch me for another guy, i blame the fact she was bipolar still hurts me today
2007-12-06 17:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWW..... I feel SO sorry for you :o(
I cant even bear to think how heartbroken i'd be if i lost my boyfriend who I believe is my first real true love
2007-12-06 17:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cha cha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She died from ovarian cancer. She was the most beautiful woman I have ever known. I think about her all the time.
2007-12-06 17:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by afreeman20035252 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋