I am so tired of watching my parents hurt them selves by smoking. They tried to quit once my mom did it, but my dad got sick and when he smoked it made my mom smoke too. I have tryed to tell them over and over again, but they just don't listen.Also to make it worse my dad drinks way to much and he does it everyday and I have tryed to talk to him and even my mom couldn't get him to listen.Can anyone help me!!!!
2007-12-06 12:08:20 · 9 answers · asked by hockeygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get facts, get anything. Start writing a journal to tell your feelings during this stage. And beg your parents to listen and make a change.
Dont forget to pray for them to.
2007-12-06 12:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Weirdness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since all of his family smokes, it shouldn't be a big deal for them to help him if he actually wants to quit. If that simply isn't an option, chewing gum really is the best way to quit. Make sure he doesn't do it cold turkey though, because that might make him sick. Allow him to cut back to 5 a day, then 2 a day, then 1 a day, then 3 a week, then 1 a week, so forth. The most important thing is to be supportive of him. It's a hard thing to do!
2016-03-15 08:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say that you cannot do a thing about it, except move out if you are old enough. Regarding the smoking keep out of their way, go outside and breath in some fresh air. With regard to the drinking there is not a thing you can do about it. Both of these habits are their choice, and the only way they will stop is if they choose to themselves.
If the smoking and the drinking is really making you ill, can you go and stay with grandparents, or relatives, or friends. But there again it is according to how old you are.
The only alternative for you, is to not live under their roof. Otherwise, you can only avoid the smoke and keep away from the drinking.
They are, unfortunately making choices that are hurting you both emotionally and health wise, but they do not want to see that.
Good luck.
2007-12-06 13:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school advisor. Both smoking and alcohol abuse are addictions, they're very difficult to stop.
Your parents have probably spent most of their lives smoking, it's very difficult to stop this habit. When they quit, they probably feel very agitated, but when they smoke, they feel relaxed...hence they keep smoking. Unless they are willing to quit smoking, then they likely won't succeed.
Keep talking to your parents. I know it seems like a losing battle (you against them), but be persistent. Tell them that it really hurts you to see them smoke. If they smoke inside the house, tell them that if they respect you, they'd go outside to smoke. Start with small steps. You have to understand, that it's not easy to stop smoking. But you can have them take baby steps - cut back to a pack every two days, or only smoke outside. No smoking more than one time per hour.
It's irresponsible for them to be smoking in front of you, especially if they do it inside the house when you're home.
Your school advisor might recommend family advising. You might want to suggest this to your parents.
The drinking is also difficult. It might be because your parents are very stressed. When you get older, you have to worry about finances, mortgages, employment, retirement, car payments...all these things are super stressful. This might be why your father drinks, however this is no excuse. If he is drinking to the point of intoxication (unstable on his feet, repetitious, slurring words, verbally abusive), THEN you need to get him for help.
Seriously, talk to your school advisor. She can help you through this. Even if you have a close teacher, then you can try talking to her.
2007-12-06 12:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by miss_j 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
Nicotine addiction is a tough one to quit and they say it's harder to break than a heroin addiction. the best you can do is dont' start smoking yourself... you can't control your parents.
I'm sorry your father drinks too much, too often. You can go to the Alateen website for helpful information. You can also attend Alanon meetings (or Alateen if they are available) in your area. These are support groups for those of us whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.
I have posted a website for information below... i hope it helps and that you will seek the support you deserve.
2007-12-06 12:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! You can try the 'this is what you are doing to yourself' approach but that ~ more than likely ~ will fall on deaf ears.
Your care and concern for your parents is wonderful but unfortunately that might not be a persuading factor in you wanting them to live a healthier life. It is very difficult to break down a stubborn wall. The smoking and the drinking are their choices and ultimately they will both have to live with the consequences of their decisions, physically and in regards to family relationships.
2007-12-06 12:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's horrible that they hurt themselves like that. What you need to do is confront them. If they don't listen (at this point it is best to turn on the tears) then beg them. Once they know how horrible you feel about this, it should be hard for them not to quit. If they don't, you may have to let it go. It's hard, but you can't control the choices they make in their lives. If they want to do that to themselves, then they can, but you can have comfort in knowing that you did the best that you could.
2007-12-06 12:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't....they know the consequences of what they're doing to themselves.
It's wonderful and loving of you to want to help them....but only they can do this.
2007-12-06 12:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell then horrible facts about what it'll do to them!
2007-12-06 12:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋