My crush...please help!?

Question

I have a crush on a sophomore and I am a freshman. My BFF is the only one that knows and she is determined to get us together. (I'm to much of a wimp to make the first move) She is planning to get him to tutor us over the weekend at my house, but I have to ask him to tutor us. Do I just flat out ask him? Oh, and she said I should flirt while he's here, but subtlely. I am the worlds worst person at flirting, any tips are VERY greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Well if you really need tutoring then you should find out if he's good at what you need help in, then start talking to him.

Answer 2

No. You give him clues and hints, and flirt with him too, yeah, and maybe try to....mesmerize him and he'd probably fall in love with you and ask you. You can't ask him. Why would you want to make the first move anyway? I mean, without any notification or any notice of that he likes you back, you'll have fear of rejection. Best you should just tell him how you feel and see if he likes you the same way. If not, oh well, you can move on and probably have a crush on another guy, that is unless you dont want to. If he does like you, then by all means DON'T ask him. Let HIM ask YOU. I mean, if YOU were to ask HIM, I dont mean to offend you, but you would be playing the role a guy should be playing right there. Girls never make the first move as far as I know. And trust me, I know girls. I hang around them everyday after school. Ive asked them if they ever play that role and ask the guy instead the other way around, and you know what they said? They all said no. So not under any circumstances is there an excuse to ask the guy unless he's not catching on after the hints and clues. And do you even know if he's single or not? Because if he is the plan could totally work out. If not, however.. the plan might go beserk and not work out. And about your earlier comment being too much of a wimp to make the first move, this takes me back to the "playing the role of the guy". Dont do that. And as for flirting...well, ask your BFF about that, as I'm no good at that either.

Answer 3

I'll give you some insight and this is coming from a 20-something girl who has been in your shoes before (different context, same idea). I know it's hard being shy and hearing or seeing your friends do things so naturally - it's aggravating, right?! Well, this will pass, so for now, just BE YOURSELF. "Trying" to flirt is just awkward, and if you're not a flirty person in general, then forcing yourself to flirt is going to feel and come out strange. Flirting should come naturally, and it usually does if you actually like the person and are in a comfortable atmosphere with them. With that being said, let yourself be you, and if you end up being a little flirty, then you do; if you don't, then who cares? I'm sure this guy isn't too stupid to figure out when a girl has a thing for him. And YES, you definitely should be the to ask him to tutor you - if you don't, he might get the wrong message that your friend digs him instead; So, if he's under the impression that you need help with a subject and tutoring is a normal thing to do on the weekend, then just find a time at passing period or after school to stop him and casually ask him if he wouldn't mind hanging out to help you with your school stuff (whatever it is). Let things progress from there and see how it goes.. Hopefully you'll be able to find chemistry between you two and he'll like you for being you - flirtatious or not :)

Answer 4

There is nothing you need to worry if you take the first move. Just be yourself and confident. Personally, I don't think getting him to tutor you is a good idea. Because the hidden purpose is not for studying. He will concentrate on tutoring you while you will try to flirt him. If he is a good guy (i mean serious in studying) he would take a bad impression on you. So here is some suggestions of mine:
If you guys are taking the same class, sit next to him one day and you can ask him to explain one thing about that day’s lecture. Pick something hard otherwise you would look silly. From that you can develop your conversation with him. If he is open, you can later ask for his advice on what courses you should take, which professors are good for next semester. During the conversation, try to find topics that you are familar or good at and go into it. I am sure you would have hours of talking to each other. Another option is, find out where he is from. If he is from another town where your university is, you can offer to show him around the town. If you are not from that town, then tell him that you know places that you think beautiful and interesting from a visitor’s perspective.
If you guys are not taking the same class, approach him one day and ask him something about browsing your university’s digital library. You should come up with a book that is interesting to discuss and you should be familar or good at the topic or field. Because after he helps you find it, you can thank him and ask if he has ever read that book. You can go on and say how good the book it. Notice, focus on studying interest first, then you can move to other topics such as music, travelling... and don't forget to be yourself and confident. Good guys like confident girls.

I don’t know how you met that guy. I hope my tips help.

Answer 5

It sounds like you're friends rushing you so #1, make sure this is something you really want to do. If you feel too pressured you could always insist to your friend that you want to take it slower.

Also, remember you're asking him to tutor you and not to be your boyfriend. If you think asking him to tutor you is going to be a clear enough sign from him that you want him to be your boyfriend, I'm pretty sure that being a 15-year old he'll be highly confused. Have you considered that he might even be suspicious of you wanting him to tutor you, if he himself doesn't have good grades? So if you're going to go through with this plan of getting to know this guy through the false pretext of a study session, you might want to make sure everything works out logistically: Him having better grades than you, it being close to some big exam, etc.

You might want to just talk to him at school for a while before you approach that threshold.

Answer 6

Why dont u just pass him a note and ask him if he would be interested in tutoring u both. As far as flirting, be really interested in what he is saying and tell him often how smart he is and give him other compliments then say something like your girlfriend must really appreicate you, b/c I would if I was your gf. Go off of his cues.

Answer 7

Oh ok i just had something like this happen to me. What you do is YOU ask him to tutor you and then kinda make friends with him, but try not it make it obvious to him. start talking about how maybe you guys should hang out sometime instead of just tutoring. =)

Answer 8

maybe not flat out ask him, try to work up to the question in a non-awkward way
also you can flirt by being very physical, mess around with him(not like mean tho), laf at his jokes even if there not funny

Answer 9

Please tell him before its too late and he's with someone.I wish I had been bold enough to tell my "crush" before he met someone. Now its too late and Im living in the shoulda, coulda, woulda moments. You never know until you try and if you get rejected youll get over it but its better than wondering what would have happened or saying what you should have did. Go for it! :-)

Answer 10

You should definately smile at him a lot and even if he tells a stupid joke just give him a little laugh. These tips might work, hope this helps!!!