what would be a good book for a family to read that is grieving the death of their son/brother?

Question

all of us were in the accident and all severly injured compounded with the loss of our child/brother we are just now starting the healing process and are ready to get our lives back in order..

Answer 1

For grief related depression, go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: (U.S.A.) 1800 445 4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email [e-mail] Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 Understand that there are often several stages of grief.
The stages are:

Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one and divorce. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two.

See http://www.amazon.com/ for books on the various stages. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside one day per month on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. If the depression continues, visit your doctor, and see depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris in section 2.
Suggested Resources on Grief and Mourning

Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, http://www.boblivingstone.com/.

Livingstone, B. (Planned August, 2007). The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books.

Simon, S, & Drantell, J. J. (1998). A Music I No Longer Heard: The Early Death of a Parent, Simon and Schuster.

Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press.

James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins.

Worden, J. W. (2001). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Professional, Springer Publishing.

Answer 2

Unsure what age you're but if I used to be more youthful I truthfully idea if as a substitute well while anybody died. Not if it were my mum and dad or an aunt/uncle so very practically. In fact, mainly uncles all of us mostly appreciated them however there wasn't a robust emotional bond. The relaxation of the household might truthfully have this if surviving there's a mother or father, spouse, son, daughter, brother,sister. In their case certainly the bond may be very robust. What I don't forget approximately the deaths inside out household outwith my nearest and dearest used to be so might humans coming to the wake, family, cousins and many others you hadn't visible for a while. Don't suppose responsible you mostly are grieving simply as might be anticipated for an uncle and despite the fact that I am a lot older and with a bit of luck wiser now I do not suppose there used to be some thing unsuitable with me on the time.

Answer 3

The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James.

There are many bad things that happen in life, but we all must realize that bad/good/mediocre...are all part of life.

You are enduring a devastating loss compounded by the fact that you were all injured. Now you are ready to resume life. Do so at your own speeds, never forgetting your child/brother. Share your memories of him as often as you can without dwelling on the accident.

Anyway, the book is good and there is also a very good group associated with it.

Answer 4

I believe Maria Schriver-Swatszenegger ( the "Governators" wife) wrote a book on grieving. Also, Kubler-Ross wrote many books on the subject that are classics.

Answer 5

The Bible. Hope this helps.