HELP! whats wrong with my sister?

Question

ok first of all my sister is 23, has 2 kids, and still lives at home, she does has a past with anxiety and panic attacks. but we thought she got better, but now she lets her boyfriends treat her like crap and cheat on them, she used to sleep around, she cant stay home alone! she wont admit it everything she says to us is a lie. in the morning when my mom is leaving for work my sister will sneak in her room quietly and wake both her kids up then after my mom leaves she bring both her kidsout of the room and takes them into her truck and sits there with it running until someone comes over or my dad is home so she can go there, she lies to make people come over she'll even invite people she hates over just so she wont be alone, she lies to me all the time bribing me to come home and everytime i do and i get there we do nothing. she always says shes dizzy, and her heart races, and my mom offers to take her to a psychiatrist but she wont admit she has problems, im not sure if its anxiety?

she also claims that there are ghosts in the house, we thought maybe shes just afraid to be in the house alone cause the ghosts, but we dont know, i dont live at home anymore and i cant deal with her, she wont even drive places by herself unless its just around the corner, but yet she still wont admit she does these things, she wont even take her kid to the apple program cause he has speech problems they offerd to give him free preeschool, and she wont even show up for the paper signing and she didnt take him to his first class, she doesnt even wanna take her other kid to preeschool, she wont clean her room, she doesnt clean the house, all she does is talk on the phone, she quits her jobs. shes still sleeping with her ex (baby daddy) and he mentally abuses her he wont take hiskids and he hasnt paid child support in almost a year. and she has a boyfriend. she pawns her kids off on everyone. she has so many more problems, and no one can deal with her anymore, WHATS WRONG WITH HER?

i know what anxiety and panic attacks are because i had the for years, i had it so bad i couldnt leave the house. but everything she does is different, she even cuts her wrists, she screams at her kids like crazy, she pays no attention to them. there always tired and crabby cause she wakes them up. my moms is trying to get her some help, but we know shes gonna lie to the phychiatrist. and wont get the right kinda help that she needs.

Answer 1

Hi Jessica. It's hard to say exactly what is wrong with your sister without meeting her. She obviously has some anxiety issues re: driving etc., and I think it's possible she has Borderline Personality Disorder. Some of the symptoms of that are self-harm, and also what they call a "I hate you, don't leave me" attitude. They need people, but they treat them badly.
It's a tricky one, but I think you are doing the right thing by involving a psychiatrist. She will lie to him as you said, but it's important for your mother or you (or both) to tell him what's going on so he'll have some idea what he's looking for despite her lies.
Best of luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like your sister needs an intervention. Get your family together and confront her. Tell her she needs to get help and if she doesn't she no longer can live at home. Someone needs to force her into some sort of counseling. Especially do it for the kids sake. It sounds like your sister is very overwhelmed with the kids and that is the reason she has to have someone with her at all times. But before you do confront her please have a plan. Call around and see if the is any programs for her.

Answer 3

I have both anxiety and panic attacks at times but this sounds like something more severe. It could be a serious mental health situation that requires a doctor's aid but with her being an adult I'm not sure how your mother could get her to one. If the cutting gets worse or she refuses to help the children then outside help may need to be called in for the sake of her kids. I'm sorry for your troubles and wish you well.

Answer 4

Well jessica its nice to see that u really care for ur sister so much. I personally feel ur sister is going through a torrid times and it is u people who have to support and help her. She is feeling insecure and wants to attract everyones attention maybe she feels that nobody cares for her anymore. but counselling by family member alone cannot be sufficient in such cases. all u can do is give her time and try to find out the root cause of her worries may be she has something in her mind which she wants to share and that may lighten her. put ur self in her shoes and be sympathetic rather than angry for her situationbest of luck

Answer 5

She's simply insecure with very low self esteem. I mean, 23, with 2 kids, living at home and an ****** boyfriend? Seriously, this is nothing new.

There's no cure for hick

Answer 6

Just make an appointment and then take her. Let her know you are all tired of this behavior and that it will affect her children. They are the sad recipients of her behavior. Don't all of you further enable her to continue this, it has to stop, she is in need of help.

Answer 7

ask her if she is happy being grouchy all the time? if shes not, then she needs to CHOOSE to be happy... or she will be miserable FOREVER. also encourage her to go on walks with you and get outside and get some exercise. usually people are happier after exercise and fresh air.... maybe that will help. good luck, be nice to her (I'm sure you are if you are concerned about her like you are now.) it will give her one less thing to be grouchy about.

Answer 8

I think its not that complicated as you think it is. the only 'problm' is your sister dont like to be alone......thats it! Im sure you are mature and brave enough to find a solution for that.