My father passed away last week, none of us expected this because he was healthy and only 58. I'm now dealing with the losses alone, i dont want my family to see me depressed as i'm the eldest. The problem is, i seem to loss myself too...and been thinking why am i rushing in life and what am i aftering for all this while....i've returned to work and now it doesn't seems so important...am i really depressed? how do i deal with this?
2007-12-06 12:09:10 · 6 answers · asked by ladyjane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't isolate yourself. you need your family and they need you.
he will always live in your hearts. talking, crying, laughing and remembering your father together is part of the grieving process. don't deny yourself or your family that support. being the oldest doesn't mean you are or have to be distant and hide. it's OK to need each other.
2007-12-06 12:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are experiencing very normal grief reactions after your father's death. Death is a tough thing to face particularly if it is unexpected. It is ok to express your sadness both alone and in front of your family. There are distinct stages in grief and the process is bit different for everyone. Give yourself some time to rebuild and reassess your life. Talk with a good friend, journal your thoughts and feelings and take some time out over Christmas to just relax. It might be helpful in time to do an album up of photos and memories of your Dad. I wish you well. Email if you want to.
2007-12-06 21:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we never expect loss, trust me. it is hard now for you, but try this approach, celebrate his life. he lived, you are the proof. why do you work and rush? so that one day you can have precious little one to love you the same way you love your dad. that's the point. he didn't raise you to be sad and lost, he raised you to have life and to enjoy it as much as possible. as for being eldest part, don't hide your feelings, others will take it that you don't suffer, might take it wrong... show your feelings and your sorrow, share beautiful moments you had together, like i said, celebrate what he gave you during life. not like a party, of course...just remember good things he left you. I'm truly sorry for your loss, and i hope you will find this helpful. take care
2007-12-06 20:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by ina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, please cut yourself some slack. The unexpected passing of your father is going to have a huge impact on you and it is more than okay for you to feel sad, down and blue. I hope you have a solid relationship with your family so you can all openly and freely share your feelings, your tears, your shock.
The death of a loved one always causes us to question so much about ourselves, about life, about everything and you are in those acute, early stages of the grieving process. You need to be kind to YOU and simply not expect too much from yourself. One day at a time and allow yourself to feel, whatever that may be.
2007-12-06 20:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really talk to your family about this. I have had three people I really care about die recently and I learned that it really helps to talk to someone even if its your best friend and your family will understand how you feel because they are dealing with the same thing. The longer you keep it to your self the worse you will feel. Belive me I know what its like.
2007-12-06 20:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by hockeygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`m sorry.... has been only one week don't be so hard with yourself ,,,,give yourself time ..... cry a lot .... think a lot... put your feeling out .....and then you will be ready for life again ... for now your are depressed you are sad your had the biggest losses of your life
2007-12-06 20:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by xoxoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋