My boyfriend is 14 his mum died n his dads an alcoholic n beats him up. I feel really helpless cos i dont know what to do to help. He told me not to tell anyone cos his dad threatened him about the police or anyone getting involved. I was at his house the other day (I dont think his dad knew i was there) and his dad pushed him against the wall and started punching him. I really dont know what to do to help him.
2007-12-06 10:15:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have to say that I went through similar as a teenager and the authorities have to be made aware of it.
Whether you tell the police or not is up to you, I would, but maybe direct him to CHILDLINE (0800 1111) for advice. I know he's 14 but they will help.
See here...
http://www.childline.org.uk/Everychildshouldknowournumber.asp
2007-12-06 10:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by shaun3937 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his Dad's an alcoholic, then his Dad needs to seek help to try and get to the root of his problems or else your boyfriend will never live in a stable environment as long as he's living at home.
No young person deserves to be in this situation. As hard as it might be for your boyfriend, he needs to tell someone, maybe another family member.
That way, not only will it give your boyfriend a chance to stay with someone else for a while, it may even start the ball rolling for his Dad to sort out his problems.
Best wishes.
2007-12-06 19:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should call the police because then his dad can go to counseling and will lose custody of his son. ANd next time ur there film a video to the police. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve being beat up- no one does. If your too scared just tell someone close to you like a parent or an uncle. A little voice makes a difrence.
2007-12-06 18:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by killerbird979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, I am so sorry.
His dad threatened him not to tell the police, but the best thing to do, is to call the police.
He should gather up some courage (you can help him too) and go over to the police's station and tell the police officer and ask him what to do. I know that this would be very hard to do, but I promise you that if he talks to someone it will be better in the end.
Good luck
2007-12-06 18:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God what a dreadful situation. You cannot call the police or social services but you should urge your boyfriend to find the strength to do that. Perhaps have an older person talk to him in a roundabout way , maybe your mum or dad or older brother/older friend....someone he respects.
If he doesn't get it sorted now he will carry it all his life probably being disfunctional in all his relationships in future ( personal knowledge )
Hope he will be ok
There is Childline too. It is confidential. Good advice
2007-12-06 18:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by MsCymru 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your local, county, social worker and discuss it with someone. You don't have to tell them his name, but if you don't it sounds as if his dad will really hurt him one day. If you really care for this boy, then you will do something. No man has the right to bully and hurt his child. His dad is an alcoholic and needs help himself, but if he doesn't want help, then you must do something to get this boy out of danger. I'm sorry that this has to fall on your shoulders, but you have heard his dad and you know this boy is in serious danger. He would be better off in a foster home than to continue to live in that bad of an environment. You must talk to your parents about the situation.
2007-12-06 18:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Albert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NSPCC. The local social services wont do **** all - i know i used to work for my local one! At 14 they see him as high risk low concern its not like being 5 years old at 14 you can walk!
Maybe talk to GP or connections or someone at school could help some schools now have Parent Supoort Advisers!
or a relative who could chat to dad or just allow him to crash on the sofa if dads drunk
or he could phone the local police and talk to the domestic violence unit they could put in place some strategies - somewhere to go when dads drunk or anger mgt or AA etc
good luck & lol
2007-12-06 18:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by lola_r_hamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell somebody!! If not the police then your school principal or even your own parents. Nobody deserves to live like that. Its child abuse.
An idea is is to tell your boyfriend to grab a few things while his dad is out. Make his way to your house or his aunt/uncle and tell somebody from there. Once he is out of harms way, where his father cant get him, his threats are empty.
Tell somebody before he does some serious harm to him
2007-12-07 12:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really doesn't want to get the Police involved then I suggest he gets a few of his biggest mates together and send them to see his Dad and threaten him that if he lays one more finger on his son they will visit him again, only next time they wont be so polite. If they can find his bottle of booze they might want to empty it over his head. That worked for someone I know.
2007-12-06 18:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, its time to hotline this scum. You can do so without leaving your name or his. Not doing it is as bad as the man who is abusing him. You could be found guilty for not helping someone, and yes there is a law that can cite you for it. Do it, go to the police, tell them what you told me. Let the police deal with it. Nobody should ever put up with abuse. Not out of fear, pain, nada. You are helping him by reporting his dad. His dad needs help. Be his hero and help him.
2007-12-06 18:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by cruisepuppy7452a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋