So yea. I'm really falling for this close friend of mine and have been since February. We've been close friends for about 3 years now.
I've actually come to the conclusion that I have to tell her, and what I actually need help with is what/how to go about this.
So if you were in my situation, what would you say, when would you say it? all that stuff. thanks.
2007-12-06 10:03:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will know the right time.You will have the right words.No one can tell you.Trust yourself.
2007-12-06 10:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, speaking from the "other side" i think u should tell her. i went through this and just to let u know, we will be married for 7 years in march. he loved me for a long time and i was just too naive to see it. it actually was a mutual friend that told me how he felt and after 2 1/2 years of just "hanging out" we started "making out" if u know what i mean. good luck. i say u never know until u try it. just tell her that u have feelings for her. that is all u have to do
2007-12-06 18:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by ChrissyG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just simply say look i know we've been friends for a while and that's great but i was kinda hoping we could step it up a notch and become a couple i have been thinking about it for awhile now and i really think this would work i don't wanna put any pressure on you so take as much time as you need then you can get back to me and no matter what your answer is we can and will always be friends......dude if she say no you gotta respect it k
2007-12-06 18:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should ask her out...make sure just the two of you...since you guys are close friends...this shouldnt be problem...but make sure you ask her out like a week before so she doesnt have any plans. It would be better if you ask her out on special occasion; such as: valentines, xmas or her b'day.
Just hang out and chill for awhile and get into the subject about her personal life, any bf, any interest in other guys? so on and so on.... if she says no bf or no interest then you should just say that you care for her alot and wants more...
i hope these helps and good luck!
2007-12-06 18:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by deliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a close friend who turned out to be in the same position as you are. Unfortunately, I didn't know about his feelings until I had started dating someone else. Had he let me know before hand I probably would have been with him right now!
I would suggest you let her know the next chance you get...you never know when it could be too late =/
2007-12-06 18:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her. If you are close friends you should just wait it out and try to just go with the flow. Trust me man if you go out of your way to tell her you "like" her you are digging yourself a dating grave. You are actually in a good spot especially if you don't tell her like that, because you can start flirting with her more and the like and let your relationship escalate from what it is.
2007-12-06 18:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw thats sweet. Well just tell her. Couldn't hurt. If you guys have been good friends for 3 years, something like this shouldn't ruin it. Hey, she might even feel the same way!
good luck =]]
2007-12-06 18:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me it does not work. Been there done that. after wards its like you just want turn back the clock. I could be wrong but if you want to go ahead, then invite ur friend to dinner and talk to her about it tell her how much you care about and wwould like to be in a relationship
2007-12-06 18:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the same thing happened to me a while back. I ended up playing the game truth with them. but you can just be hypothetical and ask what they would do if certain people(including you) liked them. and if they're really your friend then even if they dont like you back it wont matter! good luck!
2007-12-06 18:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her alone and intimate (almost close enough to kiss her) and say something like "Im having feelings for you that are more than just friends"If I am off base please tell me"
If she doesnt object to that, go on and kiss her
good luck. new love rocks
2007-12-06 18:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you just wrote here preferably alone with her. write down what you want to convey to her and look in over and over then tell her so or write it to her on a note or email or greeting card or virtual greeting card if you don't want to do it in person. good luck.
2007-12-06 18:16:29 · answer #11 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋