Friends? Dates? The Telephone?

Question

I'm mulling over calling someone. Sure, it's just a phone call, but I don't want to make a fool of myself.

I met someone a few weeks ago and I thought there was some chemistry. Apparently the feeling wasn't mutual. After three dates I was told "I'm only getting the friend vibe" with you. This was confusing because we seemed to have a good time. Our third date was a three-hour dinner. We had a small kiss afterward. We talked on the phone for an hour before the "friend" thing. Nothing huge, but not exactly a nothing either.

I've seen two other people in the week since, but my mind keeps wandering back to this woman. She did say, we could go out for a drink or something, but she didn't want there to be expectations.

I'm considering calling her and seeing what happens. Is that a good idea? Or was I basically told "get lost" in a nice way?

Answer 1

got know idea

Answer 2

I think you got the bum's rush in a good way. Seems she wanted a relationship to progress much faster than you did. Or it could have been that she meant you were friend material, but she just didn't feel any chemistry. A few dates is enough to decide if you want to go further with the relationship...most of the time you don't. Finding that special person is a rare event. Keep Looking.

Answer 3

I think that if she didn't want anything to do with you then she needs to tell you just like that. She shouldn't lead you on. Go ahead and call her and ask her. If she wants to just be friends, thats great. Everyone can use another friend. You may like her as more, but you are going to have to realize its just not in the cards right now. Maybe later on, once you get to know her better, something might happen, but you need to be patient and let things flow. If nothing ever happens, thats fine, you will meet someone that is much better for you but you will have another friend to hang out with.

Answer 4

umm tough question. Its seems that she just wants to be friends and was letting you down easy. If she had said dinner sometime it would be different. But drinks and lunch are a friendly thing to do with someone, not romantic. I say just accept the friend relationship and move on. You are obviously a datable guy since you've had several dates since. Don't worry you'll gain that connection with someone else too.

Answer 5

just call her and be like where do we stand?
let her tell you and if shes like well i dont know..
be like okay well im not going to wait around waiting for your decision. i say call her and get the answer

Answer 6

U were told get lost in a nice way. But its ok. i lyk u!

Answer 7

i would just forget about her, unless ur kewl with the friends thing

Answer 8

text her something cheeky if she sms back then she still is thinking about you