yeah.. .im a straight guy but my friend is gay and he has to go to confession, and he said that he is afraid to tell the catholic priest that he is gay, because if he does, he will get kicked out of church and will tell his parents... what do you think, should he confess that to the priest??
2007-12-06 13:09:52 · 11 answers · asked by SoNiA luVz U 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He should confess for whatever is heavy in his heart. The priest hears probably much more than this every day. The priest does not repeat what he hears. The church welcomes all, we are all sinners. They only ask to keep the sacrament of marriage sacred. Which in this case must be very difficult.. But regardless, God loves all his children and that includes sinners and saints.
Pam
2007-12-06 17:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by purpleflyer2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a priest hears in the confessional is sacred. A priest cannot kick anybody out of the church, anyway. You kick yourself out. Anybody who really wants to be Catholic will be welcomed to stay Catholic -- doesn't matter what sins they have committed.
Nor can a priest go tell a person's parents about whatever sins they've confessed, no matter what. So your friend would not have to worry about his parents finding out from the priest.
Whether or not your friend needs to confess is a complex question. If he has same-sex attraction, that's not a sin. People can't help what they are attracted to. So that is nothing to confess.
The only thing he would have to confess would be homosexual actions, such as looking at gay porn or participating in homosexual activity with another guy. And the confession is only valid if he intends to stop the behavior.
2007-12-07 04:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I am not a Catholic I attended one for ten years and it was a very good experience and holds a special place in my heart. But I out of reasons hard for most to understand ,reverted back to Buddhism. You freind does not need to confess being gay. It is not a sin in the least nor is it a disorder as the church claims. Whether being active sexualy is up to you, some in the church believe it is sinfull to be sexualy active whilst many others do not. Remember, that love and beinjg sexuality active, be it hetero, bi or homosexual are one and the samet. Being gay is not about just raw naked sex with the same gender it also about being in love with the same gender and is no different than being straight and in love. However, and I may sound bias but it is through bitter experience and observation that the churches say it is okay to be gay just not active sexualy then you may need to seriously consider what they are saying. Also they may reccomend a group like "Courage" or "Narth". They and I feel strongly, are dangerous because they believe that who you are is "disordered" and the "result" of original sin and if they can, albiet with good intentions, will try to make you straight. Also, they are have been know to speak against gay civil rights and have been refuted by EVERY credible phsycological and physciatiric organization. Namely the "American Phsyciatic Association" and "American Phsycological Association". "Narth" nor "Courage" or "Exodus" is not recognized by ANY of the above orgs and have been condemned as antiethical and an dangerous to good mental healsth. The church will not kick out by any means but they will tell you what they teach regarding homosexuality. If they at anytime come out and oppose the gay civil rights movement, THEN RUN LIKE A BAT OUT OF HE-- FROM THEM!!! Be good to your freind and support him in whatever he chooses to do. BY the way you are a very good freind and sound like a true blue one at that.
2007-12-06 16:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by chinavagabond94122 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's get one thing straight. It is not a sin to have a sexual orientation of attractions to other men. If he is acting out sexual activities in his mind, or actually engaging in homosexual behaviour, then yes, he should go.
He should have no concerns at all about going to confession. Be clear that the priest is bound, under penalty of mortal sin, not to reveal anyone's confession. It would be a really big deal for a priest to do that.
Suggest that he go to the link below. There is Catholic help out there to deal with his temptations and maybe even deal with some hidden hurting in his life.
2007-12-06 13:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should tell the priest whatever is weighing on his mind.
The priest can never ever tell anyone anything that he hears in Confession.
Created in the image of the one God and equally endowed with rational souls, all men have the same nature and the same origin. Redeemed by the sacrifice of Christ, all are called to participate in the same divine beatitude: all therefore enjoy an equal dignity.
The Catholic Church believes there is nothing sinful about being homosexual. But homosexuals like all unmarried people are called to celibacy.
The Church specifically says that homosexuals "must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided."
Here is the text of the document, On the Pastoral Care of Homosexual Persons (1986): http://www.newadvent.org/library/docs_df86ho.htm
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, section 2357-2359: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3sect2chpt2art6.htm#2357
With love in Christ.
2007-12-06 15:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
kicked out of the Church and tell his parents? I think he's exaggerating, or maybe lying. every sin that has been confessed remains a secret.
2007-12-06 13:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by Perceptive 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He could desire to probably be gay. I went/going to college with this guy who's somewhat female, they way he walks, talks, and so on. purely screams 'gay'. yet I doubt he's gay, because of the fact he's somewhat against gay marriage, which doubtfully a gay guy desires to be denied any rights a rapidly guy has.
2016-10-19 11:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, the catholic church is the only church that recognizes people may be born gay, secondly no one has been excomunicated for being gay, thirdly being gayis not a sin, its commiting a sexual act that is a sin
2007-12-06 13:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Adam of the wired 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's not true.
I know a lot of gay people who are Catholics and no one kicked them out of the Church.....one of them is my brother.
2007-12-06 13:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Neither will happen. He must confess and repent of His sins then go and sin no more.
In Christ
Fr. Joseph
2007-12-06 13:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by cristoiglesia 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋