I became a believer 6 months ago. Right after, a serie of very unpleasant incidents happened: my mother kicked me out of the house, I broke up with my bofriend after 7 years and I was expelled from school. How do you explain this?
2007-12-06 08:11:16 · 78 answers · asked by xxx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
‘If you want to be my disciples, says Jesus, ‘then pick up your cross and follow me.’ Life in Christ is more than one celebration after another. Sometimes, if we pray "thy will be done" and really mean it...then God is faithful to give us what HE thinks we need to have...not what we want.
If you ask me (I'm not your spiritual director...but I'll give it a shot...)
God wanted you to get out of the house and out on your own. Your boyfriend was a slug and dragging you down, and you needed to find another school.
2007-12-06 08:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is not because your a Christian, and it is not because God is punishing you if thats what your thinking, and yes part of it may be the devil testing you and your beliefs. It is so great that you became a believer, it is the best decision that you will ever make and just because all this stuff is happening does not mean that you should stop being a believer. No one really knows the answer to all the stuff that is going on or that happens in the world. Just pray to God and tell him that you are concerned and that you are worried or whatever you are feeling. I think that maybe talking to a pastor will help or read the bible. Everything in life happens for a reason, maybe God had your parents kick you out because they believe that you can stand on your own and they want to watch you grow and interact with the world, or maybe it was for a not good reason, but God says that everything happens for a reason and you cant assume that it is all bad reasons because you dont know, only God does. Maybe its your decisions that your making. Maybe your parents think that you are not making good decisions and they think that you need to get your head together, and same with the school thing, you dont just randomly get expelled from school, there is a reason and maybe it is your decisions. So all in all my suggestion to you is to pray about it and to go and talk to a pastor. Dont ever stop believing. I will be praying for you.
2007-12-06 08:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_and_peas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just that your life has changed directions which often results in a feeling of loss for a time but the place you end up will be better. Your boy friend may not have been a good choice for you, for example, because he was doing something you could not agree with if you broke up with him and he may be too wrapped up in himself if he broke up with you but the next time you get involved it may be with a better person. you may have been doing something not in your best interest if you were kicked out of school and out of your mother's house so re-examine your life, try to get re-instated at school or try another school, and in time you will find your life better. Life is about choices and I will give you a link that may help you but remember that what you see now as problems may be a change for the better in the long run. A wife who feels at a loss, for example, after leaving an abusive life feels a sense of loss but she can then go on to a better life, a better relationship that she could have had otherwise but for the changes in her life. Good Luck to you!!
2007-12-06 08:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off, there is a God, and Jesus is real, He is alive and He does care about you. To say more I have to assume to know God's purposes for your individual situation, and I don't. However I can list possibilities.
A. You live in a fallen world, becoming a Christian does not insulate you from every effect of this fallen world. Christians still lose jobs, they still experience the grief of a death in the family, they still have relatives who don't like them. In fact, often you see people in your life suddenly turn against you because of your faith. They see Jesus in you and if they hate Him, they'll hate you. Paul was imprisoned for His faith, Steven was stoned, every one of Jesus' disciples except for Judas and John were Martyred. We all know what happened to Judas, and John lived to be a ripe old age, ended up banished to a deserted island, and wrote the book of Revelation. None of them had cushy lives.
B. You sinned in some way. You made your mom mad by something you did, you broke the rules at school. While Jesus paid the price for our sins so God wouldn't judge us for them, there are still natural consequences for those sins. God isn't going to keep you from getting expelled if you ignore the school rules, He isn't going to make a mom unable to hear you being disrespectful or to see you being lazy, or whatever. If you run out in front of a train, you can't blame God if you end up in a wheelchair. We still face the results of our choices.
C. As for your boyfriend, unless he is a Christian too, you suddenly found that you were unequally yoked, and the situation wasn't comfortable for either of you anymore.
D. God is testing you to see if you'll keep trusting Him to know what is best. I know people facing bigger problems, who still hold on to Jesus. If you only trust God's sovereignty when things are easy, that's not faith. Faith is believing when you can't see how its going to work out.
E. Satan could be unleashing an attack to try to paralyze you in your faith. Satan would love to see you fall away, then even though he couldn't drag you into to hell, he can keep you from bringing anyone else to Christ.
Which one of those is it? Well I don't know, in fact it could be something I didn't think of. Just keep trusting God and obeying Him. If you did do something to get expelled and thrown out, then try to make it right. If the other people won't forgive you than move on knowing that God does and that He'll take care of you.
2007-12-06 10:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of several reasons. Some of them include:
1. It's unrelated to you becoming a Christian. For example, you might have been kicked out of school, because of something you did or didn't do. (Of course I don't know the circumstances - just a possibility.)
2. Satan doesn't like you and is trying to make you doubt.
3. Your faith is being tested.
4. You are going through a trial.
I can't remember who wrote it and brought it to my attention for sure, but I think it was Rick Warren. A pattern we see in the Bible is that great people went through a really rough time. Joseph was sold into slavery and spent years in prison. Moses was hiding out when God called him. David was hunted by Saul. We all know about Job. On and on it goes.
God used those times in people's lives. They came out of it stronger and more pure. They became mighty people for God.
2007-12-06 08:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by MikeM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ugh, I don't know. I think I stopped believing a few months back. I mean, I think that maybe you took things too seriously and you were probably always afraid to mess up and maybe everything felt wrong because you were afraid of being judged by God. I know that doesn't make too much sense, but I think you saw more negatives than positives and it messed you up. I feel sorry for you, I hope you get better.
2007-12-06 08:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to lie and act like I know the answer when I don't. But I can tell you this, God loves you and although things look really bad you need to keep trusting in Him. The devil loves to discourage new belivers and get them back off track. You read your Bible and anchoring your faith. Try reading places like in Genesis, the story of Joseph. There are a ton of passages of the Bible that deal with things like this.
I'm praying for you. that God will help you through this time in your life, and that He will give you comfort. May God bless and keep you.
2007-12-06 08:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus Freak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as tho' you had pre-existing problems. Im sorry your mom kicked you out. How old are you? you werent expelled for being the honor student, but Im not blaming you, I think it comes from an unhappy home life. you need Jesus and you can expect him to help you. how old are you? can you go to the church for help? maybe you should be in a loving christian home. I wish I could help. Go to the catholic churc h and tell them the problems your having. The lord is found in these envioroments that reach out to others.
2007-12-06 08:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a Christian or converting to any other religion is not a protective shield that will protect you from life, and the misery of it.
You broke up with your boyfriend! he was not right for you, and you will find your soul mate.
Your mom kicked you out! Did you asked her! Did you do anything that upset her! or, maybe she thought it was the time for the bird to leave the nest. It is hard at first to be independent, but you will survive, and rise above it all.
As for school! there is more than one you can attend.
Bottom line that is life. It doesn't always go as we wish.
2007-12-06 08:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Bravado Guru 5 · 12⤊ 0⤋
When you turn to God then you are for him and the world doesn't like that. You will have obstacles and struggles to get through. Hang in there-it will be worth while in the long run. You will probably find a better guy, a better school and reconcile with your mom eventually.
2007-12-06 08:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋