So I'm the type of guy that can really fall in love when he finds the right woman. I found this girl that is essentially the woman of my dreams but she only wants to be friends and basically doesn't care one whiff about my feelings. We stayed friends (even though she's kind of cold to me sometimes) and I tried putting any thoughts of a relationship out of my mind. Everyday, I battle with my brain to keep thoughts of her out of my head. I try to pretend she doesn't exist so I can go on with my day. I really try hard to forget about her and sometimes it works but...at night, when I try to sleep, I can't. All these thoughts of her flood my mind and I toss and turn all night. I can distract myself during the day, but at night, I'm at the mercy of my idle brain. I just want to be able to sleep at night. I'm a college student and I have finals coming up. Please, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
2007-12-06 16:24:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She knows EXACTLY how I feel. Believe me. I spelled it for her in a letter.
2007-12-06 16:27:37 · update #1
tell her bro no matter what tell her to her FACE!!!
MAKe her feel guilty!!!! its all her fault!!!!!
but you can also tell her to just do a nasty act to you like just tell you off, to be a ***** or something love hurts i know but u have to try to get over her..
actually throw some ice cubes down her back and try n be a rude a**hole not the type of a**hole people dislikie but like a funny kind of ahole ya know if u mess with her and realize that shes really not all that you will get her out of your mind
stop being nice to her cuz girls don't like nice guys and it wont make her like you more, be an ahole man, aim me if u need to. Samuraipollack is my aim
throw some ice cubes down her back im telling u or toss water baloons at her i know u want to!
its all her fault dude
so super soak that *oooo
no dude don't tell her again shell just get annoyed
write songs about her and them sing them to the whole school
like she makes me feeelll soo unrealll like i got a bug stuck in my brains and its eating it all like a meal!
she makes me suicidall and i got a final! coming up please make this stop
u know?
2007-12-06 16:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by MakinMoney 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Walk away. I know its hard, but you aren't being kind or loving to yourself by staying friends with her. By hanging on you are fueling a fantasy that 1 day she may come to her senses and see what a great guy you are and fall in love with you back. Don't you deserve better than to be someones plan B? Or to be pushed aside while they play the field and then "settle" for you. You sound great. Once you resolve yourself and start to see other women, you will start to sleep. The hurt will subside, and eventually you will realize that you haven't thought about her all day. Then you will really be ok. Don't let her make you bitter or use you. Be better than that. Keep an open mind and heart and it will be rewarded with someone who loves you. In the meantime, an over the counter sleep aid for a couple of days only, so you can think with a rested mind and body.
2007-12-07 00:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amy J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need to study for your test, put on rock n roll music because you won't think about her and you will do good on your finals. Just wait for the right moment to tell her the truth that you have feelings for her and that you will cherish her. At night, You need to play Jazz music and just annoy her in your dreams and try to have a nice rest. I don't know exactly what to do. Go to a doctor or somebody that can help you out. no offense At least I try my best. Jared
2007-12-07 00:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the answer, and this is from experience, you're lovesick! lovesickness can cause depression, anxiety and other annoying symptoms. I used to have it so bad i wouldnt even be able to work.
so heres some tips: Count sheep, doing this will force you to get your mind off of her. Count sheep and actually visualize the sheep hopping over a fence. Write poems or songs about her, this will get your feelings out and let you release them. Take some tylenol pm's, or if you find you have really bad insomnia, goto you're doctor and get prescribed a sleep aid, like ambien. Just because your having problems because of a girl doesnt mean you're not having real problems, noone should have to suffer insomnia.
2007-12-07 00:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your thoughts start out with her but run into other thoughts as well. Its not only her thats running through your brain at night. Your brain is not slowing during the sleep process. On top of school, and this girl, what else is going on? Your a bit obsessed with her. Get over it. She knows your interested, if she was interested in you she would of returned her interest. She is not. Is this her fault? No. Thats her choice. You can't force someone to have feelings for you if they don't. Thats her loss. Not yours. Continue to flourish in school and meet other people. I still say your brain is in over drive and its not only her running through it. My only suggestion is to see your physician first to get their input about your overly active brain during regular sleep intervals. If you choose not to see a physican seek some counseling so you can vent about what stresses you out during any given day.
2007-12-07 00:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u try some music like hard rock or hip hop something with a fast beat, or watch a thought provoking movie or show while trying to sleep something that makes u focus on it.
Also, it maybe that u need to tell her how u feel face to face for one more time, because the thoughts of her not 100% knowing ur true feelings may make u think more about it.
2007-12-07 00:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by Alternative Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i was in that positon once, it was so bad that during the day i called her name out of the blue and start thinkning about her, its silent pain, i couldnt get over her and i kept having her in my mind like if shes stuck in there.well sadly i went to school with her everyday and with that i coudlt get over her until i got tired and didnt care. i just had it in my head that i stopped caring for her it didnt work well. but about 1 1/2 years later my feelings were completley gone. it was when we graduated and i stopped seeing her i think that was the trick. i think u should stop seeing her and the feelings would go away.
2007-12-07 00:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by irock! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully, and most likely, this is a phase. but seeing as to how you have finals coming up and you need to snap out of it, you need to find a distraction. i suggest staying close to the girl, but only as friends. if it is meant to be more, then it will! just give it time and hopefully you can be able to focus on studying. group studying will probably help you think about school instead of her. good luck :]
2007-12-07 00:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by chiclilgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your self a journal book with blank pages in it that you know no one will find............. write your feelings and what ever else you like to write about in that book ............. at first it will feel a little wierd but you will find it will help you deal with your feelings for her and will help you sleep ...you may do this alot during the night but one day you will be able to have a restful sleep all through the night ...you may want this journal beside your bed for when you are restless and cant sleep or wake up continously
2007-12-07 00:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on, let it go!
You just said it right there in your question... she doesn't care about your feelings, so really, is she that worth it? even to stay good friends with?
i doubt she's the girl for you, she's not treating you nicely!
move on! tell yourself you deserve better
2007-12-07 00:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋