Three years ago my ex-girlfriend had a guy she was sleeping with at the time who worked for the DMV screw up my driving record. I lost my license after being arrseted ofr driving under a supended license. Thats when living in exile began. I had to move in under my work in old office space so I could walk to work everyday. I didn't like this job to start with but it was all I could get with my situation. Today I was late to work because I just stood at the bottom of the stairs looking up at the door. It took everything I had to walk up those stairs and come into work. I'm sick of everything I'm doing. I live in an area where walking to stuff is impossible due to the bad area. I have to carry a gun with me when I buy food. I shouldn't have to live like this. I've tried to get my license back with no luck. I've lost the motivation to go on anymore.
2007-12-06 13:39:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm not sure how I can prove she did it other than her saying she did 3 years ago. I thought about moving but what would that fix. I still couldn't drive and how would I move. I thought about paying the fines and have paid most of them. Now they want me to pay a fine in Elgin, North Carolina. I can't find it. I've told them to find it for me and they tell me that's not their job and send me on my way. In fact the last time I went to the DMV I was arrested for causing a scene. I had to pay a huge fine for that.
I'm just sick of trying. I can't get up the enthusiasm to carry on. No one seems to be reasonable. What can I do to just avoid this?
2007-12-06 13:39:51 · update #1
Hmmmm.... in one of your other q's you said you don't drive cuz you have seizures. Were you lying then, or are you lying now?
2007-12-06 13:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ellis Wyatt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. wow.. Breathe!!! Just please, keep reminding yourself that this is doable! You WILL get through this! There is no reason not to - because believe it or not there is a lot to live for. I understand causing a scene at the DMV because even where I live they're ridiculous! They're just rude and it seems they don't care! I wish could help you more w/ that whole situation, but all I can say is please please stay positive and think about how much of an accomplishment it will feel like once you get out of this mess? It will be such a relief.. just keep trying... and maybe get to know someone who's always there for you. God... I know it sounds cheesy but he can do anything for you... and believe it or not he's probably doing this to you right now for a reason. Get in touch.. He can guide you!
2007-12-06 21:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Meaghan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who doesn't seem reasonable is you. You're doing what is called "self-defeating behavior". I would suspect you are suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (google it and do some research on it). There is no one to blame 3 years later for your situation but yourself.
Everyone has to work for what they have. If you don't want to live that way you have to change things. You're not entitled to a great life with a great job and a great apartment.
Why do you live in exile and from who? Pay the fine, look for another job, get on with your life. You don't lose your license in perpetuity... when do you get it back?
2007-12-06 21:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you do a couple of things; see the district attorney in your town and tell him/her what your ex told you. Get some counseling for yourself and talk about how you are feeling. I think you need some support from someone.
You can pull yourself out of this, some way, it can be done. You just need to make some effort trying, that's all. Don't give up, that's not an option. You have a long life ahead, make something positive out of it, ok?
2007-12-06 21:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋