HELP PlEASE!! Am I really going to go to hell?

Question

Ok here's might situation:
I'm a teenager now and I was molested repetively as a child. Because of this I am bisexual (I don't think being molested is gay, but it changed me, I'm not proud of it).
So recently I found an article on the internet that goes:
"The Bible consistently tells us that homosexual activity is a sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9). Romans 1:26-27 teaches specifically that homosexuality is a result of denying and disobeying God. When a person continues in sin and disbelief, the Bible tells us that God “gives them over” to even more wicked and depraved sin in order to show them the futility and hopelessness of life apart from God. 1 Corinthians 6:9 proclaims that homosexual “offenders” will not inherit the kingdom of God.
God does not create a person with homosexual desires. The Bible tells us that a person becomes a homosexual because of sin (Romans 1:24-27), and ultimately because of their own choice.

A person may be born with a greater susceptibility to homosexuality, just as people are born with a tendency to violence and other sins. That does not excuse the person choosing to sin by giving into their sinful desires. If a person is born with a greater susceptibility to anger / rage, does that make it right for then to give into those desires? Of course not! The same is true for homosexuality."

I am now scared. Am I going to go to hell because I'm bisexual because of the influence of being molested?
I do have gay fantisies. I really hate myself right now. I don't want to be bi. Please be serious.
So am I screwed?

Answer 1

Very simple solution.
Repent - call on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved.

That's what happened at Corinth. That is what can happen to you.

"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God."
I Corinthians 6:9-11

Note especially the last verse - "and that is what some of you WERE" - not ARE, but WERE.

Answer 2

Ok without even reading the details I can tell you no, you are not going to hell b/c hell does not exist. If there actually is a god do you think that it would be so vengeful and hateful as to condemn it's own creation to hell? Please.

After reading the detales the answer is still no. Why? For the above reason and b/c HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT A SIN!!! It is not wrong or unnatural or immoral. It is a natural variant of human sexuality.

Being molested as a child is not your fault. I think for the most part people are born gay or bisexual or straight. However there may be environmental factors that push a person in any direction. That being said, I don't think the reason for homosexuality really matters at all. Homosexuality does not hurt anyone. Genuine love between two people is never wrong.

Let me say something else. The people who wrote the bible had no concept of homosexuality as we know it today. All they say were straight males who were adulterers. There is no mention of two people of the same sex who are in a loving committed relationship. Also, when the bible was written there was no word for homosexuality. That was added in later when it was translated and there was no direct translation. What I'm saying is, we don't know what was originally written or how it was supposed to be interpreted.

I can tell you that denying who you are will only get you so far. If you were to marry somone of the opposite sex who you weren't attracted to just b/c your religion told you your feelings were wrong, you will never be happy. And you unhappiness will effect the person you are with and any resulting children. You owe it to yourself and to any future partner to be truthful and honest with yourself. You cannot make yourself straight any more than a straight person could make themselves gay.

That being said, you say you are bisexual. Who knows, you may fall for someone of the opposite sex anyway. BUT if you feel yourself being drawn to someone of the same sex, don't automatically wright that possibility off.

Answer 3

No you are not screwed if you quit your sin. I am sorry that you were molested , but this is no excuse for continuing in behavior that you know is sin by the testimony of your own writing here. Brother you can stop this sin . You are on the right track here since you are reaching out and asking for help. Please seek some professional help from a Pastor who is trained in this sort of thing . they are out there. Try Focus on the Family, Google it. They have helped countless homosexuals, bisexuals an other sexual addicted people. God loves you and so do I. I am praying for you and I hope you will win this battle . Don't think it will be easy . It wont, but if you really want to serve God you can and will quit this behavior . God bless you as you come to him in humbleness and repentance.

Answer 4

Well for starters your being "bothered" by what is going on
this is that "still small voice" telling you that the behavior
your are showing is not right...

Good news...

your heart is still soft to Christ...so keep praying for help
and stop doing anything that might give you reason to give
into this problem you have. with God nothing is impossible.

yes from time to time you still may have dreams or be enticed
but you go right back into prayer and have a repentant spirit and
you will conquer all things in the end.

you thing you may have to consider is a celebate life from here
on out but it has been done and can be done...we've had
a few folks in our church that do this for Christ and its very noble
to do so...for Christ.

now as to your history...you'll have to get counsling for that
from a professional so that at some point you can heal from
those bad times...it may never go away 100% but you can come to a point where its only a faded memory...


if you continue down this path and give in to your problem
yes you maybe in jeapordy of hell at some point...

Answer 5

There is only one thing that will send you to hell and that is reject what the Lord Jesus Christ did for you on the cross. He died for your sins He was buried and took your sins away and He rose again the third day for your justification. Believe and trust in what He did for you and heaven will be your home when you die. If you do realy trust in what He did for you then you will be a new creature in Christ. It does not mean you will be without sin but He can help you with any sin you may be into. 1 Corinthians 15: 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 1 Corinthians 15: 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: Romans 4: 25 Who was delivered for our offences, and was raised again for our justification. 2 Corinthians 5: 17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Answer 6

No you are Not going to Hell.

IF you Ask Jesus Christ Risen From the Dead---to Save You. (Romans 10:9---King James Version).

See, there are some People who get So Messed Up, when they come into this World (Earth) to be Born---that the Bible Calls Them " What-So-Evers".

They really don't know who they are.

They can be Saved too.
Jesus Loves You!

Now if your Not a What-So-Ever, and you Are in Homo-Lesbian sin, Then YOU can be SAVED too!

Jesus Christ Died for EVERYBODY!!!!

All you gotta' do is Ask HIM to Save you (no kidding around Either! ;)

GOD Almighty LOVES Every Human Being on the Face of This Earth.

satan hates all Human Beings.
satan kills, steals and destroys.

Jesus Is Lord!!!

Answer 7

I agree with you. I believe that people do have certain weakness' toward certain sins, and lifestyles. Most desires can be controlled by what you allow into your ears and eyes. The Bible tells us to learn to take every thought captive. All sexual immorality is the same in Gods eyes...its sin...just like lying, cheating,stealing, that includes adultery, homosexuality, fornication, lust. Jesus commanded us to refrain from even a hint of sexual immorality. I mess that up all the time. Its all the same in Gods eyes and he loves you just as you are just like he loves me just like I am. Why is that? Well God sees us for our potential and not for all of the things we screw up on along the way. His grace is sufficient. When you start to follow God and draw close to him he will let you know what is against his spirit and you will have to make a choice.

email me or message me if you want to talk.
I will be praying for you my friend

Answer 8

First of all, the sins you commit are not what get you sent to hell. The only stipulation for going to heaven is salvation. Jesus becomes Lord of your life and you walk in a personal relationship with Him, listening and obeying the will of the Father. Outside of that, you are choosing hell, regardless of how many or what kinds of sin you committ.

As for your struggle, I totally hear you. I wasn't molested, but there were other choices made in my life by others, and later by my self that sent me down a path toward homosexuality. I understand the argument that we don't choose to be gay, but if God lists something as a sin, that means we have the choice to not do it. Everyone has their vices. It is a common one that men struggle greatly with lust all the time. That isn't unfair, it's just each person's opportunity to grow in Christ. It's our opportunity to show God's glory as we allow Him to have victory over those areas.

In my struggle with these unwanted feelings, I pushed deeper into Jesus, trying to get His help with this matter. I was tempted by sin, and I fell many times. I spent 8 years living that life I hated it. (Read Romans 7, toward the end, Paul lays out this situation of struggling with sin, it seems futile. But continue reading Romans 8 and see the victory. ) But today, I can tell you that I am free from all those old feelings. I couldn't straighten myself out, but as I developed a relationship with Jesus, and did my best to obey His commands, the sin was defeated in my life.

He understands that we struggle with sin, that is our human nature. No sin is any worse than any other sin in God's eyes, only in the consequences here, and in human eyes. If you persevere and seek hard after Jesus and His ways, He will set you free.

The only way to heaven is thru Jesus Christ.

Answer 9

God looks at the heart. He sees that you do not like this sin and wish it was different. He sees that and can and will help you.

Are you saved? If not, feel free to email me if you sincerely desire to be.

Yes, it is a sin...but your heart shows that you don't want it to be this way. God sees that. He doesn't look just at the sin but at the heart.

Answer 10

Thank God you feel conviction for your situation. That alone should tell you its wrong. I don't believe you would feel that conviction if you were not a child of His already. If people will be honest, we all have demons we fight against. They are just not the same for everybody. But we all have to be obedient to God and turn from these things. Its not always easy, but if we humbly ask God to lead us in His way I know He is faithful to deliver.

Answer 11

OK.. here is my view of this. Your life is what it is. You've had the experiences you've had. There is nothing that will change that. BUT... What God asks of us is to live morally and in dedication to him. So whatever is in your head for whatever reason, you can still make decisions in your life that will glorify God. I mean, straight people are straight, but they still have temptation to have sex outside of marriage, to get hooked on porn, etc. What I mean is that whatever orientation you are, you can still choose what you're actually going to do. What is good to God isn't that they're straight, it's what they do or don't do with their sexual inclinations. If you have that struggle but still decide to live in a way that honors God, I think God will see that and love you all the more for it.

I just want to also say, my best friend is in a very similar situation and also bi, so I really know where you're coming from, and as a person who was molested myself, I'm really pulling for you. I also know that a lot of people who haven't been sexually abused don't realize a lot of the impact that has on you and on a person's sexuality further down the road. Don't feel guilty about where you're at, just set your sights on making the very best of the life you've got ahead of you. Whatever the outcome is of your struggle about sexuality, I hope God gives you healing from the pain you went through in that situation, and I know he has a good plan for your life, whatever happened in the early parts of it. God bless you!