My seventh grade class is really really Cliquey. Every day seems worse. I am tired of being the odd girl out. And having a nick name I don't deserve. I tell people to leave me alone, but they just laugh and don't take me seriously. I'm tired of wearing this fake smile and crying myself to sleep and dying on the inside. I am about to transfer mid year. Is this a stupid reason to transfer.. What should I do. I am alone and like I said before, almost over the edge. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have not told any one this including my mom who wants me to wait it out and says things can only get better. She is wrong the more I wait, the worse that it gets.
2007-12-06 12:30:18 · 35 answers · asked by Rachel C. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like you have a problem there, BYE!
p.s. TELL YOUR MOM!
2007-12-06 12:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know what you mean. I hated seventh grade too, and it seemed to only get worse from there. You could transfer to another school, but theres no guarantee the kids there are going to act any better.
Maybe you should start a clique of your own. Just gather up other people who feel like the "odd girl out." I'm sure you're not the only one who feels like that. And there's strength in numbers, you'll feel safer if you find other kids to rally behind you. Everyone gets teased in junior high. The trick is how to handle it long enough until everyone's hormones settle down.
Good luck
2007-12-06 12:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by kim s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg!!! No friends!?!? I would die. But i hope this advice helps. Look, 1st how long have you been in this school? I am 6th grade and we have all known each other since 1st grade. But we still don't get allong 24/7. Nobody does. I really think you should just tell them to shut-up. Show them your not a sissy. Everyone deserves to have friends. 2, if you don't want to be mean, just wipe the smile off your face. If you need to cry, CRY! It's not good to keep things in. 3, Somtimes boys and girls don't get that a joke has gone a 'little' to far. I know that it can be harsh. 4, Do not transfer! Did you know 7th grade is one of the biggest year that colleges look at. And, do you really want to be the new girl all over again? Think about these statements. Stay in school! And you should talk to sombody else about this. Please, take my advice
2007-12-06 12:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're not going to die. Honest! Your Mom is absolutely right, just as mine was when I was in 7th grade and wanted to disappear because so many people were picking on me...
You sound like an intelligent, sensitive young lady, and the truth is: these "cliquey" people aren't good enough for you. Did it ever occur to you that they probably sense that you're better than they are, and that's what makes them so obnoxious?
Where do you think they'll be in another 5 years or so? I know that must seem like a very long time to you right now, but trust me, it's not. I know for a fact that most of the people who were mean to me in the 7th grade did NOT turn out very well at all. They have not had terribly happy lives. I have actually felt sorry for them!
Chances are that many of those in your class will find Real Life quite unpleasant, because of their mean-spiritedness. Why don't you save time and feel sorry for them NOW? Pity them for the ignorant bunch of losers that they are.
You really WILL be fine. You really ARE so much more important than this.
2007-12-06 12:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Solstice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember how I felt during 7th grade, and I had very low self-esteem and felt depressed a lot during that time. Middle school was emotionally rough for me, and it sounds the same for you.
If you really think you can't handle staying at that school, then go ahead and transfer. If your mom wants you to stay but you want to leave that school, then be honest with her and tell her it's tough being around those people in your class. Tell her about this nickname people call you-- maybe she will understand.
If you decide to stick it out at your school now, then just keep in mind that anything that happens socially in middle school does not matter at all once you get older. It's tough, but you can try to ignore everyone and not care about what people think.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope you end up feeling better, because I know just how you feel! I'm sorry!
2007-12-06 12:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are mean and school is hard. I had the same problems. I was never liked by anyone in my class. My friends were all in other classes. You have to be strong. It may sound like a load of bull, but you really have to be strong. The things they say are not true to who you are. Those people don't make you who you are. Don't let them bring you down. I was really depressed through school and unfortunately it doesn't get any easier. In high school, you just have more problems and they keep doing it. That's just one thing we all have to accept and get through.
it will get better, but it may be awhile. Please don't do anything irrational. Please talk to your mom and ask her for help. She's your mom, not the devil! She wants you to be happy. Transfering may only cause more problems because what if the new kids find out why you left the old school?? Then you'll get twice as much crap from kids. Just please stay strong. It will be over before you know it. I promise.
2007-12-06 12:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Casie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this, Rachel.
7th grade is a really tough part of life and many people were picked on at that age, including me. If you can think of it that way and hang on, realizing that if will be over sooner than you think, then I'd advise you to stay put.
But if you feel that the way you're being treated is really hurting you deeply inside, where you feel that you may be suffering from serious depression, I think it's a better idea to transfer out. I have a cousin who transferred out of her school after 8th grade due to being bullied and she is very happy at her new school.
I do wish you'd really tell your mother exactly how you feel about what's going on. Remember that she is there to help you.
Best wishes to you and take care!
2007-12-06 12:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem in junior high, so you're most def. not alone. Sadly though, I turned to cutting and bad stuff like that. I'm happily married now, and love my life, but that almost ruined it.
I would transfer, since that's what I did. I tried to wait it out, and it only got worse. Maybe if you met new people, you could make new friends, and meet people you love.
I hope things get better.
2007-12-06 12:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom but no i don't think it's a stupid reason to transfer very reasonable actually. seen that you've tried for about four months and still nothing's happened i had the same problem when i switched schools but someone eventually came and now we're best friends but i didn't have to wait that long. so talk to your mom about it and if you really want to than you should but also pray about it the lord has a plan and he'll show you what to do.
2007-12-06 12:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but your mom is right im in high school in the 10th grade an i got a lot of nick names but think about if you are doing good in school wait in ten years from now when you make all kind of money and they have nothing but names and games to say just when you get up in the mornings close your eye's an think about your family and friends that will help you through the rest of the year.
2007-12-06 12:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by brandon j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave because i had trouble to and now things are much better u just have to try and make friends dont be determined to transfer and hate school give it a shot and who knows maybe u could end up with a life long friend because chances are someone in ur class wants to be friends but u may come off as strong and rude if ur so unhappy so just try and stike it to the end of the year then leave if ur seriously losing it
2007-12-06 12:34:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋