Why do people have new babies when they already have teens?

Question

That is extremely inconsiderate. Then they want you to raise their baby like you made that dumb decision. They make you give up everything to raise their mistake. They already hve a kid, so why do they need to ruin their teen's life with a new one. That's terrible. They decide they want a cute cuddly new baby, whether it ruins their teen's. All babies do is cry and make life harder for eveyone. Teens shouldnt have to be co-parents. It's terrible that anyone would do that to their teen.

Sure you say that when you're not the one sacrificing for some baby that just cries and poops and ruins things all day. It should be illegal to have a baby if you have children 9 and over.

Babies are the selfish ones. They don't care about what anyone else needs or wants. They just want everything they want NOW. Evrybody else waits for what they want and so should babies. They self-centered and rude. They need to be locked up and cared for by professionals ubtil they learn patience courtesy and common sense.

Also your twenty year old sister was out of the house by the time the new baby came. She didnt have to run downstairs every ten seconds to take care of a crazy crying selfish litle brat

Answer 1

They are grown adults and if they want to have another kid they can, they do not have to answer to their teens.

What are you going to do when you have kids and as they get older maybe you will want to have another one. Will you eat your words above or have another one?

I think that it sounds like you are embarrassed of your mom. Who cares what people thinks. She wants to be pregnant so leave her alone and start worrying about things like school.

My oldest sister is 20 years older than my brother -did it kill her? No

Don't you just hate it also when a teenager becomes pregnant how they love to throw their kid off on mommy and daddy so they can go to the mall? Do you think that is right?

Add: If babys are so rude (This is the most dumbest thing i have heard ) anyhow what do you think about yourself? You were once a baby. Do you wish that your mom would have gotten rid of you since you were "Selfish" at one time?
I think you are jealous that your mom is going to have another kid and you will not get all of her attention.
Most people that i know don't put their siblings when they are little off on a teenager cause most teens cannot be trusted to watch a babie.

Why don't you be thankful that your mom is healthy. Do you want me to tell you about my mom? My mom almost had an aneurysm to burst in her brain, she had surgery, stayed in the hospital for a month and now that she is home, she cannot be left alone at all. She needs 24/7 supervision cause of her balance. I am taking care of my mom so are my sisters. I do not take my mom for granted at all. What would you do if you didn't have a mom? Some people don't and your whining about a healthy woman having a baby when she has a teenager.
My mom and daddy had 7 kids. Our ages are 33, 30, 28-me, 26, 23, 18 and 12
None of us were all mad or jealous when our mom had another baby.

Has your mom asked you to take care of it once it gets here? I would say no. Why would she?

If anyone is ruining your life it is you not your mom or your younger sibling.

Think of it this way, you are saying a baby is a burden well do you work? Do you support yourself? Do you live out on your own and pay your own bills or does mommy still do that for you? You are same as a baby, both rely on mommy.

Answer 2

Not every family is like this. My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We have 4 children, now ages 28, 26, 23, and 10. Our youngest was a surprise baby, conceived unexpectedly when I had been successfully taking birth control pills for 11 years. She was NOT planned and was born when our older 3 kids were 18, 15, and 12. We are a close and loving family and after the initial shock of my being pregnant, we all anticipated the arrival of our new family member with excitement. They participated in doctor's visits and helped plan where the new baby would sleep. All 3 waited anxiously in the waiting room when I delivered their baby sister. Our older 3 kids pitched in and helped WILLINGLY to care for their baby sister in any way they could. They offered to babysit, entertain her, change diapers, hold her when she cried, and take her for walks in the stroller. They loved having a baby sister. My kids were very mature about the situation and never expressed any jealousy or anger at having a baby in the house. While my husband and I did not plan to have a newborn when our older kids were teens, it happened and we found it to be a joyful, happy surprise. All 4 of our kids are close and enjoy spending time together. If this is a situation you are in, I suggest you talk to your parents about your unhappiness. A new baby should be a blessing in a family and not viewed as ruining an older siblings life. This is a rather selfish attitude. New babies require a lot of care and they do disrupt the family. If everyone pitches in to help that baby will be blessed by having so many loving people around and the family will be blessed by the new addition. I just asked my 23 year old daughter if she ever felt like you do (I read her your question) about her baby sister and she said, "Never. Things happen. Tell that person to 'suck it up', not everything is about her." She was the "baby" of the family for 12 years when our new baby came along so she understands what it's like to be "displaced" by a younger sibling. ADDED: I suppose if your plan to keep babies locked away, cared for by professionals, until they learn patience, courtesy and common sense would mean that you would still be locked away as you are certainly impatient, self-centered, and irrational.

Answer 3

Yeah. You're definitely a teenager.

My parents had my little brother when I was 13, not intentionally he was a "surprise".

My parents never expected me to be a "co-parent"... but I loved helping out with my little brother. The first few years of his life were wonderful for my family. We all took turns caring for him and we became far closer as a family because of it.

Your parents shouldn't expect you to raise the new baby, but at the same time this is your sibling and you should try to love them. This is the one person in the world who truly shares your genes and your life experience. If you treat the baby well he or she will love you in a way they love no one else. I was my little brother's favorite person (still am) and it's a really amazing experience to know that you mean that much to someone. At your age it's pretty silly to be jealous of a baby. You should know by now that your parents love you and no baby can take your place with them.

Instead of starting out resenting the baby, try spending a little time with it and loving it... you'll see how great it is... babies become cuter as they get older, they do a lot more than cry and spit up.

Give it a chance before you decide you hate it. And sit down and talk to your parents. Be honest. Tell them that you're a teenager and you still want to have your own time and not be a de facto babysitter. Don't be nasty or whiney about it, just be honest. I'm sure they'll understand.

This may be a good opportunity for you to mature a lot. I understand that this is a trying time for you, but try acting like the older sibling and talking to your parents like an adult, not like a whiny child and you might be amazed by what happens.

Frankly, with your attitude your parents would be wise not to let you near the baby.

And one more thing... if you show the baby love and affection, he'll probably cry less.

Edit: I'm now pregnant with my first child and my brother is THRILLED about being a 15 year old uncle.

My dad sent me some family videos the other day and I found this great video of my brother at 3 or 4 getting on to a little kiddie train ride at an amusement park. He's looking at me saying, "Why don't you ride Rach? Please." He pauses for a second and says, "PLEASE ride with me!" The next shot is of me at 16 sitting in this tiny toy train holding him on my lap. Was it embarassing? Yes. Would I give up those memories for anything? No.

Answer 4

I agree in a way but you are putting things into extreme. It is not inconsiderate. It's their choice and sometimes it just happens. The only reason think it is a bad idea is because I think a two-three year difference breeds closer bonds between siblings. It's not terrible. Stop being a baby.

Answer 5

No sweetie, you are the inconsiderate one. So someone else will be getting a little attention besides you, so what? You need to do some growing up. If your parents are making you babysit more than you'd like to, just try talking to them about it.

Answer 6

You sound like a very selfish person. If a teen's parents having a child inconveniences them.. too bad! It isn't their decision... Some parents become afraid of an empty nest, so they have more.

Answer 7

Because they want to and they can. As for u, stop being sellfish. Babies do all the things u say they do because they are babies. But what's with u and your whining??? GROW UP!!!

Answer 8

Because it's difficult to have old babies.

Answer 9

New kids have better warranties these days.

Your folks are just trading you in for a newer model. You're not cute and you smell funny.

Answer 10

I don't get it either, I was 17 when my mom had two girls... Now 1 & 1/2 and 3. Luckily I didn't live with her. But now I have to babysit for free from time to time...