Could I still go to school and have fun with my husband and do all the things I always do? I am in the Air Force and if I have a baby I will have to stay in the service longer, if I have a child can I still have a life, I am not selfish but I want the truth from real moms.
2007-12-06 10:46:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My ex-husband was in the Navy when we had our 2 kids. It isn't the easiest lifestyle. In my opinion, your kids deserve to be around your family. If not they will all be missing out. I say wait, but that is just my opinion.
2007-12-06 12:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot only have "a life" but you can have a life full of love and joy with a child. A child never takes away from a relationship, if both the parents want the child, it adds something so special.
You will have to space your time and you will have to make sure that the baby is not looked after by another person, more times than you look after the baby.
You will be the mother and you will have the responsibility of being the main caretaker for that baby.
I have a question though. If you are in the Air Force, how can you be pregnant, have a baby, and still be in the Air force?
All I can say to you as a mother, is that being a mother is the most important job in the world. Children are our future and the love we can give them and the way we teach them, can influence the world future one way or another.
2007-12-06 11:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I agree with everyone else that children will take over your life, I also believe if you have a good support system, you can still have children and your dreams.
I took on 5 step kids when I was 20 years old.
I did not have a good support system and ended up being a full time mom. I didn't have family around who could watch the kids for me so I could get out for a little while, which would have been heaven.
their father was no help and after 11 years we divorced. the youngest child was 16 at the time and old enough to take care of herself.
By the time my daughter came along (many years later) I had a great support system. Not just family, but a wonderful woman who opened a day care and took care of my daughter so I could work and eventually go to college.
My daughter is 17 now and pregnant. she works part time at the day care she attended as a child.
Almost everyone we know has volunteered to help babysit whenever she needs it since she has to finish school.
The day care has already reserved a spot for the baby also.
Talk to your husband, look around you at what kind of support system you have, then make your decision.
Good luck
2007-12-06 11:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by gail s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and NO
Yes you will have a life just a differant kind of life. No more late nights at the club or staying out because you can. But you can still have friends and got out to movies. And there is always the things you can do with your child ( teach them to walk, ride, and enjoy life. First b-day, prom, graduation). As for how old you are you just need to mentally able to handle the stress and emotions that are kids. Hope this helps you out.
2007-12-06 10:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by crissypeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child is NOT a puppy that after you have shown it off, you tie up in the backyard and feed and water it once a day when you are tired of it.It is a 24-7 job hon.Get the career and "fun" out of the way first THEN dig in and be a full time mom.You can still have fun, but your child(ren) will need your attention.
2007-12-06 10:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had children young and while i love them to death sometime i really wish i would have lived life a little before i settled down also i would have gone to college first so that i could provide them with a better life instead of struggling so much. I could have enjoyed life a little more being a parent takes everything you have and leaves little for yourself so enjoy being young and free right now theres plenty of time to enjoy being a mom.
2007-12-06 11:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a life...but it will revolve around your child. You won't be able to just get up and go anytime you want to. If your in the service AND want to go to school, I would say wait, then after your done with school have a child so you can spend time with him or her. If your young, just sit back and enjoy it.
2007-12-06 10:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by MamaBear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, talk it over with him but travel first, either way see what's out there.
(and if you have no man, and want the baby still, email me! ;) lol.....)
2007-12-06 10:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow your dreams first. and then when you are settled have a kid they are your life when you have one.
2007-12-06 10:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋