I'm so fortunate but I'm unhappy?

Question

Every 5 minutes I feel like crying because I don't see what the point of being here is. I'm so fortunate, I was born into a middle class stable family. I know I'm going to die though, I know no one will remember me when I'm dead. I know no one will care. Just the fact that I care that no one cares drives me crazy because I don't really like anybody anyways. I don't like the whole human thing. I was a lot happier before I was born and I wish I was never born. I wish my mom would have had an abortion or I was never conceived. I liked life better before when I was born.

Does anyone else feel this way? If so how do you deal with it?

I don't want professional help. I think it's better to deal with this stuff on your own.

Do you feel that life is pointless? I know there are ways to be happy but I'm beyond that. I just want to know what the point of being here is. There is no point! It bugs me that I have to go through this sh*t for no reason at all.

Yes I have a stable family. They are mortal too in case you didn't know. This is not a pity party this is the first time I've ever said anything about how I'm feeling. I've been feeling like this for a long time.

I know I have it good, I was a missionary. That makes me feel guiltier and more hopeless. I feel there's nothing I can do for these people.

Sure I pick recyclable things out of garbage cans and I recycle them, sure I donate money to good causes, One of them sends kids to university who can't afford it. Sure I donate to homeless shelters. Sure I encourage people to buy fair trade. But it's not enough, it never will be.

It's the fact that I have to go through this sh*t for nothing. It pisses me off.

Answer 1

I use to feel that way a long long time ago.

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If you need a shoulder to cry on or just need to vent I'll be there, you'll have my address .
it will be up to you if you want to talk babe.

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Answer 2

It doesn't matter if people are more or less fortunate than you. People react differently to different situations. Some less fortunate people are totally happy with their lives and some are not. Some rich people are totally happy, some are not. Some middle class people are happy, and some, like you, are not. Some of them also have clinical depression. You, my friend, have clinical depression.

You don't want professional help--then what do you want? You NEED professional help. I don't mean the kind where you have to go get meds. You just need to talk some things through with someone. You're middle class and you can afford the luxury of a therapist--use what you've got! If someone poor saw that you had the resources to get psychological help when you needed it and you weren't using it, they'd be even more mad at you than if you just 'sucked it up'. You're lucky, yes. So don't just let it lie around, use it for the better--and bettering yourself will make the world a nicer place to be in, for you and for all of us. That's all you can really do, be the best that you can be. You're not doing the world any good by feeling so miserable.

Get to a therapist. I don't care if it's not what you want to hear. You need it and it's available to you. You have depression. Bottom line. The sooner you get better, the sooner you can get out in the world and make a difference. If you keep feeling this way, no good will come out of it. If you had cancer, would you sit at home and say "I don't need professional help." No! This is like emotional cancer, my friend. Do what you have to do to be healthy. Please.

Answer 3

You have to know that sometimes there are things we can do that will make a difference for the moment, but won't change the world. It sounds like you've done a lot as a missionary, so why do you think that your life has no purpose? Sometimes we have to MAKE life have purpose. It's normal to feel that way once in awhile, but to feel that way all the time is rather pointless.

Also, it all depends on how old you are. If you're still living under your parents' roof, you might feel as though you have no control in your life whatsoever. I felt that way when I lived with my parents. Now that I have a bit more control (not total control, but...) I know that there are things that I can do. True, if I help feed the homeless on Thanksgiving, I'm not going to solve the homeless problem, but at the same time I can know that I contributed something.

If you want to leave your mark in this world, you'll need to join a group and make a difference. Know that one small difference can be a large one if you think it is. You may not be able to make it President of the U.S. but there are still many worthwhile things that you can do in your life.

Answer 4

Most of us who don't want professional help, are afraid of our fears.. it's painful to face them, hon.

Many of us are depressive, and maybe that is what the problem is? I have had a lot of death wishes in my life, too.. i couldn't care less if i am here or not... and sometimes, i just don't see the point either.

But since i have to be here, i try to fill my life with things i like to do... i've talked to my doctor and therapists and have gotten a lot of inner issues resolved in my life.

Sometimes just setting small goals helps... and taking up a hobby. Being productive in some way is a good idea, and it helps you to see you can actually accomplish something, even while you're miserable. You could take a karate class, art class, go to a art/craft store and see what sort of projects might interest you.

You can set a goal to get certain things done... such as, if you want to paint your room, plan to have it done by March... just simple little things might help.

I'd also like to mention that if you are depressed, and feeling this way, it could be a chemical imbalance in your brain. Whatever the problem it's not your fault and you have done nothing to cause this...

Deal with it by seeing your doctor, is my best advice...

You can also do Yahoo searches for COPING WITH DEPRESSION, or LOST THE WILL TO LIVE, even? Just search for whatever you feel your issues are, and you should come up with website results for information and probably support.

I sure hope things improve... i'll be thinking of you. take care.

Answer 5

I can promise you someone does care. If they didn't care you wouldn't be here in the first place.

Whenever I've felt like you do I've tried talking to my friends or my mom. I know that sounds cheesy, but if they can't tell that you're upset because your hiding it so well, they can't see your call for help. And that is what makes it seem like no one cares.

If your parents don't know about how you feel you should ask them to see a psychologist. Make sure that you go see a good one, not just anyone that charges $25.
Once I went to see a psychologist and I was happy at the time, when I left I was so angry with her because she sucked that bad.

Also, I have PMDD (self diagnosed), so whenever I feel upset with someone or with myself I write it all down in a journal. A lot of times it helps to describe your exact feelings on paper and not have to worry about what anyone else will say or think of you. It also helps get out any aggression or sadness.

And, theres nothing wrong with a good cry. Usually when you cry it makes you feel a lot better than before because it lets out the bad feelings.

Working out when you're upset also helps. Because it lets you get let out your emotions in a healthy way.

If you don't want to tell anyone about how you're feeling I suggest finding a hobby, or a place that relaxes you and doing it whenever you feel upset or angry.

Also, good luck. I'm sure so many people are happy to have you in their lives and they would be sad to see you go.

Answer 6

If you were born into a "stable family" then why do you say no one cares? That does not make sense. You have no memory prior to your birth, and wishing you were never born solves nothing because you are here.

Sounds to me like you are having a great big pity party for yourself. How about doing something productive, maybe for someone else? This time of the year, many people are collecting food for those who have none, going to soup kitchens and serving food, etc. Those things will touch your life and you will see how good you have it.

Answer 7

I spent 30 years feeling almost exactly that way and not knowing there was a better way to feel out there. With much help I found the right balance and will no longer tolerate the uselessness of depression. If you really want help but not pharmaceuticals, talk to a pro about various mental exercises to help get the happy cells going. Exercise and laugh every day. Even if you have to do a fake laugh, it really does help. Of course nothing will help if you don't really want it to. Happy hunting.

Answer 8

Spirituality. You're lacking spirituality. No purpose in life. Your not a alone. Mental Illness is a massive problem in all First-world countries. Just read the stats. And everyone says the same thing "excercise, counselling, diet" They all help don't get me wrong. But if it was that simple why is it such an epidemic problem. You need to find spirituality...You need to begin your search for spirituality. Hard journey! Good luck!

Answer 9

i recommend seeing a psychiatrist and getting their opinion.. they may be able to suggest medications if needed or alternatives to medications if your would like.. and talk therapy is very beneficial.. the best thing about a therapist is that they don't know you.. therefore they don't have any personal opinions towards you.. so you get honest, unbiased help..

sometimes people need a little help to get better.. don't totally rule out therapy..

the best depression/anxiety reliever i can recommend is exercise.. it takes your focus off what's bothering you and hey it's just good in general.. exercise also releases serotonin, dopamine and a few other nuerotransmitters in your brain.. serotonin helps you sleep and dopamine is related to pleasure and happiness.. those chemicals i just mentioned are the ones that your brain lacks when depressed.. exercise helps to balance them.. this has been clinically proven to work faster and longer than medication.. simply taking a twenty minute walk each day could really help..

exercise also releases endorphins.. the body's natural pain killers.. this is related to "runner's high"..

other than exercise you could try deep breathing, muscle relaxation techniques, meditation, yoga, listening to music, writing in a journal, or talking to a friend about it.. i also drink ungodly amounts of tea.. haha..

get a good social support network.. talk to a friend or family member about how you feel..

take time out for yourself each day.. to just reflect, relax, and settle your thoughts.. do things that relax you and that you enjoy..

warm milk also helps to produce serotonin.. so maybe drinking a glass before you go to sleep may help..

try to get at least an hour of sunlight each day.. this also helps to balance your brain chemistry and produces serotonin..

eat a healthy diet.. and drink lots of water..

realized you were blessed with a life and take advantage of that..

the point is that some people were born with less than you but still make it a point to TRY to be happy.. the point is that you were given a life to LIVE.. you have a family and a mother that carried you for nine months so that you could LIVE.. that's the point.. embrace it..

just try to make the best of things.. it may be hard, but it's essential to survive..

i really hope this helps.. and best of luck

Answer 10

I know exactly how you feel, and all the well-meaning folks who try to help me with their platitudes only make me feel more alone and misunderstood. I am 65, and can truthfully say that I have felt the same as you all my life!! So, at least we know we're not alone in this despair. There's a great song called, " Is that all there is?" Have you heard it? Sort of sums it up, doesn't it?
Psychiatrists and their prescriptions do not help. That is, for deep, endogenous depression like you and I suffer from, there seems to be no respite. And though it sounds like we are wallowing in self-pity, you and I would love to be happy, and hate this sadness and 'what's it all about' cloud we live under.

Answer 11

I know how you feel, or, at least, an aproximation. I'm also fortunate, and also depressed. I don't know what to say to you other than it will pass! Professional help hasn't really helped me, but what has helped is talking to my friends and writing in a journal. When I read this, it seems so real to me because I live that so often. Know this will pass. I won't recommend to you how I deal because I started to cut myself and it's a horrible way to deal but I'm stuck in it and it feels like the only thing that makes sense. If you need someone to talk to email me [e-mail] and we can talk.