My b/f of one year and I had a good relationship we made each other laugh We talked about everything including his ex who moved to Miami 2 years ago.
Everything was fine at first until one day I noticed the other side of his closet had womens clothers.. he said she left it behind because she orginally planned to go back in a year. He said they still talk but she changed her mind about moving back & wants him to move there but becuase of his job he wont. most of the stuff in his room was hers the TV-radio all her personal items exaxtly as she left them. He said he wont pack them he will leave them there until she comes and picks it up in Feb. he said he needed to re-register his truck but cant because title is in her name. he doesnt want to ask for it back because it would hurt her feelings. I feel like Im the dirty mistress so i ended it he sounded sad said I was wrong he likes being with me. Im tired of living in her shadow but my heart aches. What do I do?
2007-12-06 08:24:57 · 18 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would forget about him and move on (I know, easier said than done). But the fact is he dated you knowing full well his not quite ex might be coming back. He kept her things so obviously she was coming back there. Was he going to break up with you when she returned?? If not, why not send her things to her and be done with it?? And the fact that she wants him to move there..does she even know about you??
No woman should have to feel like she is second best in a relationship.
2007-12-06 08:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like there is anything to do, I think you made the right decision, no matter how great his ex was, or how long they had been together, or what plans they had made, she should have been out of his life more by the time you two go together, it sounds like he needs to let go and stop being an *** about it. If he was a real man he'd ditch her crap and send her stuff back asap, you only hold on to it when your not ready to let go, and thats sad. You weren't the dirty mistress, he just wasn't in it as much as you were. Its good that you left, you have to stick to your decisions now, no more excuses from him! I guess he just wasn't ready for you. Heart ache heals and if he's still not ready to let go of his ex from two years ago, you shouldn't put up with it!
2007-12-06 08:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by pazza_sez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You grow up, that's what you do. People have complicated lives--what did you think , it was going to be like Cinderella after the ball? If you can't so much as talk to him about this, then you don't deserve him and it's right that your heart should ache.
But IF you're just not telling us the whole story--if what it's all about really is that he's still stuck on the ex, then he's the loser and you're well rid of him.
Either way, it's a good thing it's over--unless one or both of you decides to change.
2007-12-06 08:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're able to desire to be. Ask the place in Florida he's transferring and the place she resides in Florida. If he is going to the comparable city or close then he is going for her i'm optimistic. If there over 2 hrs aside then he isn't going for her. additionally verify the city. a huge city like Miami, Jacksonville, Pensacola, Tallahassee, Tampa or Orlando, then he would desire to pass there and in no way see her. A small city could be diverse.
2016-12-30 11:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by avenia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart may ache, but you've already done the right thing. Time will heal it. And that's all you can do from here on.
And if he really misses you and wants to be with you and ONLY you then he will do what needs to be done and find you again.
2007-12-06 08:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have made the hard decision but the best one for your situation. Good Luck.....If he does want you back let him know in no uncertain terms that you will be the only woman in his life..He will have to let his ex go with all her belongings.
2007-12-06 08:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by scotdic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that you're tired of being in her shadow, and if you all are gonna be together, some things are gonna have to change. Run the list down to him. If he can't abide by it, then that's a decision you will have to make to deal with it or not.
2007-12-06 08:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know much about your relationship .
but it sounds like he may still have some sort of feelings for her....or some sort of hope .
doesnt mean he doesnt like you....or is keeping you as the sub .
i think he genuinely does like you & still has feelings for you .
i also think you did the right thing by breaking it off....itll give him time to think & recover w.out feeling much guilt .
theres still a chance for you and him afterwards .
you jus need to let him know seriosuly that he needs time to get his **** together . and tell him those axact words of your last few sentences .
2007-12-06 08:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing for you,now its time to heal yourself and move on when you are ready,do not let this kill your soul,there is someone for you that will Love,Honor and respect you,it will take time but it will happen.Good Luck
2007-12-06 08:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Accept it. You chose to become his 'BOTTOM BABE' when
you first got involved with him."
"It doesn't take long at all to 'run a check' on his name, social
security number, address, vehicles, property, and so forth to
see who is in control of what."
"You were SNEAKING AROUND in her shadow when your
relationship started."
"She can go to court and sue EVERY YEAR for whatever she
feels belongs to her."
"The less he is left with, the less you will want him."
"No matter how attractive he is to you."
2007-12-06 08:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋