I lost my grandmother 2 years ago. and my oldest brother,23, a couple months ago. everything just seems like its falling apart. my dad has polio, my mom isnt the same anymore ever since my brother passed away. My other brother,21, is mentally disabled and i just feel like the unluckiest person right now. i am only 15 and ive been going through so much. i am still recovering from a car accident a couple months ago which was when i lost my oldest brother. i just dont know what to do right now as im going downhill in school and trying to deal with everything else in my life. i need some advice..
Thank you.
2007-12-06 13:22:27 · 20 answers · asked by Nuggy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take up an instrument, explore new bands, talk to people (feel free to email me at oasisequalsdriveshaft@yahoo.com), look through old albums. good luck. i'm very sorry.
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2007-12-06 13:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by noel_gallagher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has been a lot happen to you and your family lately. I am sure that it is very hard for you. I think that you might be depressed and you need to see someone for that. This is quite a bit for a young girl to handle. Talking to a professional will do you a world of good. Reach out to your mother. I have never lost a child and do not know what it is like but I am sure that it is unbearable. I can see why she has changed. She probably does not know how to help you since she cannot help herself. Try not to blame her for this. We all deal with things differently and she might not know how to cope with so much. Take a step back and a deep breath. Do you need help with school from falling behind because of the car wreck? If you do ask for help. Ask your teachers what you can do and if there is anyone willing to tutor and help you. Can your friends help? Try to stay a little busy so you will not think about this constantly. I know that it is always on your mind but if you are busy you will get some time to think of something else. I hope that this has helped you a little. I am so sorry and I hope you find what you need. Hang in there girl.
2007-12-06 21:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie I feel so much for you. I am so sorry you are going through all of this at such a young age.
Life can be pretty tough at times, but I can say I have been through quite a bit myself and can empathize with you.
My suggestions are these; go easy on yourself, make sure you are taking care of yourself by eating well and getting sleep. See a counselor for talk therapy on a twice weekly basis if you can to get all of this off your chest and get support and coping skills. Suggest to your parents you all go, since you all are grieving the loss of your brother, that way, everyone can get the help they need to heal. It will take time, but you will heal and live life again.
Do something, when you are ready, to honor your brother and grand mother. Plant a tree for each, donate money to a cause in their name, etc. This may help you to feel better because you are doing something positive involving their memory.
Ask other family members and close friends to be supportive of all of you now, don't be embarrassed about reaching out for help. Tell them what you need; a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, whatever.
Ask God to help you, He is there for you. Your grandmother and brother are together in Heaven with God. They have a pretty good life right now with no pain or suffering. You will see them someday, you can count on that, it says that in the Bible. So, ask God for help and pray and I will also pray for you and your family. You take care. Email me whenever you need a friend, ok?
2007-12-06 21:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with way too much for a 15 year old!!! You shouldn't be doing this alone either. You really should go and see a therapist. They can really help you through this hard time in your life. I am so sorry you have so much on your plate at such a young age. Good Luck to you sweetie!
2007-12-06 21:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by YouSaidWhat??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what you want but if I were you, I would be seeking the LORD with ALL my heart!HE is the ONLY one WHO can help you through all this.Read John 3:1-5 and Acts 2:38 thats where to start then look up a United Pentecostal church under "churches" in your phone book's yellow pages.
2007-12-06 22:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know all this has happened to you but you need to look out for yourself also. Take care of yourself and do something you like doing. try and involve your mom or something. seriously death is a very hard thing to deal with, i know for a fact. I have lost a lot of loved ones and even seeing my mom and grandparents get older makes me depressed, but think of the good things in life and your good times together. remember your grandmother and brother want you to live your life to the fullest and not be so depressed. they love you and want to see you happy. good luck hunny. if you ever need someone to chat with, im here...
2007-12-06 21:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Luna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is bad to see the people around yop go away like that but thats what life is every one who is born will die one day....though the picture you gave gives the gloomy side of life only but try to be help to your mother and father as much as you can and show them by your actions that you care for them and want to be there when they need you most in the time ...like they were or are there when you needed them as a small child....this small dhange in your attitude will bring a major change in things around you ...and you will also learn to live with what all you are left with....remember others can pity you or have xympathy but oltimatly its you and your family who has to bear all.........may god help you in your endeavors
2007-12-06 21:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by BigDK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak with the school counselor and he/she can get you the right help you need. talk to a pastor. The best way to deal with things are to talk to a friend, relative, pastor, anyone. You are strong from what you have shared and feeling the way you do is normal. People want to help and will just ask someone. My heart goes out to you. I lost a daughter. I lost my parents but I am older and I have a support system. Please don't keep it in, share with anyone who will listen. God Bless.
2007-12-06 21:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by sillykittylover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By posting this, you have taken your first step toward a more "normal" life.
You must seek the help of a "grief counselor", they will guide you through the difficulty's you are experiencing, at the point in your young life. I do understand the pain you are suffering, but can be of little help in this venue. Please do take my advise and see a counselor. All my best to you and your family. Sincerely
2007-12-06 21:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have experienced all the stages of grief.
Is there a counselor at school tha you can talk to?
How about asking your mom to set you up with grief counseling through your family insurance plan.
2007-12-06 21:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by teach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should like your in your own version of doomsday.
You need serious serious help to cope with a cascade of this magnitude.
I suggest you get professional help.
Make sure you get as much support off as many people as you can and keep checkig that everyone is already.
Also be careful yourself if you can.
Sabretooth
2007-12-06 21:27:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋