How do I deal with a sarcastic boyfriend at times?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years...he is 21, I am 19. Most of the time things are good between us but other times he can get on my nerves with his joking around and sarcastic comments. Then when I get mad at him for it, he asks me why I can't take a joke then gets all mad at me. I just got off the phone with him right now after the same thing happened and he is being a complete ****** (wouldn't tell me what he was doing and kept saying he was "smoking crack" (not literelly) when he was really selling an extra MP3 player he had...got all upset at me for wanting to know what he was doing...hung up on me..i called back, he was being mean) Ugh...I don't know if I should just brush him off at times or what....I try to tell him how I feel but he thinks I'm being too serious or dramatic...Can someone please tell me why guys do this crap and how I can deal with it better? Deep down I love him and things are great but at times I just get so upset when I'm not in the joking mood.

Answer 1

sounds like he was with his friends and feeding his ego... he was showing his friends that he dominates the relationship...i guess let him have his fun or dont

if youre tired of it, dont put up with it... find a guy that wont be like that. sounds like he needs to grow up and know when you are not in the joking mood... takes a little more maturing on his part

Answer 2

you can't change people....not really. I'd say try to talk to him about what bothers you and what you need...which, it sounds like you already have....and he's making no attempt to work with you on this.

so, you can move on and enjoy meeting new people...and maybe meet a guy whose personality meshes better with your own....and have some fun being young and carefree.

Or, if this is something you're sure you want to pursue and work at then you need to learn to accept who he is and how he jokes around and find ways to deal with it in your own way. Meanwhile, he's wanting you to change by telling you that you're too dramatic and serious. So ask yourself if you're up for trying to be easier going and less critical of him.

Answer 3

5 years and he's acting all immature like that! Dump him
Ok thats kind of harsh...let me think....talk to him about it tell him you find the sarcasm a bit much at times......when he does it again put your foot down and leave him stew DO NOT ring him back he is the one dat should be sorry ! Ok so hold your ground girl!! be strong :D gud luk coz u love him I hope things get better ...if they dont ...there are plenty more nice men in the sea that you will fall in love with down the line :D

Answer 4

It's probably almost impossible for him to know when you're not in the mood, all the time. You need to tell him what you don't like about a characteristic of his, in this case, sarcasm. (Instead of just getting mad at each other)

If you both want this relationship to work out, then you need to understand each other. He probably doesn't realize what he is doing specifically to get on your nerves. That's what you need to tell him. Communication is key.

As for why he does it... It's just a small tiny part of who he is. If he knows it's not a characteristic that you are particularly fond of, he will probably think about what he's saying a bit more.

Good luck
- Andrew

Answer 5

This rudeness needs to end. in the experience that your boyfriend is unwilling to speak up approximately this difficulty along with his brother, then i'd refuse to spend any time in any respect in that domicile. i'm no longer suggesting some style of disagreement between the brothers. i'm questioning that as quickly as his brother speaks to you in a condescending way magnificent in front of your boyfriend, he would desire to speak up on your protection. case in point, whilst the brother would not assist you place meat on the grill you have have been given been greater valuable off to pass on your boyfriend and tell him HE replaced into now in value of the grilling. With finished kinfolk help, this guy shouldn't advance any time quickly. he's a bully.

Answer 6

Take it or leave it, you know what to do. If you can deal with his sarcastic humor, then keep going on. But if you feel he is annyoing you most of the times, why should you keep that relationship up? It seems to be that he feels disturbed when you ask so much, think about it.

Answer 7

man
kudos for you for sticking it out that long
I would of ended a lot earlier
you must really love him

you have to lighten up sometimes
let your hair loose!
take a joke!
have fun!

he has to learn when not to joke around
you think after five years he would have learned that

Answer 8

i do not think that when god created men, he meant for us to understand them. i can tell u however, that i have been with my husband for 4 years, and there are times when he makes me feel bad. i sometimes, just let things go, and then there are times, when i feel that communication is a necessary tool. unfortunately, sometimes my husband has said some cruel things, however, there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me, i do not try to change him, i try to have patience. even though you may be right in a situation, sometimes it is better to just let it go.

Answer 9

First harden yourself and dont take it seriously, think of him as someone with a bad habit but someone who you really like or loive.
Next ignore it come back with a response that either changes the subject or agrees with him -- if you agree with him all the time thats the ultimate sarcasm is agreeing with him constantly,
you are right
yeah they are
I agree with you

Answer 10

if you cant tell if he is being sarcastic by now, or what mood he is in then you obviously dont really know him as well as you think. but you should just brush off sarcasm.