My little boy goes to school with a girl whose mom has MS. She has a very hard time just walking through the parking lot to take her little girl inside. Now that it is cold and icy where we live, I have noticed that they are not at school as much. I am assuming it is because it is hard to get around when the weather isn't cooperative. Should I offer to help her? She has been to my house with her kids before, so you could say we are "friendly", but it's a very light relationship. We just chit chat and so on. Would I be over-stepping? Should I just mind my own business? It is just in my nature to want to help but the last thing I want to do it offend her. I watch her STRUGGLE daily, and I am so ready and able to help her. What would YOU do??Thanks for you input!
2007-12-06 15:03:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are friendly with her, I think you can call her to see if everything is ok with the kid just to be nice, and not assume it's all about her MS (even tho it may be). Maybe she is having car trouble, or maybe her kid has been sick a lot- who knows? I think it would be very nice of you to try and help her out though. Even if it's walking her child home from school, or arranging a carpool or something like that. I think she would appreciate it because missing too much school would be bad for the child. If you offend her, at least you know you tried, and I think that if you didn't say something and try to help, you would feel worse than if you said something and made her feel bad. Just an opinion...good luck!
2007-12-06 15:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dig It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would step up and help. Helping sounds like a wonderful idea. You said the relationship was light. Why not get to know her a bit better? Go ahead and offer to help get her child to school. Can you offer a carpool or maybe get other parents involved in arranging transportation? Maybe let the child the night with your family once or twice a week and take both kids to school. There are all manner of things that would help.
I'm sure every effort you make would be greatly appreciated by the mother. Now that the weather has turned and it's hard for her to get around, your offer would go a long way.
You have a great heart. Thank you for that:)
2007-12-06 23:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by empresstigerlily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask if you can help out on cold icy days since you are going there anyway. I don't think she would be offended but very appreciative of the offer. My guess is she just is too afraid to ask people for help. You have met her and know of her condition, so make the offer.
2007-12-06 23:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would help her . Ask her if she would mind if maybe you bring her daughter to school for her a few times a week? There are so many ways to help and I don't believe she would be offended. I am also handicapped and at time yes I get offended but I think I am more offended by no one offering when needed.
2007-12-06 23:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by liza j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, by all means, do offer to help. As someone said, an act of kindness can never be wrong!
Good for you!
2007-12-07 00:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by luvrats 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a good and thoughtful person you are.... sometimes a person asking for help signals to themselves defeat... don't let this deter you in an offhand manor call and see if the kids want a ride.... God Bless Your Heart
2007-12-07 15:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by gidget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An act of kindness is never wrong. If she turns you down invite her to have coffee or lunch sometime so that she doenn't see your effort as an act of pity.
2007-12-07 00:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by deubee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, offer. But, I would play up the,"Well, I'm going there anyway" or "My kid enjoys your kids company" rather than the M.S. thing.
2007-12-06 23:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋