Join the club, join the club. As I near the very end of my twenties, I feel exactly the same.
It's so weird how we all can think of ourselves as being unique with unique problems and situations, but it's like you repeated exactly the way I feel verbatim. Most of my friends and family are all doing the same, getting married, having kids, climbing the corporate ladder, buying houses, etc. But, I don't really want the same things they want, just like it sounds like you don't either. At the same time, it's hard not to feel like you're "falling behind," when your the odd man/woman out.
I don't have the answers, but I think a key thing is learning not to freak out about keeping up with your friends. Start trying to figure out what you want out of life, regardless of what others want. Try to meet people who like the same things. Think about what will make you happy, as opposed to the conventional answers. Take some risks. Change your routines, maybe the place you live.
2007-12-06 08:15:26
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answered by Underground Man 6
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Let me share something with you. I used to think to myself.... when I have this one thing or when I'm able to do this or that my life will be perfect and I'll truly be happy. But life isn't like that. You can reach all of those goals or acquire all of those things and still not be satisfied. The best moments in life have come from the simple little day to day stuff....a friend inviting me out to lunch or doing a page in my art journal and the satisfaction that comes with it. Life is short. We can find joy in the simple things if we're just open to it.
P.S. I used to feel the same way you do about others whose lives seemed more 'on track' than mine. If you dig a little deeper you will realize things aren't always what they seem. Some of the people that I envied the most and thought had near perfect lives turned out to be very unhappy people.
2007-12-06 08:35:52
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answered by seashell 6
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I say open up to your closest friends, I would guess that they are all feeling in a similar way to you.
I am starting to believe that Life is about change, and we are always presented with the opportunity to move into different experiences.
Some people are quite happy to plod along, they find happiness in ritual and tradition. Others require change to keep life interesting. It sounds like you are one of these people.
I say chase your passion. You might not ever find it, but at least, you will have gone on a great adventure seeking it.
2007-12-06 08:12:37
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answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7
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First of all--all your friends who tell you the wonders of being a mother and rearing children--just remember this--misery loves company. Depends on what field you are in, some maximize financially early--and cap out--others have much greater long term income potential. And all these that are getting houses--will probably become foreclosures if the mortgage rates move too much. Appearences are decieving--just be happy with you.
2007-12-06 08:17:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Inspiration comes in the shower. Don't push it too hard, it goes away with pressure. It can be hard to see everyone around you getting what they want, but think about if its what they really want. In a few years are they going to regret it? How much debt are they in for the house and car? How much does the new spouse really love them? Are they going to get a divorce because they jumped too quickly into marriage, and what about the kids then? Everything has it's timing, baby.
2007-12-06 08:13:49
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answered by Taylor-Benedict 1
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Your friends think you have it all together, and you think they do. Maybe they're actually going through some of the same thing you are. Talk to them and find out.
That said, i don't think what you're going through is all that unusual. It isn't uncommon for people to train and study for a career, only to discover they don't actually enjoy it. Usually, they make a move into sales when that happens. Good luck.
2007-12-06 08:14:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't get down on yourself, what you're experiencing is actually quite common for people your age. Believe it or not, your friends probably look at your life and envy it for different reasons. Sounds like you're doing all the right things to get past this bump in the road.
2007-12-06 08:13:34
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answered by Cheryl S 5
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You're dissatisfied. You're making the mistake of wanting what you do not have. Seriously, for being 25, you seem to have a lot of good things going on. You're 25, have fun.
Follow your bliss and the rest will follow.
2007-12-06 08:21:13
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answered by Shawn B 7
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Yes, I understand completely. Boredom
That's why I am looking for a new job and going to school. I feel this anxiety like I need to go go go but my feet are stuck in the mud.
2007-12-06 08:13:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Join the club. I'm starting my life over at 30.
2007-12-06 08:11:46
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answered by mental1018 3
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