My dad doesn't let me talk to my boyfriend.?

Question

Yes, I'm a male. He thinks this is "wrong"... so he forbids me to talk to him... nor can I text him. He uses the Bible as a justification and threatens me that if I talk to him, things will surely follow.

The only way that I can talk to him... is that if I supply my father with a good enough reason why he should allow me to.

Why should my dad let me talk to my boyfriend, whom I love very dearly? Can you give me some backup? Thank you so much!

I'm fifteen years old.
Ever since he told me that I cannot talk to him, I haven't... so I really haven't disobeyed him. I just want a good reason... something that can really WOW him and make him realize that my feelings are real.

And not talking to my boyfriend isn't slowing us down. We promised eachother that through all the hardships we're going through, we'll stick to eachother side by side, growing stronger and deeper in love.

And if you say I'm not in love.... you don't even KNOW.

Thank you.

Jeancommunicates:

I'm sorry... I'm not the kind of person that usually does this, but no, I have not, in any way shape or form, been touched by an older man.

I do, however, know that what I feel for him is truly real, because it has helped me get closer to God (I was once Satanic)... and he makes me feel things I cannot explain.

If you think my dad is right for taking away the very thing that makes me happy... and at the same time helps me hold a connection with God... then I don't know what to think?

I'm sorry... more details... haha.

My boyfriend lives two hours away from me.

I also made it clear to my father that I do not think about him, or any boy sexually.
Its not the object of love... but the emotion itself.

I'm sorry... more details... haha.

My boyfriend lives two hours away from me.

I also made it clear to my father that I do not think about him, or any boy sexually.
Its not the object of love... but the emotion itself.

Answer 1

Ask your dad if all the rules in the bible are right, and if you should follow all of them. Then show him the Open Letter To Dr Ruth.

You can find it at the link below (along with all the bible passages quoted) and I've copied it here for everyone to have a laugh (except christians of course, they'll find it too challenging).

Dear Dr. Laura,
Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind him that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate.
I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the specific laws and how to best follow them.
a) When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord (Lev 1:9). The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?
b) I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?
c) I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness (Lev 15:19-24). The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.
d) Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?
e) I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?
f) A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an Abomination (Lev 11:10), it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this?
g) Lev 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?
h) Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev 19:27. How should they die?
i) I know from Lev 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?
j) My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? (Lev 24:10-16) Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)
I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help.
Thank you again for reminding us that God's word is eternal and unchanging.
Your devoted disciple and adoring fan.

Answer 2

What makes you think that you are a homosexual?

Did an older homosexual get a hold of you? You kids are too young to be making such decisions. Sex is sex and it feels good regardless who it is done with. Your dad is trying to keep you from being perverted. Most homosexuals have had an older gay guy get ahold of them and make them believe that they are different. Your dad is a very smart man and your mind may already be too twisted, but if he can put more age into this situation you may realize you've made a bad choice.

Answer 3

You didn't mention his faith? What ya mean dearly? you can and probably are a passionate person! Nothing should be dominated by religion, especially of another persons, beliefs!- thoughts!""un""
He may again be using that because he does not know how to talk to you and uses that. When instead he may know something. Older people are not stupid!..ya know?''
Jesus was born so we could have free will. Free will to choose who we are! To be our own character. How you going to know if you do not have friends? Yaa, I love my friend dearly too. - it has hit. Words - you have to be careful of words.
Myself as a kid I read the Bible- it is to be interpreted to you personally- it is between you and Jesus!
Jesus is like brother- friend- and our Savior!
oh --jesus is going to get you won't work. neither cutting you off your friend. What can ya do? I had very limited friends. To much homework!
What else do yaa call him, i say girlfriend! My friend - she is a female?"",,
You only know your dad. I'd personally talk to him.

Answer 4

sarah, you are outwitted by his father. God doesnt make people gay, sin does. To answer the guys question, i say this. Honor your father. He may not give the best reasoning for his opinion, but I assure you he has your best interests in mind. if you dont like what the bible says, join the club. 3 billion other people cant handle it either. But if you can manage to see past yourself, you may find some good truths. Meanwhile, honor your father.

Answer 5

I think your Dad is controlling and you will be kept under strict rule until you can escape when you are 18. Then you will go wild with your new found freedom. Be careful. It happens to lots of kids that come from strict families. Tell your Dad that one! You need a little freedom at a time so you will learn your boundaries and how to handle freedom.

Answer 6

if you really want something in life then keep trying. Im a girl and my dad wouldnt let me talk to my bf for about 6 months and i kept trying, eventually they come round to the idea, there still not 100 per cent. Dont let anyone get in the way of love but keep trying. good luck xxx

Answer 7

Until you are an adult this is a fact of life, it may not be fair, nor do I say he's right, but he is your father and his rules are his rules. I know it's hard, but you have a choice to make, fight the system and deal with the conciquenses or give your dad time to come to terms with this, it's not easy on him, but he loves you and may eventually come to terms. Perhaps you should speak to a member of the cleargy, they may at least give you guidance. Good luck.

Answer 8

Your Dad is sparing you from getting hurt. Listen to your father, for he knows what's best for you. The Bible does talk about abomination and you may what to read up on that before getting involved in same sex relationship.

Answer 9

Tell your dad that nothing will happen to you if you talk to him, tell him I kno you think its wrong but I cant help how I am and I cannot change, you have to love me for how I am. Im not really sure what else you should say but good luck with it.

Answer 10

Because you love him!! you shouldnt let your father get in the way of your love. if he doesnt understand than just forget him. he cant tell you who you can love and who you cant love. The bible has nothing to do with this. i mean its not your fault. you sound like you really love him so i say just keep going and dont stop loving him just because of your dad. i hope this helps you!! Good luck!!