Does My Sister Have the Right to Be Angry?

Question

Our father has invited us on an expense-paid (by him) trip to Britain to visit relatives. He has invited my sister, her husband. and my wife and me.

Our relatives indicate it might not be feasible to house this large of a group, but could find room if there were three of us coming.

As it turns out, my wife is unable to go because of other obligations. I suggested to my sister that perhaps it would be better for just our Dad, her and I to go--thereby not only saving my father the expense, but also the expense of reserving a hotel or apartment for the 10-day duration of the land portion of the trip.

She is upset by my suggestion. She tells me that just because my wife cannot go, doesn't mean her husband should not be entitled to go.

Am I wrong to think she is behaving somewhat selfishly and unreasonably?

Thanks for your input. I appreciate. :-))

I should add that I discussed this matter with my father and was under the impression that he in re-thinking the offer, (and the expense) felt more comfortable with the idea of the three of us going - especially given the fact that it would be easier for our relatives to accomodate us, but he is fearful of appearing to "reneg" and upset my sister.

For my part, I am more than happy to pay my own way and pitch in, but I find my sister's attitude disconcerting and flippant.

Answer 1

I can see why your sister is upset. Your Dad invited all 4 of you. If he wants to withdraw his offer because of the expense then thats up to him, or he could ask for money towards it.

If your wife could have gone then you wouldn't have suggested it, and it wouldn't be an issue.

I can also see your point and it sounds like your father is regretting his decision. With hindsight, it looks like it would have been better if your Dad just invited the 2 of you.

The ultimate decision lies with your Dad now, if he decides your sister's husband can still go then respect the decision and try not to make them feel guilty.

Answer 2

She doesn't have the right to be angry after all it was only a suggestion if you told her he couldn't go it's different.. Family stuff is difficult and if this is the first time you have seen them in a long time it would make more sense for it just to be the close family. Explain to her your reasoning and if she still wants her husband to go - they should pay for the accomodation of the additioanl people not your father.

Answer 3

Hmmm, yes and no. I can see your angle, but maybe she really wants her husband to come and meet the folks. Compromise: you stay with your dad, and her and hubby can get a hotel room or something. If she really wants to go, a little expense like this should be no problem. Good luck Chief

Answer 4

I think all of this should have been discussed with your relatives before your father made the offer. However, I believe that your sister and husband should pay for their own lodging and you and your father should stay with your family.

Answer 5

Actually No its not right for her to be angry. I think she just wants everyone to go and she enjoys that and I think its getting lost in the family. I think you should let her come with her husband and you and your wife if she cahnges plans. If you think your dad is spending too much tell him thatyu will cover 4yourself. Good luck

Answer 6

for one, it seemed fine when your wife was going too. two, you're not the one paying for it so I don't think you have a right to have that kind of input. my answer is yes, I think your wrong. It would be different if your father had not asked her husband to go and she had just invited him along.

Answer 7

Maby she and her husband should pay the extra for lodgings while your there.. since the offer was made assuming you could stay for free with the reatives, ...your dad could still pay for the transportation since that was the original offer, give her the choice and let her decide..

Answer 8

Nicely explain to her that is has nothing to do with your wife. The trip will get off to an uncomfortable start if you inconvienence the family you are visiting.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i tink your dad would find the trip more family orientated if it were just the three of you, its a time to make happy memories not a time to be bickering, try to explain to ur sis that sometimes its good to be just a family when relatives are concerned, chances are her hubby mite get bored anyway if she spends too much time catching up with them, good luck anyway