i lost my virginity to him end of august. havn't seen him since. we talk not often though. for like 3 nights in a row he asked to hangout. we made plans... i was gonna go over his house. i told him i'd call before i came. i called him 3 times over the course of the day, IMed him once, but not like bugging him or anything just said "hey whats up". i'm trying so hard not to be desperate about it and acting like i dont care. but i do. and im really hurt. im not gonna tell him my feelings for him because i know every other gurl who has, hes fled from. anyways its been about 2 weeks since ive tried to get in touch with him at all. do you think i should trying calling/IMing him? please dont say GET AWAY FROM THIS LOSER. i know i should. but i dont want to, and am not going to give up. just give me tips ANYTHING... but mainly i just want to see him...
2007-12-06 10:48:01 · 11 answers · asked by dp4l69420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys do this because they crave variety. They love new stimuli and things that are different than what they're used to. Settling down with one female terrifies them because it means they'll miss out on that variety. I've seen guys pass up cool, hot chicks for "less-attractive" girls just because the less attractive girl is new. Your ex is at a stage in his life where he's just trying to get as many free samples as possible. He may never grow out of this stage; if he does, it will take a long time, perhaps until he's 30.
Sugar, I know you wanna see him. Maybe you will. But if you do, you gotta know that he's just gonna drift out of your life again. There's way to rid yourself of this pain you're in........but he's not the cure.
I think you'll get over him when you're ready. 'Cuz girls like variety too, and eventually the memories you're replaying in your head will be like a good movie that you've seen too many times. You'll seek out someone else.
In the meantime, let me tell you the #1 most attractive trait in a girl (or boy, for that matter). It is *being involved*. People who are involved in life are hard for others to resist because people naturally seek out stimuli. Even though, right now, I'm sure all you feel like doing is sitting around (and that's OK), when you start feeling the urge to go do something--participate in an activity/become an expert on something/explore one of your interests--do it! It might get your mind off Mr. Ex and it will also make you exponentially more attractive to guys you meet in the future.
Good lucks!
2007-12-06 11:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by YearoftheRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie he wants you to come over because he wants to get into your pants again. A guy that cares for you will not take your virginity and then pull a disappeaing act like that. You do need to stay away from him and find someone who will respect you and your feelings. I know it is a hard thing to do is just walk away but you have to understand he sounds like a USER and you don't need that in your life. Maybe one day he will mature and come to his senses but for now move on before you are in way too deep and end up pregnant or with a disease. His past history should tell you he can't commit. Let it go and enjoy life don't let someone use you because no one deserves that and sadly a lot of people are like that.
2007-12-06 18:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Brina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say dont tell me to "get away from this loser" when you know you should. Then you answered you're own question If you want to see him go find him dont sit around and wait. You dont have to contact him first
2007-12-06 18:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you should move on, why do you want tips to keep subjecting yourself to this jerk! There is someone else out there for you but you will never find him if your wasting time on this guy. It hurts and is scary, but once you do it, you'll be glad you did :)
2007-12-06 18:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but You need to leave him alone....And if he calls try your hardest not to give in. I know it's hard but if you haven't seen him since August I say give it up.
2007-12-06 18:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by LA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell you what you know you need to do.....hmm...
Umm, how about this:
Keep chasing him, it'll make your life miserable
I used to be a guy like this when I was in school, he'll change but only after he's out of college and even then he probably wont.
2007-12-06 18:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Phil M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you this, but he IS REALLY A JERK.
but I know you like him so here it goes:
You really need to talk to him, or else you'll never get his attention!
2007-12-06 18:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Normal? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds likka loser
move on
its easier said than done but try very hard too
2007-12-06 18:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Fballa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is a jerk a you want to get even , send him a registered letter says your pregnant. She how he responds to that.
2007-12-06 18:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by J S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost your virginity to a Jerk...Thats why you need to wait to your married.
2007-12-06 18:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Old School 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋