Why do some here speak of a Woman carrying a child like its a problem or an?

Question

annoyance??? A healthy woman carrying a baby to term is one of the easiest things in life to do// Maybe you can see that by all the people walking on this planet..

Is pregnancy so insignificant because some vlaue the sex act as having more merit than the life that might be created?

People love there spouse but most always love there children with more depth and commitment and put up with alot from children that they might never put up from in a spouse
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If some of the answers I have read here is any indication about the demise of the Family then I can see why as a nation we are going down the tubes fast.

What is more important preservation of the Traditional Family or what is trendy as the New 2007 Version of the Hip Slick and Cool Couple?

Answer 1

The "traditional" nuclear family is a myth. Most families in most cultures are extended families that include more than just two parents as an insular unit. People have always lived in extended groups with grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins in close proximity or even the same home. Most cultures raise kids in a community that acts as part of the family unit as well. This idea of a mom and dad living alone with a couple of babies is relatively new, and it doesn't work. All you have to do is look at the divorce rate to see that. Men leave.

No matter what promises or contracts they make, men in general cannot be counted on staying the 20 or so years it takes to rear a child, so we'd better start dealing with reality - women generally have primary custody, and primary responsibility for supporting their children. If they've isolated themselves with an abusive, neglectful or absent male, this leaves the woman with no support system. Our kids would be much better off if there were communities for women and children that could provide cooperative childcare as a group. Matrilineal kinship groups are much more stable, the people happier and the cultures usually have no war or extreme poverty. Your "traditional" families are rife with violence against women and children, incest, adultery, neglect, addiction and abandonment. I see nothing there worth preserving.

Carrying a child is dangerous. Women die in childbirth and pregnancy all the time. I had a perfectly healthy young cousin carrying a baby who came home from a check up with her doctor and died within the hour from toxemia. This was a girl in good shape, in an nuclear family with a nice husband and good health care. Things happen during a pregnancy that cannot be foreseen. The United States right now has the maternal and infant death rates of a third world country - we're far behind the rest of the industrialized world in caring for mothers and their infants.

To force a woman to risk her life is tantamount to slavery. The most basic human right is control over one's own body. No one but the individual woman herself has any business making decisions that affect her body. No one who has never had a utererus has any right registering an opinion at all. This is a woman's issue, and only women should be involved in the decision making process.

Some of us believe that sex is an end in itself, and that procreation should be a gift, not an obligation. Unwanted children are a burden on society - even if they're put up for adoption, they've been through a stressful gestation that can have life-long negative effects. Those kids are more likely to be abused and too many grow up neglected. Every child has a right to be wanted, so only people who really want to have kids should carry a pregnancy to term.

Do you know what the number one cause of death for pregnant women is? Murder. And that's usually connected with unwanted pregnancy.

It's not a matter of being hip, slick or cool. It's a matter of being responsible, humane and present. It's a matter of making kids a priority, not a punishment for having sex without the approval of Judeo-Christian morality police.

Answer 2

I read about that. Very interesting story. In my mind, I'd like to think I would have done the same thing this woman did. However I also think it's one of those situations where, I'm not 100% certain what I'd do unless I was actually IN the situation. If I was planning on being pregnant anyway, I can't imagine aborting. And seeing as how it was the wrong embryo, I don't think I'd consider it mine (regardless of brining it to term). Then again, once actually in that situation, who knows. I might decide I don't feel like waiting nine months and going through the labor of a baby that isn't even mine. *shrugs* But that sounds pretty selfish/cruel to me. And bringing the baby to term and keeping it, well, that is just selfish as well... it was the clinic's fault; why should the rightful parents lose that child to another couple just because the clinic messed up big time?

Answer 3

Ummmmm.......
Women also die in child birth every day. They also loose years off of their lives from the stress pregnancies put on their bodies. I'm not sure if you have ever had a child, but I have. It was VERY difficult, and I had it easy compared to many women. I can assure you, it is an expensive process and very taxing to the body. Unless you've had; stretch marks, 'roids, multiple daily vomits, forced bed rest resulting in the loss of a job, PAINFULLY SWOLLEN VULVA, a torn labia, gestational diabetes, jaundice, hemorrhaging, 22 hours of hard back labor, a C-section, or too black eyes from pushing, you need to simmer down.
My family is a sterling example of a loving, tight knit family unit. I love my baby girl, (love, love ,love), but I will never go through that torment again. You want to romanticize it? Fine. You live in your little dream world, Hon. But don't you dare get on here and judge another woman harshly for being realistic.

Answer 4

Well, pregnancy is not as easy on everyone. But I do agree that life should always be protected and that children are a blessing, not a problem.

The family needs to be preserved, however that is not a popular view with the mainstream media. All I can do is preserve my own family, which is one reason I continue to homeschool my kids.

"I homeschool because I've seen the village and I don't want it raising my kids." (I didn't make that up, saw it on a T-shirt).

Answer 5

Case and point. A healthy woman. Not all women are healthy enough -- physically, emotionally, or mentally -- to carry a baby to full term when they become pregnant.

Maybe they should have been more careful. But all people make mistakes. You can't say you've never acted recklessly or made a bad choice.

Answer 6

I beliebe that the Traditional family setting would better benefit children in the long run, but a lot of people cannot hold that version of family.

Answer 7

well, congratulations on having a secure and trouble free life, with a loving spouse and enough income too procreate as you please..
some women, tho perhaps physically healthy, are not so lucky as you. some women have abusive mates or are financially insecure or already have more kids than they can handle or have mental/emotional problems that pregnancy and motherhood would only serve to complicate further.
there are a myriad of personal reasons why women chose to terminate a pregnancy and sounds like a lot of those reasons are totally outside your scope of experience and therefore out of your scope of understanding.

Answer 8

Easy?

You do realize by nature "traditional" changes with the times, no? I can agree it's gone downhill with all the kids born out of wedlock now and more kids out of control. However, if you think we should go back 50 or 100 years, get a life.

Answer 9

Every womans experience with pregnancy is different. Just like we as individuals have different perceptions of a situation.
There is no such thing as a "traditional" family.

P.S. When speaking of people it is spelled their. Not there.

Answer 10

i haven't heard women speaking like that on here.
and i want to get pregnant, i have been trying for two years and it really gets me down as i think you don't know how lucky you are.
but you need to realize some people have really bad pregnancy's and not many years ago it was very likely you could die in childbirth,