could friends become lovers? i am a 22 year old woman falling for a 32 year old man. when i first met him in the summer he asked if i had a boyfriend i was just out of a relationship at the time. now he told me he thinks i'm too young his schedule is busy since he's working now and all. i don't know him completely well yet to date him the same thing kind of happened with my ex boyfriend. we started out as friends then became lovers for a year now we still talk to each other once in a while. do u think i should wait until the guy's schedule is not so busy? i know some people who are in their 20s and their dating guys who are in their 30s. my ex is 29 that's very very close to 30. i go for the older men. maybe i could tell him i fell for him but i doubt it will work. do u think i should start being friends with him then see what happens? the 32 year old guy is not married. it's not like he's 40 or 35.
2007-12-06 11:03:47 · 14 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Could friends become lovers?"
...those are the best kinds! lol
2007-12-06 11:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can friends become lovers? Sure! Happens all the time. That said, if the lover thing does not work out, 9 times out of 10 you lose the friendship, so careful!
That said, DO NOT become someone's friend with the sole purpose of hoping it will be more. That is a waste of your time, and it is a waste of the time of the other person. That is not what friendship is about, and that is a slow and inefficient way to start a serious relationship. I do not recommend that at all.
Finally, as far as your personal situation, be smart about this. In your specific case, he is giving you all the clues you need. He is not interested. You can do better.
Good luck!
2007-12-06 11:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know everyone is going to be saying yes. and i'm not saying no just to go against the grain. i've seen friends become lovers and it was an absolutely amazing thing. and i've seen friends become lovers and they completely ripped each other's hearts out and can't so much as stand to hear the other's name to this day. it really depends on the individuals. a friendship basis to a more in depth relationship can be an excellent place to start. just be sure that anything and everything can be talked about. otherwise it won't make a difference if you were friends before or not.
2007-12-06 11:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to become friends and then have a relationship. It's a better chance than having to have love with a complete stranger. So the answer to your question is yes, friends can become lovers and it works out better that way too!
2007-12-06 11:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ideally for me? acquaintances to fans. That way, this is greater interesting! fans to acquaintances frequently initiate with an infatuous courting, the place, as quickly as the chemistry/pastime dies (on favourite 3 years- D.N. prepare to all couples), your lover basically starts off to sense like a familial form of affection, this is neither good or undesirable. this is comforting, yet while one individual has a much better libido than the different, then this is complicated. relies upon on what each individual is lookin for. maximum choose the entire 9 yards, i think of.
2016-10-19 11:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now, and we were friends for one and a half years before that. And we still are friends.
2007-12-06 11:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Joanne F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationships that start from friend ships are usually the ones that last the longest
2007-12-06 11:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY IF YOU ARE WILLING TO SACRIFICE THE FRIENDSHIP IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP FAILS >=D! IM NOT JOKING AND ITS THE TRUTH... CUZ IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP FAILS.. YOU'LL HAVE A HARD TIME BEING FRIENDS WITH YOUR FRIEND AND WATCHING THEM GO OUT WITH OTHER PEOPLE... SO YEA.... IF YOU ARE WILLING TO MAKE THE SACRIFICE... GO RIGHT AHEAD... RUIN YOUR FRIENDS SHIP.... I DONT EVER DATE ANY FEMALE FRIENDS OF MINE EVEN IF THEY LIKE ME.. IT JUST NEVER WORKS OUT FOR ME D:<
2007-12-06 11:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by blackwingedangel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do .... become friends first... let him see who you are.. everyone is busy... but people can find time to do what they want....one is see how great you are... maybe he will change his mind.....
2007-12-06 11:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things happen.... if it's supposed to it will, if it's not it won't, if it doesn't someone will come along..
Don't look for love let it find you. Don't force it because it's not true that way.
2007-12-06 11:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋